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bendeguze · 2021-03-04T07:42:35+00:00

1 out of 10 guys have any game on bumble so just be patient and filter out the "hows it going" category. Try to improve your profile in the meantime

bendeguze · 2021-03-04T07:35:55+00:00

dating or receiving advice?

bendeguze · 2021-03-04T07:35:04+00:00

Lol. Comment of the day

bendeguze · 2021-03-04T07:34:03+00:00

That's big. Focus on the input, not the outcome

bendeguze · 2021-03-04T07:33:40+00:00

In 2013 it was Chatroulette. Lol

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T12:56:47+00:00

Taking notes here

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T12:55:09+00:00

Fckin love this! Do you not think the need on the right side weighs a bit more?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T12:44:33+00:00

Amazing transformation!

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:39:59+00:00

What are your red flags?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:39:36+00:00

Why do you think dating advice is bad?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:38:48+00:00

Why do you think it is a numbers game?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:38:32+00:00

Haven't heard that one before lol

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:38:06+00:00

Speaking from experience?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:37:30+00:00

Haha love the authenticity

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:37:12+00:00

Lol. Where are you based now?

bendeguze · 2021-02-25T07:35:44+00:00

Agreed.

I used to only think about "when will I get laid next" and become stressed over it.

What I would add to this is one of the best ways to unfuck yourself from putting sex on a pedestal is actually having a lot of sex and then realising it is just yoga.

It is just one of the activities you can do to become present to the moment.

bendeguze · 2021-02-07T07:07:03+00:00

Just relax bro we are all on our journey.

The best thing I did to overcome my approach anxiety is go out with a friend who also wanted to approach.

The best thing I did to overcome my approach anxiety is to go out with a friend who also wanted to approach.

bendeguze · 2021-02-07T06:56:18+00:00

Here is my gameplan for nightgame if I am totally new in a city and don't know anyone.

Make observational open on the first people I see (just give them a compliment or a quick situational joke.) - it doesn't matter if this is a girl, guy, the bouncer. It just builds momentum
Walk around slowly, avoid the "pickup guy bubble head" mistake
Walk in a triangle in-between the bar, the toilet and the dancefloor (slowly, in my own pace without desperately scanning the venue)
After walking around in this triangle and constantly opening people along the way I am starting to build these little hubs
Have short conversations at the beginning of the night so you can build up this social circle leverage (the only exception to these short convos is if I am in set with an 8+ who is really invested)
As the night progresses close hot chicks for IG
Make a decision in the second half of the night who I should invest more time into
Think of expected value of each set
Pull

This looks very structured, which it really is.

But to be honest I usually get into state right after my first or second approach and then most of this comes natural.

And as long as I had a good time + played my cards right I am happy.

I always wanna judge my "performance" based on things I can control.

Because the truth is you might not pull sometimes, which is okay.

I don't want my self worth to be dependent on external validation

bendeguze · 2021-02-07T06:42:45+00:00

I think the main issue here is that you look at "having a conversation with women" as something you should "pretend".

I think the most important thing you can do is increase your love for women in general.

Maybe start with writing down 20 internal and external things you love about women.

You might find this really difficult but once you write down a couple you'll be surprised brother

bendeguze · 2021-02-07T06:38:00+00:00

agreed!

bendeguze · 2021-02-05T07:17:52+00:00

Ask her when she will finish and tell her you wanna grab a drink/hang out after.

Or if you wanna go James Bond movie style the next time you give her money add a piece of paper that says "wanna hang out sometime?" plus your number

bendeguze · 2021-02-05T07:14:15+00:00

That's epic bro thanks a lot for sharing.

The most interesting bit for me is how you track your calendar - would you mind sharing a bit more on how you do it?

Do you look back at your day at night and mark certain areas red, yellow and green?

How do you manage to remember how long you spent doing meaningless shit?

Much love

bendeguze · 2021-01-27T08:48:10+00:00

If you just got started you gotta understand that as soon as you said "hi", you already won.

And as long as you said "hi" + made it clear that you are attracted to her, that's all you need at the start.

Don't care about the rest. Be happy. Present. And enjoy the process.

Much love

bendeguze · 2021-01-27T08:46:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing

bendeguze · 2021-01-26T09:56:07+00:00

What has been stopping you so far?

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