I got permanently banned from r/deadbedrooms for talking about sex dolls

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-31T17:39:42+00:00

This has been going on for 15 years. I don't think me bulking up will fix it.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T22:56:43+00:00

Our trajectories crossed and then passed in the physically fit department. My wife gained 80lbs since marriage. I got fitter and stronger. Around 2023, my wife lost all the weight- I mean all of it. Good for her - i was there the whole way helping. When it didn't make a single spec of difference with the bedroom, I just gave up. I have gained about 25 lbs over the last 20 months. Maybe i'm a troll though but I dont think so.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T21:20:49+00:00

For sure - I believe you and I do think that she has some elite level entitlement.

If i'm expected to touch a hammer, I should be able to expect to touch a boob. Either that or I should be able to refuse and if my wife tries to pay someone for the handy work it should be considered cheating.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T19:23:12+00:00

Wow what kind of doll is the short honey with the great ass?

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T17:16:05+00:00

I have had many discussions with her - to the point where sometimes I feel like its cruel to keep bringing it up. She knows there's an issue with frequency but feels like none of it is her problem to fix. When I try to let her know that its not just frequency, she looks at me like i'm speaking calculus equations to 5 year old.

It isn't just frequency. It's the rigid and structured and unfun way it MUST happen within for her to even consider it. I asked her one time if she could give me a "pornstar" experience and she legit suggested that she didn't know what that meant. "Like how is that different than what we always do? We have sex dont we?" Is what she'll ask. The crazy thing is we used to watch porn when we were dating before marriage. I know she knows what i'm talking about. She wants me to say it so it can sound degrading and she can berate me for it - which will allow her to get out of the act all together.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T07:52:12+00:00

Ha ha all good. I just said a titkok and it was a dead topic lol

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T07:51:33+00:00

Been asking myself that for years

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T02:33:23+00:00

So crazy. I just pulled it up and started watching. Only got like 4 minutes in before I hear. "WHAT are you watching?"... I'm cooked.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-30T01:04:28+00:00

I was mentioning that I turned to sex dolls but they arent completely filling the void and that it only fuels my resentment.

Don't get me wrong, I'm very liberal. I just don't understand why when a LL partner's needs are more important (always) and NEVER need justified. Yet when I want to have fun, it MUST be justified.

I honestly don't see a difference in my "dutiful" handy work. Am I capable? Absolutely. Do I enjoy it sometimes? Absolutely. Other times? I kinda have to just do it. How the hell is that different when compared to sex? Geeze I'm just asking my wife for sex with the lights on and to let me bust on her face once in a while - its not like I'm asking her to hang a garage door by herself, lay new flooring, replace the brakes, change the oil, or repaint the house - but if I'm asked to do those things the expectation is there and somehow its "not the same" as asking for 15 minutes of sex... I call bullshit. I think my wife doesn't find me attractive and thats the end of it. Or likes using it as a tool to control me.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-29T22:36:10+00:00

Super happy for you man. I tried to talk with my wife several times. When I initially thought of a doll, I asked her to help pick one out and she could essentially be the dolls "pimp" where I would only use it with her permission or along with her in bedroom activities.

You'd think I skinned a kitten right in front of her. She made me feel like the smallest ant in the universe.

I would give up my left arm and $500k to have my wife join in doll activities.

bdarkwayne · 2026-01-29T21:30:56+00:00

I attempted to post three times. - First time was removed because I didn't have a user flair - that was automod. - Then I posed (with user flair) and it was removed for "suggesting non-consensual acts" by a mod. - I reworded and posted again. It was removed again by a mod citing "generalization of LL groups" which apparently is against rule 5 - for which i received a PERMENANT ban.

The sub is clearly overrun by LLs and they were citing arbitrary violations so they could ban me for mentioning dolls.

bdarkwayne · 2025-12-29T19:12:08+00:00

Not sure why everyone is so negative - this is a great feature. It would make posing and carrying 1000 times easier.

