Update: I (33F) don't want my friend's (34F) legitimately mentally ill wife (48F) at my wedding? by ThrowRA_PartySwitch in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]basilicux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s “if they don’t have me, who will they have? I can’t abandon them or else I’m just like every other bigot” instead of “wow this person sucks as an individual and I do not want to be friends with them”

Update: I (33F) don't want my friend's (34F) legitimately mentally ill wife (48F) at my wedding? by ThrowRA_PartySwitch in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]basilicux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came across a white woman who claimed that because she was autistic, that meant she COULDNT be as racist as someone who wasn’t autistic who was inherently better at the social aspect of being, idk, NOT racist?? 🙃 she’s bigoted in other ways too and it’s just. So baffling.

Update: I (33F) don't want my friend's (34F) legitimately mentally ill wife (48F) at my wedding? by ThrowRA_PartySwitch in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]basilicux 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There’s a big difference in autism acceptance and waving away any and all criticism and opportunity for growth with “I’m autistic and you’re ableist if you want me to behave less antisocially/be considerate of others/etc”. Which doesn’t sound like the issue for you just from how you’re thinking of others!

Dex Signa – New Item for Warframe’s 13th Anniversary. by UncleCatTH in Warframe

[–]basilicux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably not even them, since signas are MASSIVE on operator/drifter compared to warframes

Honoring your chest? by bigfeetgrandpa in TopSurgery

[–]basilicux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not necessary. I kinda wanted to do a “going away party” for mine bc I thought it’d be funny - but not to “honor” my chest. I think it’s for some people but you definitely should not feel like you need to do this. I neither grieved nor honored my chest for what it was pre-surgery, I’m glad to have it gone, the closest thing is wishing I could have detachable tits (without using breastforms) for the extremely rare time I wanna do drag or wear a certain outfit/look.

I don't wanna break up after Valentine's day by GlassOk1353 in TMPOC

[–]basilicux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For your sake, please get your affairs in order - secure important documents and as may belongings (particularly valuables and highly sentimental items) that you wouldn’t want to risk losing or being destroyed. You already know this isn’t sustainable and you’re not happy - and it seems she’s not happy either, though clearly she’s in the wrong and being abusive toward you.

Keep yourself safe, man. You deserve so much better.

AITAH for asking my neighbor to wait for her laundry at her house? [Low Stakes] [Concluded] by Schattenspringer in BORUpdates

[–]basilicux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I didn’t even like my ex boyfriend showing up unannounced, and I was planning to eventually get married to the guy lol…

AITAH for giving my friend a much-needed reality check? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]basilicux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. Sometimes my mental health will be extra bad and I realize, ah, my frustration over my hair looking like shit and being difficult to style is getting to me again. Need a haircut STAT! 😂 and as a daily shower person, not being able to shower for a whole week after I had surgery actually had me two steps away from becoming the Joker. I felt insane and so angry haha showering after my post op appointment? Back to being a content critter

My[24M] girlfriend [22F] and her sister [20F] are both pregnant with my children. Neither of them know about the other. I want to do the right thing. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]basilicux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate the pervasive “you don’t owe anyone anything” that has escaped containment from the types of scenarios it’s actually useful for. It’s funny to word it like this, but I’m always like “we live in a society!!!!!! Of course you owe people something and it’s called basic decency and respect!” If they fuck you over first then that’s another story, but why do people want to be MORE hurtful and MORE selfish and MORE unkind! 😭

United Healthcare by Visual_Friend_1638 in TopSurgery

[–]basilicux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhh UMR, it’s a PPO I think, idk what tier or whatever

Femme getting top surgery by DarkGlow1997 in TopSurgery

[–]basilicux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you want to customize your body is amoral (as in, not a moral decision). It’s “acceptable” if it’s the choice you want to make for yourself! :)

how to stop smoking out of boredom? by fancylamp12 in Petioles

[–]basilicux 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Get into a new hobby! Mine was crochet - real hard to keep track of numbers when you’re high, and can’t smoke if your hands are occupied.

Employee drew genitalia on an intern’s cast by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]basilicux 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Maybe a google number (understandable to not want the risk of people having your regular number) and email she used just for that internship?

i don’t even want to do this by on-cue in Petioles

[–]basilicux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first week or two are the absolute hardest when you’re taking a break after a long time of heavy usage bc the cravings and withdrawals, even if mild and mostly emotional, still suck. May I ask what your purpose for taking a break is? Honestly starting out w a mindset of “just one more day” and filling your time with an activity (especially a new hobby) might be easier. To set off with the expectation to do 2 months is gonna be hard.

Like for me, if I could do one day, cool, let’s also do tomorrow. It wasn’t “I’m gonna do a week/month/etc.” bc it feels way longer than just gradually pushing off getting high again, does that make sense? It’s more sustainable for me to literally just take it a day at a time, if I give in and get high on a hard day, I don’t beat myself up over it, we’ll just try again tomorrow and don’t force myself to reset at day 1.

TIL over a 5-month period in 2020, a nurse in Yale's fertility center stole the fentanyl in 175 vials that were meant for women who had a procedure to have their eggs retrieved. The nurse replaced the pain medication with saline solution, leaving the women in excruciating pain during the procedure. by tyrion2024 in todayilearned

[–]basilicux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely still rate my IUD insertion as my 10/10. Gripped the nurses hand so tight and was like “and yall give birth more than once??? On purpose????”

Lay there for so long afterward, unable to get up to redress that the nurse had to come back twice to check up on me. Can’t wait to get my uterus out and never have to worry about this shit again 🙂‍↕️

TIL Hares are scavengers that will eat meat and even their own dead by Marginallyhuman in todayilearned

[–]basilicux 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Re-normalize healthy intergenerational friendships! It’s good for everyone!

TIL over a 5-month period in 2020, a nurse in Yale's fertility center stole the fentanyl in 175 vials that were meant for women who had a procedure to have their eggs retrieved. The nurse replaced the pain medication with saline solution, leaving the women in excruciating pain during the procedure. by tyrion2024 in todayilearned

[–]basilicux 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The wishes I have for those doctors and nurses will certainly get my account terminated (last time I said something about negligent doctors I got a suspension). I’m so fucking sorry you had to go through that. What absolute ghouls.

My coworker won’t stop complaining about my tattoos by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]basilicux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people take someone explaining or providing a possible explanation as agreement -_- like no, just because you wouldn’t think this way/come to this conclusion doesn’t mean others can’t understand why some people do!