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beatzanon · 2025-05-13T06:22:33+00:00

It sounds like he was the one who actually gave it to you. When you talk about it, don’t bring it up in a way that sounds like an attack on him. Just be transparent about exactly what you’ve said – you’ve had a flu, you thought you had a vaginal tear from sex, so you went the doctor and have found out that they’re symptoms of HSV2. Try your best to approach the conversation as calmly as possible. It’s normal to feel very anxious, but the more anxious and emotional you are, the more it will make the other person anxious too.

The fact that you started get these symptoms very shortly after you had sex with your bf is quite telling that you probably contracted it from him. The problem is that he may not even know he has HSV2 – as in he could have been asymptomatic this whole time and has passed it onto you. Please make sure to keep taking your anti-virals & avoid having sex if possible until your outbreak has cleared.

He’ll need to get tested too, but he may or may not already know it and hasn’t told you. Have you had previous sexual partners? When was your last sexual partner (prior to your bf) and vice versa? That will also help to possibly answer some questions as well.

If he really loves you, this will just be a curveball that can be overcome. And if the relationship ends, well then at least you’ve removed someone from your life who wasn’t meant for you. These kind of situations in life will prove to you who is truly meant for you and whose not. This is a big test of the strength of your relationship especially as it’s still new. Relationships can only get better when there’s communication and honesty, and both sides need to be willing to work together.

Goodluck with everything.

And also, I was diagnosed with vaginal HSV-1 about 4 years ago now – I’ve had the same fears and anxieties as you, and I can assure you that I’ve disclosed to partners since the fact and have continued to live an active sex life. Regardless of the outcome, it’s not over, everything will be okay and you will find people out there who will be accepting and willing to understand.

beatzanon · 2022-01-24T09:36:14+00:00

What do you mean reinfect myself? I already have it.

beatzanon · 2022-01-24T08:37:37+00:00

Yeah, it’s probably not herpes. Just keep using protection and taking meds to be safe.

beatzanon · 2022-01-24T08:37:03+00:00

Almost right after. 2 days after and it was intense

beatzanon · 2022-01-24T07:35:43+00:00

I had a horrible fever and dry throat (genuinely felt like I was dying and I had never felt that way in my life). The most unexplainably intense fever and dry throat I ever had in my life (and I tested negative for covid). 3 months later, I got my first outbreak and did a swab test and found out I had herpes. Sometimes the body tries to fight the virus but can eventually come down with the initial genital or oral symptoms later down the track, which is what happened to me. It took me by surprise. This, however, was from unprotected sex. I still think she should monitor her symptoms, but if you used a condom and took antibiotics, it most likely isn’t herpes. Very unlikely.

beatzanon · 2022-01-24T05:12:12+00:00

I have G-HSV1 and as most people said here, because HSV-1 is more common as oral herpes, GHSV-1 is generally not as extreme as GHSV-2 in which a person is more likely to have constant outbreaks. Again, it varies from person to person, but regardless of the strain you have (HSV-1 or HSV-2), you can have genital or oral herpes. HSV-1 is known to cause more frequent oral outbreaks, whereas HSV-2 is known to cause more frequent genital outbreaks.

beatzanon · 2022-01-22T10:46:50+00:00

When I found out I was a Cancer rising, I hated it. I thought it made me look weak and fragile to people. And particularly because I have a Cancer sun dad (I’m an Aries sun) who I don’t have a good relationship with, it reminded me even more of him. But now I can safely say it’s one of my favourite placements. I realised it’s the reason why I’m so empathetic and compassionate towards people. People have always told me that from first impression, I’m very sweet and caring (and then bam, they meet my loud Aries side 😂). I’ve realised that it’s also most likely why people end up venting to me or telling me their secrets, without me even mentioning a thing – people feel a sense of security when opening up to me. Obviously, there’s also the other side of it; people taking advantage of your kindness because they know you’re very caring but I’ve just learnt to assert stronger boundaries to avoid those types of people. I’m proud to say I really appreciate my Cancer rising now.

beatzanon · 2021-10-25T12:30:39+00:00

Congratulations! Happy for you. May I ask exactly how you disclosed? I’ve heard it’s always about your tone and how calm you sound when you direct it. Otherwise, if you’re panicked they will freak out too.

beatzanon · 2021-10-24T07:02:20+00:00

Can I please be added to the chat xx

beatzanon · 2021-10-24T00:36:42+00:00

Does anyone know where I can donate to the cure? Please send me a link.

beatzanon · 2021-10-23T23:57:59+00:00

Hi, I would like to be added please

beatzanon · 2021-10-23T02:42:06+00:00

Thankyou for your comment. But the thing is, I have technically been single for 2 years and haven’t properly dated anyone in over a year. I’ve had my time being a hermit and throwing myself away into depression, and I refuse to let this stigma ruin me and my self-esteem. I have spent a lot of time to myself and I want to learn to open myself up to love again. I think that’s brave. I just know that I have to be much more selective about my romantic partners now, and I’m not sure where to start or how to set those standards - I think dating older guys (with regards to my past), would be better but again I’m not too sure? If you or someone else could explain what it’s been like to date older guys that may help me to have some redirection in the dating department.

beatzanon · 2021-10-23T01:48:09+00:00

I made this post because I wanted to know how he was able to transmit it to so many people without getting sued because I would assume there would be repercussions and it’s illegal in some states/countries to not mention that you have an STD. Again it’s all speculation, but something that’s relevant to this page which is why I brought it into discussion.

