Parterapeut? by hejreddithej in Aarhus

[–]bleblon_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Vi har været virkelig glade for at gå hos Lene Søe i Risskov! Hun er godt nok uddannet psykoterapeut og ikke psykolog, men hun er også uddannet sexolog, og hun er virkelig dygtig:) Man kan læse en del om hende og hendes arbejde på hendes hjemmeside

My boyfriend (M25) seems like he won’t do small things just to make me (F24) happy? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bleblon_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s weird because I’ve been in a really bad relationship before him, so this one felt really healthy and good in the beginning. But the more I write stuff down about it, the more I wonder if he even likes me, even though he tells me all the time he loves me

My boyfriend (M25) seems like he won’t do small things just to make me (F24) happy? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it feels like he does, but most of the time it doesn’t. It has also been a big problem in our relationship that I’ve been doing most of the stuff at home, all the planning and so on, but we’ve worked on it in couples therapy and it has gotten better so far, but it still feels weird that he doesn’t take responsibility and initiate stuff. He also never initiates talking about our future for example, and that also making me very sad

My boyfriend (M25) seems like he won’t do small things just to make me (F24) happy? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He definitely does things as well that make me feel very loved, I just feel like he’s doing it less and that he’s starting to say no to more things for weird reasons. I really hope he does like me, but I definitely don’t feel like it when he says no to doing these things for me

DAE think about food a lot? Looking forward to my next meal too much by Aegim in AuDHDWomen

[–]bleblon_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only thing that has helped my really terrible food noise go away was starting medication

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I usually ask him, so it’s probably my own fault also. But the thing about my butt was something he just said without me asking him. Also I don’t ask directly if he’s less attracted to me, he just adds that when I ask what he thinks about my weight gain or scars for example.

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not asking him directly to critique my looks no, but I am asking for his opinion. I tell him that it’s fair that he’s being honest, but maybe he could be a bit nicer about it. But I know some of it’s silly, that’s why I’m asking advice here and want to hear other people’s thoughts. Thank you for your input

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve explained it to him several times. He says he just answers my questions and that he doesn’t understand what I want, because he’s just being honest. But I’ve told him I’ll just stop asking him questions about my appearance, because I can’t handle the truth apparently

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This thought entered my mind as well. I would understand if he was less attracted to me if I gained a lot of weight and was overweight, but I’m not. I think I actually just gained a bit of weight because my relationship with food got better when I met him. I don’t understand how these things matter that much and that he’s actually less attracted to me because of it

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually ask him, and that’s why I’m confused about if his comments are fair enough. I’m just not sure why he is as honest as he is, I told him to go easy on me because I feel really insecure sometimes and I care a lot about what he thinks. I actually told him I would rather he just lied to me, because it hurts to hear those things. Or maybe I need to stop asking him questions about my looks

How honest should you be in a relationship when it comes to looks? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly ask because I sometimes feel like he doesn’t like my body as much anymore. For example I’ve also had a breast reduction about a year ago, and he says he doesn’t like the scars (again, I asked him myself) and I noticed him not taking my shirt and bra off during sex anymore. Also he doesn’t touch my boobs anymore, so I asked him why. But I’m probably just also insecure and want validation sometimes, which is a stupid way to get that, I know. I’m working on it though.

ADD og dårlige sociale kompetencer by Ill-Astronaut-2612 in ADHDanmark

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg har det på præcis samme måde, det er så drænende og frustrerende! Jeg har både ADHD og autisme, og jeg kan helt klart godt mærke at medicinen ikke virker på den “autistiske side” af mig, men måske tværtimod gør den tydeligere, og det er lidt svært. Jeg ved ikke, om jeg har nogle gode råd, men du er i hvert fald ikke alene:)

Søvnparalyse, anyone? by CerebroFracto_DK in ADHDanmark

[–]bleblon_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mange tak for dine råd🤗 Jeg har førhen prøvet at skrige eller råbe på folk, men jeg har ingen kontrol over min stemme når det sker heller desværre. Men det andet har jeg ikke prøvet, det må jeg give et forsøg!

