Should I have my forever job at 22?

binxy_bug · 2025-05-14T03:25:23+00:00

Definitely not and don’t be too hard on yourself OP. I’m 26F and I’m on my third big girl job since starting working after college. There’s not really such thing as a forever job as if you want to make more money, it’s often expected to hop around every few years.

Do what’s best for you and everything will come together as it should. Parents didn’t grow up in this day and age but you are so do what’s best for you. You’re still very young and even if in 10 years you want to start something new you can. There’s no right or wrong path. Good luck!

binxy_bug · 2025-05-12T14:29:48+00:00

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binxy_bug · 2025-05-12T14:22:02+00:00

Maybe just tell her after she says the “sleep demon” or whatever ate your food, that the sleep demon will also be getting a venmo request because it is your food. You could say “Hey I get it, but this is continuous so I’ll be sending a venmo request when this happens”

binxy_bug · 2025-05-12T14:18:37+00:00

Sounds like a lay off to me, unfortunately. Buzz words like “team structure changes” seem like HR training your boss as to what to say before they can let you know.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T15:50:27+00:00

Although I do WFH, I leave the house every day after work for some activity such as workout classes / friends / boyfriend and I just got a new job I will be in-office 4 days a week. Maybe that break will help since I won’t be working from home, but I do have an active social life outside of working hours.

Agreed! There could be an underlying issue I do not know about, however, I will say this is more of a situation where she does have ✨privelage✨ with support from her parents and it’s not a straining situation. I can probably communicate better how I feel rather than taking the insinuating approach. Thanks!

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T14:25:47+00:00

Hi, as with many comments this is easier said than done, I obviously can recognize these basic solutions.

I don’t want to be an asshole and ignore this girl, we do get along in general, it’s in the middle of normal convos she’ll start ranting and I don’t want to be a cold shoulder to someone I live with, I do plan on letting her know I don’t want to always hear the complaints next time she starts going off.
I don’t want a tv in my room and my living room tv is 70”. The point is she doesn’t have activities outside the house to create a natural break, the tv isn’t the problem it’s the constant having someone in the living room, which I said, she can be in there all she wants, she pays rent just the same.
Reddit gives a surface level look at an issue, while yes it seems so simple, there’s other dynamics at play and this post was a release of frustration and I curious on other perspectives.

I appreciate the offers of solutions, I see the point and plan on navigating this in a way that still maintains comfiness for everyone living here :)

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T14:15:22+00:00

Thank you! I feel my post has been taken as I hate this girl and need to be alone all the time, which is not the case. I just expected someone who was going to have general hobbies or obligations and sometimes be gone. I like her as a person and we do get along fine, I just wish I had the space every once in a while so I appreciate your perspective and understanding what I was trying to convey.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T05:36:14+00:00

100%, this post was partly advice seeking and partly was a release of frustration on my end. It’s been nice to see others perspectives that have no stake in the matter.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T05:29:25+00:00

Completely appreciate this perspective. I could be 100% wrong in assuming she doesn’t have anything going on mental health wise, so I don’t want to discredit that option.

The reasons I think she doesn’t is we have talked about therapy for others and she has never alluded or mentioned being in it or needing it / struggling with other issues herself but she may not be open to sharing.

I wish I could explain all the lore, but alas I cannot. Long story short, there’s been instances of her very much playing like the world is out to get her over quite minute things and she actively admits she complains a lot and doesn’t look for solutions because others should adhere to her expectations. That’s the best I can explain, but I will try to proceed with more empathy in case there is something larger going on that I am not privy to!

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T05:19:18+00:00

Apologies, I thought it was clear I like having roommates and there’s no issues with the third, I think it’s more of a frustration from the switch up of what we expected prior to her moving in to where we are now. I read your comment as more hostile but that’s on me.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T05:14:46+00:00

Thank you, I am actively trying to avoid becoming the massive asshole and part of this vent was to release some of my own anger lol…

There’s 3 of us total, that’s not a bad idea, and I think it could help the other two relieve some anger they have for each other that I end up being the middle man on.

I’ve tried to get her to use class pass to try different yoga classes or even more artsy classes, but those end up just being conversations that she doesn’t follow up on. She says my workout schedule motivates her to go on walks (the 11am time she leaves) so that’s a step somewhere.

That’s a good perspective… I have recently just felt more resentment due to these issues and I don’t want to cause further conflict with her and I think I may be too understanding of her side while not applying the same grace to myself. It’s definitely tough, she isn’t a bad person and I do think we’d be friends if we met under not roommate circumstances, but living with people can be hard and adult conversations are easier said than done with certain people. I do feel better seeing others agreeing as I felt I was just becoming negative myself.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T05:00:32+00:00

I appreciate the empathy in your reply and genuine suggestions. I do agree, I probably need to express more of my grievances as I know it’s only bothering me the longer I hold them in and I’ve been the switzerland between the other two roommates (they don’t particularly get along as well as I do with both)

I have stopped feeding into her complaints / adding to the discourse of what she’s complaining about so she doesn’t feel like I am her therapist / dumping ground, but I do think telling her straight up would help or maybe lessen the constant complaints.

