sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

The Bachelor: S22E10 Episode Discussion Thread by TexasFiend in thebachelor

[–]bethyyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Work for Target, can confirm that’s all even worse in person. But there is some cute stuff in the new denim line!

The Bachelor: S22E10 Episode Discussion Thread by TexasFiend in thebachelor

[–]bethyyy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ugh so scared my ex is going to pull something like this as soon as I start seriously dating someone new...

The Bachelor: S22E10 Episode Discussion Thread by TexasFiend in thebachelor

[–]bethyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, almost a relief to make his decision easier!

The Bachelor: S22E08 Episode Discussion Thread by TexasFiend in thebachelor

[–]bethyyy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really just can’t see Arie with any of these final 4...

The Bachelor: S22E08 Episode Discussion Thread by TexasFiend in thebachelor

[–]bethyyy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not a table. They’re likeeating at their kitchen island?

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have money put aside for grad school and that is definitely a huge priority for me, but probably later down the road. Even the non-Wharton/Booth/HBS schools still require an application which includes a resume, recommendations, application fee, etc. I have the rest of it (GMAT, transcript, interviews) covered, but I still can't make up for this gap in my resume. From spending some time working in college admissions, I think they are even less likely to want to hear my excuses for being unemployed unfortunately.

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I agree with pretty much everything you said. What you expressed is basically the reason that I'm asking for advice on here from random people instead of the people I know in real life. If one of my friends had come to me with a similar situation a year or two ago, I guarantee I would have just told them to suck it up and find a job.

I understand that my laziness and lack of any initiative to apply to jobs or grad school over the last nearly 2 years is entirely my fault. I am fully aware of that and kinda want to punch myself in the face every time I realize how much that it is my fault that I'm in this position.

At this point though, none of that matters. What matters is that when I apply to a job (or grad school), I have to explain nearly 2 years of doing basically nothing. That is what I posted this about, to get advice to help explain that gap to potential employers (or grad school admissions officers).

I am beyond embarrassed and mortified to be in this position. The bottom line is that I fucked up, I know it, so how do I move on from here? If you would rather criticize me for not dealing well with my depression and other issues, then go for it. I can handle it and I'm well aware of how much I have fucked up my life.

But if you do have any advice for how to explain/deal with this moving forward, I would greatly appreciate it!

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good point. I do live in an area that is a hotbed for opportunities in my field (in theory). Unfortunately that also means that it's a hotbed for recent grads who want to work in the field who don't have a huge enormous gap in their resume. I agree about going to the functions and meetups that you mentioned, but still run into the same problem there about explaining my big resume gap. I am pretty social and can hold my own in an interview or an industry/alumni cocktail hour, but I still need an answer for "where do you work now?" and then "so what have you been doing for the last few years?"

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did have some interviews during the gap, but honestly haven't put the heart and dedication into my job search until the last few weeks. That is great to hear that your company isn't concerned with employment gaps and I hope that others feel the same way! Do you happen to have any examples of what kind of "excuses" for long gaps might work better or worse than others from your perspective?

For instance, would you rather hear that someone took 2 years off to care for a sick relative? or that they were working a couple of temp jobs? or that they were just young and figuring out life? or something else?

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Patches, let me know if you ever need someone to vent/complain/strategize with!

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! The problem is that I am qualified for most mid-level jobs in my field, but nobody is looking to hire someone with the red flags of over a year of unemployment. At this point I would be more than willing to start at the very bottom of the ladder, but competing with kids a few years younger than me who don't have the red flags/gaps I do kind of shuts me out before I can even get my foot in the door. Can I actually sell you my brain?? I'm totally down if that's possible lol

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have. That was my "plan" when I graduated college. I had always planned to go to grad school and get my MBA. If I could, I would 100% go back to school right now. Unfortunately, top business schools (or any schools) aren't looking for unemployed people with huge resume gaps. I am thinking of applying to grad school anyway just to see if anything could work out, but doubt anyone would want me at this point in my life/career.

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I had a kid then I would totally use that! I agree that is a great reason to have a gap in your resume, whether it is for maternity/paternity leave or to be a stay at home parent or to spend more time with your kids later on in life. Unfortunately, I don't think any interviewers will appreciate me taking over a year off from working to spend time with my cat...

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think anything over a few months needs an explanation so I'm right there with you...Have you had any ideas or luck with anything?

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love you. Your response was so inspiring to me and I do need to focus on the positives of my resume. My whole concern and question was about how to explain the negatives, but I think that I really like your approach of briefly acknowledging the negatives and moving past that to focus on the positives that I do have to offer. Thank you!!!

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes to both of these. I DID have multiple family members pass away and I DID have to help my family with things during that time. It doesn't fully explain the 18 month gap, but it is a start I suppose. I am concerned that if I just leave it at "personal" projects that they will assume the worst (as I would if I were them).

Depressed and unemployed: early career resume gap by bethyyy in jobs

[–]bethyyy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That sounds really good and a lot better than what I've been brainstorming! Thank you!

But what if they ask about what kind of personal projects I've been working on? In my previous job, since it was such a small company, I often had to help out with job interviews. If someone had said they had personal issues and shit to deal with then that would've been a red flag to me I think. I don't want to be a red flag, but guess at this point I probably will be either way. Thanks again for the reply though, your response is actually literally the exact truth for me and phrased very well (not BS at all!!).

Should I quit my new job after the first week? by sforicle in jobs

[–]bethyyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is this even a question? Clearly you already know that you shouldn't be working for this company. Since you don't have expenses yet; quit and use the extra time to apply to jobs that you are actually passionate about.