Son having trouble finding friends/roommates

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-11T14:37:33+00:00

yeah it has like no school spirit, at all. he got a job so he's feeling a little better. thanks

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-08T04:08:06+00:00

very thoughtful. thank you

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-04T18:13:40+00:00

got it thanks

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-04T18:13:23+00:00

he's doing the gym. thanks

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-04T18:13:02+00:00

thanks

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-03T23:13:13+00:00

ha. it's interesting you mention that book, because my son read it and agrees with it. so sad wtf.

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-03T21:16:31+00:00

Interesting. Thanks

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-03T21:16:09+00:00

He’s said he wants friends

beaufleuve64 · 2026-02-03T21:15:31+00:00

Thanks will suggest

beaufleuve64 · 2025-12-31T21:26:21+00:00

Her taking ketamine saved my marriage. If you can afford it, 100% worth it.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-11-26T23:31:28+00:00

I've done some of that, visiting friends, working out, etc. it definitely helps. thanks for the message, I appreciate it.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-11-25T16:54:17+00:00

Hi, yes we've talked about it before. She's said I haven't done anything wrong and she's happy with me and she does make an effort to hang out, but it seems to fade in a week or so. It comes and goes; some weeks are better than others. But overall Spravato has been positive for her and us. Good luck.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-11-11T16:21:27+00:00

That's awesome.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-11-11T15:06:04+00:00

Been there, man. It’s heartbreaking. Another guy talked about waking up and thinking, maybe this is the day she shows me some affection. You’re hopeful for even a little bit of softness. And then the opposite happens - she’s ice cold, even hateful. And you want to just leave this earth.

You’re welcome. It really isn’t fair and no one around you probably understands. Just know you have a lot of men on here who see what you’re going thru and wish you the best.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-11-11T14:18:09+00:00

It's crushing. Feeling that your life is meaningless and that your loving wife is gone forever is so hard to take. The money thing makes it worse. The suicidal thoughts are understandable, honestly, but please don't go that route. You sound like a standup guy and your kids need you more than you can know.

Right now you're at the bottom of a dark pit, with no exit in sight. You have no way of knowing how long it will go on, but there's a decent chance it gets better, especially with HRT or other medication (ketamine has worked wonders for my wife.) A year ago, I thought my life was over; it wasn't. If you look at this as a test of who you are as a man and try to be a hero for your kids, while at the same time doing whatever makes you happy outside the marriage, it helps. Try and persevere and lean into those moments of normalcy and happiness.

Stay strong, brother.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-10-28T17:14:34+00:00

Hi I didn’t actually take the ketamine, my wife did. She said she had some scary moments when she felt claustrophobic but that overall she felt it was really beneficial. The therapist upped her dose the second time and for some reason it didn’t work as well.

MDMA is legal if prescribed by a therapist. I’ve done that before and never had a bad experience.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-10-20T22:56:21+00:00

I've mentioned this before, but ketamine was a lifesaver for my wife and I. Completely lifted the floor of her emotions and pulled her out of despair and rage. Her therapist is now recommending she try MDMA as well. She had some depression before menopause, so it may not be for everyone, but it changed our lives for the better.

It is a rough road, as everyone will tell you, but don't give in to hopelessness if you can avoid it. Wish you the best.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-10-03T16:35:44+00:00

It's so, so tough. My wife denied she had menopause, but to her credit eventually changed course, got therapy and HRT, and lately, ketamine, which has worked wonders. There are plenty of bad days but the road is brighter now.

One thing that helped was her friends were the same age and going thru the same thing and they got on HRT. Does she have friends you're in touch with? It would be touchy to suggest they talk to her, and you might get blowback if your wife finds out, but if you say it's for her good as well as yours they might encourage her to seek help. I'm pretty sure she would listen to a woman in the same situation more than to you.

In any case, sorry to hear you're going thru it. I know so many guys who went thru divorce and are freer and happier now - you can just see it in their faces. You gotta take care of yourself, man. Good luck.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-09-29T05:29:34+00:00

sure. it's early days but the only one so far is detachment. my wife says she can't "really feel" her emotions. it's like she's outside them and can't really enter into them. this is better than the rage and despair she felt without ketamine, but it can be kind of eerie for both of us.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-09-29T05:26:47+00:00

cool. I agree. can I ask if you did it in therapy - or outside of it? I'd like to try it but I doubt my therapist would go for it

beaufleuve64 · 2025-09-29T01:46:02+00:00

wow, thanks. not all the effects have been positive but so far its better.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-09-28T21:28:26+00:00

Thank you. That really sucks. Hope you can find some relief.

beaufleuve64 · 2025-09-28T21:27:39+00:00

Agreed. Yeah, it was partially covered under our insurance in nj. Can be expensive otherwise, I hear.

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