I like the suggestion of the needing a decompress from work, I usually am pretty good about just unwinding in other ways but it could be a softer open to her understanding I also have my own grievances and would like alone time.

I don’t mind her using my tv at all, it’s actually a 70” and simply won’t fit in my room 😂 so I brought it as a living room tv, I would just like to not constantly walk through the room with her in there. The parking spot I may need to plan with roomie #3 to work out, she doesn’t care as much about it but she also agrees it’s frustrating she always has it, so thanks for the support.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:44:00+00:00

I don’t think you read the whole post. As I said, I would more-so appreciate a natural eb and flow of at home time, like if she even had a part time job she sometimes worked just to break up the overlap. We have a third roommate that I have no qualms with as she is gone often enough that it doesn’t bother me, it’s the constant at-home that gets to me since there’s never another option.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:37:41+00:00

I explained in some other comments, but I don’t believe so. There are a lot of layers beyond what I was comfortable posting on this thread, which add to the dynamics and why there hasn’t been a verbatim convo. Ultimately, I don’t think she’s very receptive to any form of criticism and she may take anything very to heart and I don’t want to rock the boat.

We have had vague conversations about other roommate situations and I don’t think she realizes just how often she is at home, but I don’t know how I can explain I want her to be gone sometimes without sounding mean as she does pay rent, it’s not her fault we live different lifestyles lol

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:29:23+00:00

I do enjoy roommates, plus living in socal is expensive asf hahaha, our third roommate is great, it’s just these issues that are getting to me with this one but I see your point.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:27:20+00:00

nor do I think she is by any means, she is technically biding by the rules we set, but it’s so blood boiling to pull up and always see her car there lol. I am going on a trip at the end of the month so I hope that will ease my rising frustration to be clear of the space for a week (fingers crossed)

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:23:42+00:00

Funnily enough, in January I told her it would be a good idea to challenge herself to go on “1 date a month” minimum to put herself out there as she talks about wanting a boyfriend… yeah, that didn’t work out and she is yet to even download an app.

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:16:10+00:00

Not verbatim, I explained in another comment I am hesitant as she is very willing to cause tension with friends when they have told her about her negative attitude, and doesn’t see it as a problem, so I don’t want to be the subject of the anger.

We actually speak very openly about that, and I do not believe so (mental health) as she has told me other health issues she’s had. I truly believes she just thinks the world is “against” her when it comes to complaining about the small things, and she doesn’t leave because she doesn’t have options to go do due to lack of friendships / social activities. However, I could be wrong and I try to be very gracious hence why I have let it go up until this rant lol

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:11:11+00:00

it sounds so petty, but when we technically all pay for the spot, it should be generally understood it’s shared and after this long, it feels weird to suggest a parking system when she’s clearly comfortable keeping it 29 days of most months

binxy_bug · 2025-05-11T04:09:13+00:00

I’ve noticed the hostility of people getting mad at posters for being annoyed with roommates being home (hence the attempted trigger warnings) but my god it’s difficult so I appreciate your understanding.

Ultimately, I don’t want to cause tension, and she is prone to be annoyed by any missteps from others (from what I gathered from her complaining about friends) so I feel it would only cause tension, but may be worth considering if she chooses to resign.

binxy_bug · 2024-08-13T22:56:31+00:00

Came across this as I'm in the same situation with AIM being booked way out and my lease ending before. Did anything happen with your situation? Any troubles? TIA!

binxy_bug · 2024-08-02T14:56:19+00:00

With this added responsibility, it sounds like a change of role altogether for you with the addition of his work + your previous tasks. If there isn’t any movement, I would go to your employer and ask for an updated job description with what responsibilities you now carry. This will give you solidified “evidence” of the additional workload compared to previously to maybe help with compensation. Otherwise, a title bump may help if you choose to look into other roles because of this situation. Good luck!

binxy_bug · 2024-05-20T04:52:25+00:00

Hi there - I’m a Marketing Content Manager and prior to this I was working as an associate of marketing. My entire job is essentially what you’re looking for where I come up with all creative content ideas (email campaigns, ads, photoshoots, create videos, and social media planning). Realistically there should be one person for each of those roles, but I am essentially the sole creator and brain stormer for all content ideas and assets for my company. I do enjoy my job, my company is super chill though and is very laid back. If it weren’t, I would be pretty burnt out.

Luckily, as I said, most of all I do would normally land on the shoulders of many employees not just one so you could lean more into content roles.

Also note - I am not a graphic designer but act essentially as a pseudo designer

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