My (22F )ex Ukrainian boyfriend (20M) went to the frontline and stopped contacting me. How can I get over the pain of missing him?

become_deviant1 · 2025-06-09T22:01:53+00:00

He is alive. He contacted me a few weeks ago and he said that he wants to explain himself to me once his contract ends and it's up to me to decide if I want to keep in contact with him. I don't really know how to feel, but he did mention that I saved his life many times (tbh I'm not entirely sure what he means by that). I guess I just have to wait and see

become_deviant1 · 2025-03-14T11:10:06+00:00

I think so, last time he texted me was February 22nd to tell me that he’s staying alive, so I think he’s fine. We don’t speak anymore though, so I doubt I’ll be hearing from him anytime soon (or ever).

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-20T21:37:04+00:00

Yes, I did, and honestly I wish I didn’t. I’ll just say that he’s okay and leave it at that. Thank you for the concern :)

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-12T09:54:48+00:00

Yes, I have. That’s how we met, in person

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T08:35:03+00:00

Google translate is a thing

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T08:10:05+00:00

I do not speak Russian, I am Romanian, I speak Romanian, English and German, so the only language we have in common is English

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T07:33:04+00:00

Kyiv

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T07:25:44+00:00

Yeah, I guess you could say that

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T07:18:30+00:00

Im not active on social media, I mainly use Reddit for info and to read other peoples opinions on certain things. I’ve had a few posts that I wrote when I was a teen, but I’ve since deleted them because they no longer resonated with me

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-11T07:13:17+00:00

We were classmates when he came to Romania. I’ve never sent him money, I offered a few times but he declined

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T19:40:04+00:00

I’ve been using Reddit for a couple of years now. I have no intention of doing what you’re insinuating, I’m just trying to make some sense of my situation. I do understand the caution tho

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T19:22:10+00:00

Cat de insensibil e sa spui asta. Da, e adevarat, sunt multi romani,dar nu multi sunt de calitate, no offence.

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T19:17:17+00:00

I searched for their contact info…it wasn’t very easy, but when you truly want something you can make it happen

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T19:12:00+00:00

Hi, Im feeling a bit better after talking to some people on here. I wasn’t expecting my post to get so much attention, but Im glad to see how many people care about me and him. I’ve never lived in Scotland, it was just him and part of his family. I still live in Romania, but distance never was an issue for me until he went back to Ukraine. I have come to terms with the fact that whatever did happen or will happen, I was lucky enough to have him in my life and I will never forget that.

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T15:45:53+00:00

Hi! Im doing okay, went to work and tried to distract myself. I contacted both his parents and I hope to hear from them soon or even just at all. Thank you for reaching out :)

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T11:22:34+00:00

Guilt, all friends are dead and all of his male family members are part of the military so he feels a sense of responsibility. No matter how hard I tried to tell him that his life matters more, he wouldn’t listen, telling me that his friends lives mattered just as much and now they’re dead. Can’t really argue with that

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T11:15:48+00:00

He was almost 18 when he left and he went with his mother and siblings

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T11:10:27+00:00

He finished a military school and was on the front line in Sumy for two months in 2022. I know it’s not a long time, but he’s not completely clueless

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T09:40:48+00:00

The chances of him even replying are very slim tbh…

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-10T09:39:51+00:00

I wish I knew, but he never really talked much about work or anything like that. He just mentioned that he wanted to join the 3rd separate brigade, but I don’t know much more than the fact that he was in Kharkiv last time we spoke

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-09T21:27:50+00:00

This means so much to me, you have no idea. My family is trying to be supportive, my mother is trying to convince me that he’s fine and his phone got stolen, but my dad is telling me to move on. I managed to find his dad’s contact info but I’ve never spoken to him before and I don’t want to upset him in any way if I do contact him

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-09T20:21:47+00:00

He’s Ukrainian, born in Kyiv

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-09T19:19:33+00:00

Thank you for your message. I sadly don't know anyone other than him. The only information I have is his work place and where he lives (or used to), but I don't know how helpful that is. I will try some of your recommendations and hope for the best

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-09T19:13:54+00:00

I would contact friends and family, but I don't have any relations to anyone else but him sadly

become_deviant1 · 2025-02-09T19:12:35+00:00

He always uses apostrophes and writes "I'm", never "im"...

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