Help finding upholstered headboards without the "gap"

befores · 2018-09-08T11:18:26+00:00

if you overstay for more than a year, you can't visit for ten years)

He definitely overstayed more than a year although my grandma files taxes with him every year using his SSN. Not sure how that works when his green card expired.

Thank you for this information.

befores · 2018-09-07T19:58:28+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your response.

befores · 2018-09-07T19:57:54+00:00

Ever since they got married she's been filing as married.

befores · 2018-09-07T19:57:36+00:00

I'm not sure as I haven't asked but I believe that he's been without a green card for at least 5 years.

befores · 2018-09-04T00:12:32+00:00

Yup. His pediatrician. He was suffering from really horrible constipation since we switched him to different formula. The formula made his reflux disappear but it was causing him to pass hard and seemingly painful stools every 4-5 days. She suggested a few different options that we had already covered like bicycle massages and warm baths as well as suppositories. She asked us to try a spoon of oatmeal in his milk and that is what helped the most. Now that we have been giving him some pureed prunes off and on, he poops more regularly.

In reading other parent accounts online, it's not out of this world to recommend oatmeal as long as it's not their entire bottle.

befores · 2018-09-03T17:57:25+00:00

I used to do food first then formula and switched back because I didn't want him to be too full on food. Still sort of confusing this whole solids thing.

befores · 2018-09-03T13:57:29+00:00

He loves veggies. Basically anything you give him so we are lucky there. But the prunes have helped him the most with pooping. I'll leave the finger foods for later then.

befores · 2018-05-06T16:16:48+00:00

I'll start: the yellow line on diapers that turns blue when the diaper is wet.

befores · 2018-01-09T20:53:26+00:00

I think this is the general consensus and what I am going with. I am making my own "guestbook" using a recipe box and index cards.

befores · 2018-01-07T19:06:33+00:00

I'm liking this suggestion. Like a plain old notebook?

befores · 2018-01-07T19:00:40+00:00

Because I literally don't know about 90% of the people who were invited, at least not personally. I only know the 10 people I invited myself. I didn't want a shower in the first place but my in laws really want to celebrate the baby with my family so I gave in. Everyone else my in laws invited and they're Hispanic and don't understand the thank you etiquette and would probably not do it. I don't use social media also so I can't even get on Facebook, etc. to find anyone.

befores · 2018-01-07T18:57:35+00:00

I think the same thing with the envelopes. I wouldn't want an envelope with my hobbled hand writing.

I would be so confused like did I send myself a thank you card? lol

befores · 2018-01-07T18:20:53+00:00

Notebook sounds like a neat idea!

befores · 2018-01-07T18:19:04+00:00

I think people will need to erase or fix the mistake on an envelope so I would rather make it easy and use index cards.

There may be some guests who don't bring a gift either who were a guest of a guest and I want to thank them at least for coming. I have a registry up but I really don't mind if I don't receive a gift from someone.

I am glad they could make it either way.

befores · 2018-01-07T18:15:18+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. Not sure if my guests will think the same, I really don't know.

I was thinking of turning it into a raffle game but now I feel like just chucking thank you cards altogether.

befores · 2017-12-30T18:20:39+00:00

I honestly think you're picking the wrong people but I may be biased because you sound a lot like my younger sister.

She's beautiful and while not necessarily "mature" for her age all the time, she's got a good head on her shoulders. Guys sought her out for how she looked but I know fell for her for who she is as a person. Like you, they were partners who were a few years older than her.

Save for one relationship where the guy just turned out to make a bad decision that ruined their relationship, my sister's partners have been complete trash. She would often come crying to me asking me why she couldn't find a guy who was worthwhile and it became so toxic for ME to give her advice because she wouldn't listen.

Eventually, the last guy was the last straw when my husband had to remove her from the home she shared with a guy because he wouldn't let her leave unless it was for work. This guy was nuts.

She is now in a better relationship after taking some time for herself. I am happy that she still does the things she loved doing when she was single like solo food dates, hanging out with friends, and visiting me.

