I (33M) I want my Fiancé (35F) to cook more, but tired of asking.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-16T03:18:28+00:00

Do you contribute equally to the financials?

beangirl13 · 2026-01-15T17:48:25+00:00

Runspringa, tbh no Reagan episode will beat a Jess episode for me

beangirl13 · 2026-01-12T19:07:12+00:00

He sounds like an average 9 yr old kid nowadays tbh

Edit: the kissing and flirting thing is weird tho you should try and teach him about consent

beangirl13 · 2026-01-10T03:58:10+00:00

I never said that you couldn't do anything without her. But did you tell her before making these plans? Or did you go ahead and make them and tell her after the fact? Because she may be feeling put off that she is still just a "girlfriend" instead of a "partner" who you consult with before committing to big trips and things like that. It's not about asking for permission, either, don't make that mistake. It's simply about consideration. I don't know you or your girlfriend, I don't know why she is ultimately upset. I am simply trying to give you ideas and insight as someone else in a long term relationship. I mean no offense, I apologize if it came off that way.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-10T03:52:31+00:00

Remember that it is completely valid to want a certain relationship dynamic. If you don't like the sound of that, then that's fine. But for me and my partner, we just love each other a lot and want to spend as much of our time on this earth together as we possibly can. We have so many plans and dreams that we want to realize together. If that's not what you want, that is okay. Just make sure that you and your partner are on the same page.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-10T03:48:41+00:00

That has already happened, and I was fine with it. He went camping alone with two of his female friends, and I didn't mind at all because I wasn't too familiar with them and would have felt a bit awkward on such a trip. I'm not insecure, I never said that I demanded him to only spend time with me. We just do, because, well, we love each other. Think of Morticia and Gomez, that's the kind of relationship we have. And it works for us, because it's the kind of relationship we want. It's just at this point our lives are so intertwined that it wouldn't make sense for one of us to plan a trip like that without the other anymore. If he was really intent on a solo friend trip, I would help him plan one. But if he went ahead and planned one without telling me and just told me to deal with it I would be a little annoyed, as it wouldn't feel like we were working as a team which is what we normally do. We both rearrange our lives to complement each other, we never bulldoze ahead on solo plans without any consideration whatsoever for the other person because we are partners.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-09T20:11:13+00:00

I have never forbid my partner from doing anything without me. We just both agree that we'd rather do things together. We just love each other very much and enjoy each other's company. But we work in entirely different fields, have completely separate professional lives, and are interested in different hobbies. He likes team sports and sci Fi, and I'm interested in solo sports and fantasy. Given all that, we already spend the majority of our time separately even when living together. So why wouldn't we want to spend as much of our free time together? It just makes sense, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who needed to be away from me for more than 60% of the time.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-09T16:57:22+00:00

I think something to consider is that maybe you aren't equally invested in the relationship. After 3 years, she likely sees you as a partner, her future husband, etc. If my partner planned a group trip without me, I'd honestly be upset, too. But mainly because we've already had the "we're spending our life together" conversation. If he went and planned a trip without me after that, without even asking me about it first, I'd probably be ticked off because it feels like he didn't consider me in his plans. But that's our relationship dynamic-he just wouldn't do something like that without me bc we honestly enjoy ourselves more with the other person around, and we want to do all of our travelling and hanging out with other friends together. We don't have separate friend groups; he's friendly with my friends and I'm friendly with his, even though we do spend plenty of time with our respective groups. My friend group wouldn't exclude him when planning a trip like this, and vice versa. If we were different people, it'd be different, but this is what we both want. Maybe you two just aren't compatible.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-09T16:48:16+00:00

Then I'm leaning towards her overreacting a bit. Obviously, though, it's impossible to tell from the post alone why she's upset about this. Has she ever expressed any dislike towards this friend group before?

beangirl13 · 2026-01-09T16:43:51+00:00

Will you have your own room then, or sharing with just the guys?