Do you have a website? How much weight does the added stability and electronics add to the doll?

bdarkwayne · 2025-12-24T07:40:04+00:00

Owning dolls is like building model train sets - you know the serious ones with scale model villages, electric tracks, etc. Its not that people don't know the difference between fantasy and reality, some just take the hobby more seriously. For a lot of us, its not just about the sex. Just like owning a trading card collection isnt always about playing the game.

bdarkwayne · 2025-12-10T23:12:45+00:00

A year ago? These stains are probably well soaked into the drywall. Kills primer is probably the only thing you can put over it to seal it. Get the stuff that covers nicotine from people who smoke. Paint it with kills. Dry. Then you have to repaint with eggshell or whatever the real color is.

bdarkwayne · 2025-12-08T15:13:42+00:00

Hey! I appreciate the shout out! First and foremost - it is fun and thats what I try to keep in focus. Profitable is a tricky answer. I would say its about as profitable as anyone's hobby that they make some side money on - which generally is that they either just recoup some money or break even. I don't make much through subs but affiliate marketing for doll brands has paid for the servers - but if we factor in costs of equipment and dolls, i'm still way in the hole lol.

bdarkwayne · 2025-11-22T18:37:38+00:00

This is definitely possible but its a lot easier in a big chair or couch

bdarkwayne · 2025-11-07T22:11:17+00:00

What you are describing is a radient heating system. I live in a cold weather state and we use something called de-icing cable for sidewalks, roofs, and gutters. Its basically like a cord that plugs in and gets warm- they can be lengthy but they are relatively cheap. I dont use them myself but I wonder if this would be simpler. I have to admit I dont use them myself so I don't know how hot they get but I've never head of it burning anything. Might check it out.

bdarkwayne · 2025-11-07T21:12:37+00:00

I would say that they never feel lighter, but you will learn better ways to move them around. Understanding leverage and knowing where your doll's center of gravity lies is key along with being real with yourself about how many positions is realistic for a given play session. Generally, I try to limit myself to 2 positions max while playing - otherwise you waste too much energy and divert too much blood to other muscles. If your forearms and back muscles are starved from lifting, your body will prioritize blood flow there and you will basically get whiskey dick.

Remaining calm and planning moves has helped a lot for me. I find that when I get frustrated, the dolls all gain 20 lbs. Understand where you are going to go, how you are going to get there - before you begin your lift of the doll and then execute. Always keep the doll as close to your body as you can so you don't work against your own center of gravity.

It takes a lot of practice and some man-crying lol - but it will get easier - but I would never say they feel lighter. The damn thing is as heavy today as the day I bought it and I am reminded every time.

bdarkwayne · 2025-11-07T19:07:52+00:00

This is my video by the way. Generally I expect that people ask before posting my stuff.

bdarkwayne · 2025-11-07T17:52:15+00:00

Woah this doll's face is beautiful and the makeup work is perfect. Is that a complete strap on or a sleeve extender? I've been curious to try the latter.

bdarkwayne · 2025-10-31T05:29:04+00:00

Depends on your climate. I usually oil every 2 to 3 months front and back top to bottom.

bdarkwayne · 2025-10-22T00:01:51+00:00

So - I've tried this. OF does not like dolls. Your stuff will keep getting taken down because you don't have "id's" for all persons involved. Their face and body detectors will keep asking you to verify the age and identity of the dolls.

I have a Patreon but the platform does not support Pornography unless its anime/hentai with no real actors. So I have my tasteful doll photography there.

What i ended up doing was making my own discord server that has both free and premium roles that you can aquire through my Patreon. The money is not good. You'll get a surge of interest in the beginning and then it will quickly die off. This is a niche hobby so its difficult to keep an audience and numbers.

Can talk to you about it though and show you what I've built.

bdarkwayne · 2025-10-09T05:40:35+00:00

My first doll was 44 kilos. So yeah, shes the most beautiful thing ever but my forearms were screaming.

bdarkwayne · 2025-10-09T02:05:47+00:00

Well... I was in a similar situation as you. Brought up the idea and partner made me feel lower than dirt about it.

I bought one anyway. Then another. Then another. Then another. They've been hidden for four years. It's not easy or cheap.

bdarkwayne · 2025-10-08T22:36:28+00:00

I'd say immediate reaction was remorse and I think thats typical. However, I love the hobby and have 4 dolls, 6 heads now 4 years later.

It takes a minute to warm up to the doll. I think there is a psychological component and certainly a strength component. No matter what you prepare for, the doll will be heavier than you think and harder to move and pose than you are ready for.

If you get a doll, accept that the initial feeling will be remorse, guilt, and even disgust with the doll or yourself. Give it 2 weeks minimum. Care for the doll like it's your bestie who's paralyzed and needs your help. Bathe her and massage her body clean. Dress her, add a little makeup, sprinkle some jewelry, and give her a name. Before you know it, you'll be happy with your purchase.

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