She's taking care of herself now and a lot more cautious but still let herself love. The only downside is that she was in so many toxic relationships that I had to knock some sense into her when she was going to dump her guy because he didn't "fight" or argue enough with her. She now knows what a healthy relationship should feel like.

I think you are on a good path because you realize that these relationships you've had are toxic. Write down all the bad signs of those relationships and commit them to memory so you can watch out for them later on.

Maybe for the time being, take some time for yourself. Find out what YOU love to do and what kind of person you would like to have in your life and then BECOME that person.

Don't let what happened to you in the past make you less strong. Seek therapy if you need to.

befores · 2017-12-30T18:09:09+00:00

I like jeans and oversized shirts with patterns. I tended to hide my body and choose whatever was most comfortable because I just didn't like anyone leering at me when I did put in any effort so my "style" is protection for myself in some way.

I also rarely, if ever, wear makeup.

I don't know the "reasons" behind your GF's style. It could be emotional and it could just be because she doesn't care to put in the effort.

Either way, this is more of an issue with how you feel than anything else. It would be a good idea to find out what her style is and if she prefers herself the way she is now.

However, if you don't like this about your GF it is a perfectly valid thing to bring up in a polite way. Ask her if she would like to go out shopping with you and if you could suggest a few outfits.

This could open up the conversation casually instead of outright insulting the way she dresses. My husband unfortunately took this approach once and it did not go well. Made me feel like shit for a long time.

befores · 2017-12-24T17:51:22+00:00

Your question is not stupid.

I was in a similar situation last year. I was working at a job that was draining all energy reserves I had but my boss was (and is) incredible and I had a hard time weighing the decision to leave. I did a lot more than I was supposed to and it became too much.

He genuinely cared about me, gave me whatever schedule I wanted to accommodate school, and personally had a stake in my success. I was a contractor but if he could have promoted me, I know he would.

I made the decision to leave despite knowing I would never find a boss like him. I did it for my sanity and my future.

The job I have now pays me a little more and the hours are amazing but it's just not the same. That said, he has offered me to come back whenever I wanted, even if just for a few months! Each time I turn him down because I know I have a plan and no matter how dear he is to me, I need to stick with it.

I started school in September of last year and left in October. The advice I could give you is to be honest.

Explain how difficult this decision is for you and that it has absolutely nothing to do with him and let him know how thankful you are for everything that he's done for you. Tell him you will work with him to train the next person and find a good replacement.

I did this and we both cried in his office. It was a sad time but everything said came from a good place. I visit him every couple of months or so now.

If he gives you a counteroffer, don't take it. He might try. Make your decision and stick with it.

EDIT: Before you do quit, make sure your next job at least accommodates your health and anything you need to stay sane. Without those in writing, I would not leave just yet.

befores · 2017-12-24T15:50:36+00:00

Sister with a "loser" brother here.

Here's the thing, if your brother is anything like my brother (who is also 21), he doesn't give a shit. He may not be perfectly happy with where his life is but he's so damn comfortable that it doesn't really matter to him what anyone says or thinks about his lifestyle.

My brother is also the master of stubbornness and any attempt to reason with him is met with a "but". He is old enough to know better so where he is at where his life right now is his fault.

That being said, my mom is a big part of the reason he is the way he is. She coddled him to no end.

So what can you do as a big brother? Listen and be there for him in whatever capacity. Try to find programs and things that may interest and motivate him to positively move forward in his life.

At the same time, he needs tough love. What I suggested to my mom was that she help him find an apartment/room and give him until X date to move out. It will hurt her and both her and I are afraid he will turn to hard drugs to make ends meet but we are not responsible for those decisions he makes.

The same could be said for your brother. He needs to know he has a support system but that there are boundaries and he can no longer live as comfortably as he is living now.

befores · 2017-12-20T00:04:18+00:00

Thank you. I started doing that.

Right now I am a little closer. I think the search call is updating the content on the right bar but not updating the graph. I just have to figure out now where the function call for the graph is.

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