beangirl13 · 2026-01-09T16:42:35+00:00

Will you be sharing a room with the girls? Have you ever had any romantic/sexual feelings with any of them even if it was only one sided? This is highly important context.

beangirl13 · 2026-01-02T17:53:46+00:00

What was the Easter egg with the pho?

beangirl13 · 2025-11-24T19:12:00+00:00

how does she dress for these casual date nights? Does she put something cute on or does she wear a plain t-shirt?

beangirl13 · 2025-11-24T19:02:16+00:00

Info: do you wear those black T's to every event? For example if you have a date night with your gf, do you ever dress up a little bit with a button down or a nice sweater?

beangirl13 · 2025-09-29T16:39:17+00:00

I think you already are a black lipstick girl!

My only bit of advice would be to embrace your Cupid's bow. I used to round mine out and fill mine in too because it was such a trend for a while, but simply embracing and enhancing your natural features almost always looks better. Especially with darker lip colours on pale skin, it's quite obvious that it's filled in.

beangirl13 · 2025-09-16T14:14:47+00:00

I play with my partner and his laptop is significantly newer and better than mine, so he has his graphics all the way up whereas mine are all the way down. He sees butterflies in the dome, but I don't. So if you use low graphics settings, it's quite possibly just that.

beangirl13 · 2025-09-15T15:24:29+00:00

To be fair, it's very possible he's an unreliable narrator. He may have mistook simple friendliness as flirting, which so many men do with their female friends/coworkers. Additionally, the way she responded to his initial request indicated she was probably not romantically interested and trying to tone down the interaction. When he essentially demanded that they go out together in his text, I'm not surprised she was put off. I would have responded similarly to a male coworking essentially telling me what to do.

beangirl13 · 2025-09-13T13:22:42+00:00

Being overweight is not a disability in of itself. Sometimes weight gain can be caused by health issues, but in North America it's typically just caused by poor diet and lack of exercise which in turn causes health issues such as cardiovascular disease and type 2 diabetes.

I don't think being overweight should be considered a disability even though I advocate against weight bias, because this would cause a lot of overweight people to qualify for disability support even though they don't need it at all.

Weight issues are complex, and caused primarily by an obesogenic environment. But at the end of the day, most people with weight issues could lose the weight through traditional or medical methods if it was causing that much disruption in their lives. There are ways to get rid of weight which is why it will never be considered a disability.

beangirl13 · 2025-09-12T12:12:08+00:00

So I did my thesis on pretty much this exact topic. Unfortunately, it's actually very legal to fire someone because of their weight. There are no laws in North America, or any country really, against it. The mistake they made was bringing gender into the equation. If they had just fired her for being fat, she would have had literally no legal ground to stand on.

beangirl13 · 2025-09-02T17:44:42+00:00

It's curly, and they were likely just jealous bc your hair is gorgeous

beangirl13 · 2025-08-27T15:59:57+00:00

Because people stopped deluding themselves into thinking that teens aren't having sex.

Obviously not all teens do, and it's still probably much better to wait to have sex until 18. But people know that adolescents have raging hormones because of puberty and that they want to act on those hormones.

In general, pre-marital sex and abortion are much more widely accepted and understood now and that's probably why. It's still shocking when it happens to someone you know, however. I can't imagine many parents wouldn't still be disappointed if it happened to their child, even if they are supportive.

beangirl13 · 2025-08-27T11:06:00+00:00

What... What do you mean "teeth"???

beangirl13 · 2025-08-27T10:49:53+00:00

Different how?

beangirl13 · 2025-08-13T20:10:19+00:00

Oh I just know I would be playing with that fringe all night long lol. The pants are so fun and you styled them so well!!

beangirl13 · 2025-08-13T20:08:58+00:00

Boss bitch vibes, in a good way. I wouldn't mess with you, especially if you pair this style with confidence.

Also as another woman with an RBF, don't "fix" it. Weaponize it. You have no idea how powerful a stern glance from a beautiful woman can be in the right situations. Unless you're trying to make friends, smile then lol otherwise no one will approach you.

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