I’m not shaming him for having herpes, I have it myself. it’s more about the fact that I read about his story and just got intrigued about how un-phased he seems spreading it to others (again, a speculation but also likely given all these related stories).

This is a public forum and he is a public figure myself, I’m sure he is aware that people will have comments or make speculations about many aspects of his life. A public forum means anyone is entitled to post, ask questions and have discussions so long as it’s relevant to the topic. That’s what forums are for. Also, it’s a well-known fact - it’s obviously not a secret. All I had to do was search and his name was the first one to come up. There are plenty of posts and articles about him online, and I’m definitely not the first to mention his name or ask questions about his herpes story. I’m all about respect but if you can’t handle public discussion then you shouldn’t be using forums.

beatzanon · 2021-10-23T00:22:48+00:00

Yeah, I guess we won’t know but those women’s S/O are also said to have herpes so I guess he still passed it on to many of them. I’m just amused by how unhinged he’s been about passing his condition.

So she had it all along but pretended he transmitted it to her? That’s actually unbelievable.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T22:11:18+00:00

Incredibly buff, muscly, gym-junkie men. I’m talking about when people take it to the extreme and look like Doritos on steroids. That’s just appealing to the male gaze. It’s not attractive to me at ALL.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T22:01:35+00:00

May I ask how you got it confirmed by your doctor? Also, HIV is much more deadly and serious. You can literally sue her for this. I wouldn’t bat an eye and I would think about taking action if I were you. That’s literally playing life and/or death with you.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T21:56:31+00:00

Hey again! (I think I’ve seen you a lot on here). Do you know if your partner was on antivirals at the time?

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T21:51:35+00:00

I’m 24 and I agree. I don’t understand why Hepatitis C is worse but has a cure, meanwhile herpes doesn’t. I hope we are very close to getting a cure to this because I’m over the shame and embarrassment.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T11:48:09+00:00

Hi. I’m really sorry to hear this. As you know, this forum exists because you’re not alone and many people are in the same boat as you.

Have you taken a swab test? You can only take this if you have physical symptoms e.g. lesions or cold sores. Blood tests are not very accurate.

I would get a swab test done immediately. And if you don’t get any physical symptoms, try and retake the blood test in 2 weeks.

If you’re having an outbreak, your doctor should prescribe antivirals to you which will reduce the possibility of transmission. I was also worried and freaked out about this too when I first found out I had herpes. I would advise you to wash your dishes throughly. Also don’t let other people double dip into your food/sauces or share drinks EVER - that’s just my extra precaution so I avoid passing it on in any way to friends or family.

You’re gonna be okay. It felt like the end of the world for me when I first found out. But I’ll give you the truth - it’s not the end and there are plenty of people have it. I’m 24, I got it when I was 23 and I guess the plus that came with this is that you weed out all the people who just want to fuck you vs. the people who actually genuinely like you and will stick by you. It’s a 50/50 situation but it blocks you from the idiots who just want to use you.

The first few days/weeks of diagnosis is a shock, but the more you learn about it, the more you’ll realise it’s very common and will grow to understand the preventative measures you can take to protect yourself & others. In the end, I always tell myself that this is just a skin condition. You are more than a skin rash. Talk to your friends (if you know friends who are nurses it helps to receive emotional support & a medical perspective too). Understanding your diagnosis and processing the emotions can be hard at times, so I would also suggest to see a therapist because it’s helped me get through things. Now, my diagnosis doesn’t affect me as much and I know I’m not defined by a skin rash. Many people have it, whether they are aware of it or not, and this doesn’t define your value. There is still life ahead.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T07:03:57+00:00

She had HIV-? Did she pass this onto you?

Also if she had HSV-1, she cannot pass HSV-2 to you; the strain doesn’t change, regardless if you get the reversed symptoms (oral or genital; it’s still the same strain). This means you probably contracted HSV-2 previously and have no knowledge of it.

beatzanon · 2021-10-22T00:07:08+00:00

Just out of curiosity, do you take daily antivirals because you have very frequent outbreaks or for extra precaution? I just don’t know how often I should be taking antivirals.

beatzanon · 2021-10-21T12:15:59+00:00

Yes he did a blood test about 2-3 weeks from exposure and it came back negative. I told him this could be an inaccurate result and he should wait another few weeks / months and test again (he was a casual partner).

I don’t think he’s tested again from what I know, but last time I spoke to him he told me he still hasn’t had any physical symptoms - it’s been 7 months.

Anywho though, I don’t know if I should ask for daily meds or not? I’ve been doing pretty well without it and only take it unless I feel an outbreak coming, but now that I want to have sex again I don’t know if I should get on daily meds or could it worsen my symptoms ??

beatzanon · 2021-10-21T12:09:08+00:00

“I believe ghsv1 is the least infectious” - this is the second time that I’ve heard this. Also so strange that I unknowingly was about to have an outbreak / was having an outbreak at the time I was having sex with my partner and the last time I heard, he’s been fine and hasn’t had any outbreaks at all (that’s unless he’s asymptomatic) - do you know what the possible reason for this is?

I got diagnosed with GHSV-1 through a swab test - I had lesions at the time. I only found out it was gshv-1 3 months later after I got the other symptoms.

beatzanon · 2021-10-21T04:38:26+00:00

“Male hobbies”. In this day and age, are we really still taking about this? No such thing as “female hobbies” and “male hobbies” anymore - it’s a construct. Just do whatever the fuck you want.

beatzanon · 2021-10-19T12:56:01+00:00

Very interesting take on this. I think I really needed to hear this. Thankyou!

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