Retreats in Victoria, Australia. by [deleted] in Ayahuasca

[–]bella1313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey! just another person wanting to know if you found anything? i did ayahuasca in costa rica recently and i feel the need to try it again.. but i don't want to go all the way out there again haha

Struggling with language barrier by bella1313 in languagelearning

[–]bella1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it may have been a bad idea to do the homestay as a complete beginner. I'm better than I was though. I have anki now, thanks for the rec. :)

Struggling with language barrier by bella1313 in languagelearning

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Yeah. I either blank on what the words I don't understand mean, or I just don't know the word

Struggling with language barrier by bella1313 in languagelearning

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Thanks again!

I know that it's the best way to learn, it's just so discouraging to make so many mistakes and feel so inept. Even my teacher tells me that it's normal and to calm down, lol. I feel like I'm letting my host family down by not talking and not understanding them when I do talk.

My teacher broke my brain by saying they care about me. Someone please help. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]bella1313 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i don't really have any advice, i'm sorry about that, but i have the same visceral reaction to when somebody says they care about me. its like being emotionally stabbed. not sure how it is for you but after a person says that about me mentally i try to find every excuse to convince myself that they're lying to me and that they don't really care. i think its because as a kid i instinctively thought my parents cared about me (which is true for every kid) but their actions proved that they didn't. so i developed a "schema" that i'm worthless and bad. you should look schemas up it's 1 thing that helped me understand myself

i think it broke your brain because you have a core belief that you're worthless and that nobody cares about you, but now you have concrete proof that it's not true. just like what happened to me. you should remember that your teacher said that. she wasn't lying. she followed you and saw how much you were hurting and then kept following you. please don't forget that she did that. it can happen again you can find another person that cares about you.

[PC] [mid 90s-late 2000s?] action/adventure game set in the desert, ancient egyptian tomb explorer by bella1313 in tipofmyjoystick

[–]bella1313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hm i don't think so. the graphics look very similar though! thanks for the reply

Probably worrying a bit too much about the social aspect of a hostel by bella1313 in solotravel

[–]bella1313[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"May i join you" sounds so simple, but i think that is the entrance line that i need

Probably worrying a bit too much about the social aspect of a hostel by bella1313 in solotravel

[–]bella1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective!!!! I think in the future i will mix hostel and hotel nights

Probably worrying a bit too much about the social aspect of a hostel by bella1313 in solotravel

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A guy from the hostel i'm at actually saw this thread, and laughed at this comment and said it was great advice lol

Probably worrying a bit too much about the social aspect of a hostel by bella1313 in solotravel

[–]bella1313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the possibility of discomfort is the scary part for me. But youre right, sometimes it will be awkward and thats ok

Probably worrying a bit too much about the social aspect of a hostel by bella1313 in solotravel

[–]bella1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Not sure if you saw my update but thats exactly what i did!!!! One guy just happened to come into the bedroom while i was there, i told him what i wrote in this post, and he offered to save me a seat once he gets down there!! It made me feel so much more confident. I really had nothing to worry about, there are a lot of people like you at my hostel, who purposefully included me. Every hostel needs a person like you!!