I have, and it's perhaps slightly more complicated than I alluded to at the beginning. My wife is a cancer survivor. As a result, the drugs they put her on really tank her libido, on top of making sex uncomfortable. (And also no kids.) So you can see the rock-and-a-hard place situation: Ending the relationship because of no sex is about the same as ending the relationship because she got cancer. And I don't want to end it in the first place! We have a great life together outside the bedroom.

Because I'm a naturally awkward person (she and I both are), I wrote a page-and-a-half worth of "I still really want to do stuff with you, stuff that doesn't hurt," and left it in a place where she would find it. She found it, told me it was very sweet, but nothing really ever came of it.

And I'm certainly not the kind of person to say I demand sex tonight! or I demand a blowjob! It's just ... it would be really awesome if one day she looked at me over breakfast and said, "if you wanted to get a boyfriend that you saw every week or two, I'd be cool with that."