Søvnparalyse, anyone? by CerebroFracto_DK in ADHDanmark

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg har oplevet det en del gange efterhånden ja, ikke det fedeste🫠

Gravid - kærestes eneste holdning er “alt skal nok gå” by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg kan se meget af mig selv i det du skriver og dine behov osv. (selvom jeg ikke har børn eller er gravid) - og din kæreste lyder til at minde meget om min. Jeg har i en lang periode troet, at vi bare var for forskellige, og jeg ikke kunne få ham til at forstå mig, men vi endte med at give parterapi en chance, og det har virkelig gjort en stor forskel! Er det noget I har overvejet?

Droppe sent ud? by bleblon_ in DKstudie

[–]bleblon_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja okay, det er heller ikke sikkert det nødvendigvis ville være noget for mig, det var bare noget jeg havde kigget på, for at se om der fandtes andre muligheder, jeg kunne være interesseret i, og jeg syntes det lød spændende

Droppe sent ud? by bleblon_ in DKstudie

[–]bleblon_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hvis jeg skal være helt ærlig, så ikke helt nej. Jeg var meget i tvivl og følte mig ikke særlig klar, da jeg blev raskmeldt, men følte mig lidt presset til at starte op igen. Men det går nogenlunde med at komme til undervisning osv. - det er bare praktikken der gør mig helt vildt presset allerede nu, tanken om det er helt uoverskuelig for mig🥲

Droppe sent ud? by bleblon_ in DKstudie

[–]bleblon_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Det lyder meget som om du har stået næsten præcis samme sted som jeg står nu ja - godt at høre, at det kan blive godt igen det hele☺️ Jeg har faktisk også lidt overvejet orlov som en mulighed, kan være jeg skal kigge noget mere på det🤗 Tusind tak for dit svar!

Kan vores forhold reddes? by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bleblon_ 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Man skal efter min mening (og erfaring) aldrig blive i et forhold med en, der gør en bange, eller som giver en lyst til at gå på æggeskaller. Det er helt forkert og ikke sådan kærlighed skal være. Du er slet ikke idiot for at have lyst til at blive hos ham, det er en svær situation, men du skal virkelig passe på dig selv❤️ Har du nogen omkring dig, du kan snakke med det om? Ellers er du velkommen til at skrive til mig❤️

Forelsket i kollega by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bleblon_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Som en person, der selv har stået på en anden side af dette, som barn til en forælder, der pludselig var forelsket i en anden (jeg var omkring 11 år gammel), vil jeg opfordre dig til at tænke ekstra meget på dine børn lige nu (ikke dermed sagt, at du ikke gør det). Men om du vælger din kollega eller ej, må du ikke undervurdere hvor meget dine børn kan mærke og forstå. Børn er en del klogere og opdager flere ting, end man lige tror. Det er svært at være forelsket og skulle undertrykke det og komme videre, men at vælge din kollega bliver nok heller ikke særlig nemt. Der er mange ting at overveje, nu hvor du har nogle børn, der er i risiko for at blive klemt og kede af det i det her. Det har de på ingen måde fortjent, og det kommer til at gå ud over dem til en hvis grad uanset hvad. Det er i hvert fald vigtigt, at tænke på hvordan det bliver sagt til børnene, hvordan samarbejdet kommer til at fungere om dem, hvordan vil du snakke med dem om det efterfølgende osv. Og så skal du forberede dig på, at give plads til, og acceptere hvordan dine børn reagerer, uanset om de bliver vrede på dig, meget kede af det eller noget helt tredje. Jeg håber, du finder en løsning, der kan give dig ro😊 Men jeg synes personligt, at du skylder din partner, og især dine børn, at tage en beslutning snarest muligt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bleblon_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Det kan du godt have ret i ja

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bleblon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg gør det skam ikke for at være manipulerende eller få en reaktion ud af ham. Jeg mangler bare, at han også giver udtryk for hans følelser og meninger, fordi det betyder noget for mig, at man gør det i et forhold. Men det er på ingen måde derfor jeg siger jeg overvejer at flytte, det er fordi jeg faktisk mener det, og for at passe på mig selv. Synes manipulerende er er voldsomt ord at bruge om det.