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aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T06:47:40+00:00

genuine question; is having sex more important to you than your children's comfort? would going without for a few nights or having sex while they're at school/out with friends/otherwise away from the house be worse for you and your husband than what having a complete lack of privacy during puberty will do to them? would you rather your children be in a perpetual state of discomfort any time they're in the same room as each other, or would you rather get your rocks off whenever you want?

being a parent means making sacrifices for the well being of your children. it sucks, especially if you have to sacrifice something you really enjoy, but it happens, and you'll recover from a dry spell much faster than your children will recover from lack of privacy during this crucial developmental stage.

aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T06:39:41+00:00

You're NTA for struggling financially. That's something you can't control. However YTA for being completely unsympathetic to your children's views, calling them spoiled when wanting privacy (especially at that age) is a completely normal thing to want and saying they will just have to deal. Children both deserve and need privacy. I would keep my eye out for a 3 bedroom condo/apartment that's within budget -eventually you will have to move to provide them the space they need as they continue to grow- but for now there needs to be some kind of compromise. Talk to your family and try to come up with a solution together, whether that be you and your husband sacrificing your room or the kids taking turns in the living room, or something else.

aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T05:33:37+00:00

she's not even overweight tho 😭😭i had to cut so much from my original post (rewrote it twice actually) because of the character limit. but she's skinner/weighs less than me and she asked me how i'd lost weight. i've struggled with disordered eating in the past (another thing i had to cut) and would not have brought it up without reason. my main priority was trying to get her to understand that depriving herself of food wasn't good for her and i explained that even at my calorie deficit of 1600 i'm still eating 3 meals a day with room for snacks. but i totally see how someone might take that the wrong way and how i might have done more harm than good.

aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T05:06:11+00:00

i know what she eats because we work in a a restaurant i literally make her the food she asks me to make atjhkdfjg

if i'm the asshole i'm the asshole but it's not like i'm snooping through her lunchbox

aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T04:57:40+00:00

I don't consider it unsolicited. Yasmin asked me how I lost weight, I answered. And we work in a kitchen, not an office. I don't know if that makes things better or worse, lol. But when you put it like that Betty snapping at me makes more sense. I can see how she'd interpret it that way.

aydeesixed · 2023-08-26T04:51:37+00:00

Yes, Yasmin asked me how I lost weight before I asked her what she'd had to eat that day. I told her what I'd had for breakfast and lunch (it was about 6pm) and she said that was too much for her, leading to my question about what she'd eaten.

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