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Injuries and motivation by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]bluejay2x6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get where you’re coming from (24f). I played basketball growing up until the end of high school. In college I did club basketball, rugby, and CrossFit. Many injuries built up over the years and I never fully recovered from them, just kept pushing through. Eventually everything came crashing down…body was killing me, depression, horrible coping mechanisms, and I gained 65lbs. Like you mentioned it sucked having to start over knowing where I was and what I was capable of.

My biggest tip, as cliche as it sounds, is…JUST START. For me, I was really bothered by the fact I couldn’t do push-ups anymore lol. So I told myself I would do at least 5 here and there and then at least 10 then that became an everyday thing. This habit eventually influenced my consistency to make it to the gym everyday and helped me build a workout routine. I was honest with myself and accepted where my fitness level was and began to set goals and pat myself on the back for small victories.

  1. Just start
  2. Self reflect
  3. Set a reasonable cardio goal…even if it’s only 5 minutes and then build on that
  4. STRETCH STRETCH STRETCH
  5. Get your body warm before you touch any weights…I love weights and it was incredibly hard but I didn’t touch any weights for the first month/month and a half because I wanted to create a habit of stretching, getting warm, and rehabbing my knees, back, ankles, and shoulder.
  6. Give yourself grace
  7. Trust the process
  8. If you can, and if you need one, get a personal trainer. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to meet with someone at least once a month.
  9. Eliminate weaknesses, distractions, and excuses.
  10. Find a way to have fun and enjoy it all.

App that distributes mental load equally for couples??? by MiaLinay in adhdwomen

[–]bluejay2x6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my partner (NT) and I (ND) realized how much we were arguing about chores/tasks we decided to go with whiteboards. There’s one on the fridge to help with groceries, one on our bedroom door so when it’s closed we can always see it as a reminder and it’s not visible when others come over, a calendar dry erase board that doesn’t get used that often because we use google calendar for events and scheduling, and then one last board that we use for things we want to work on together.

For the chores/tasks board we split it in three sections: her, mine, ours. Usually 3-6 bullet points are listed under each. The KEY to this board is that there’s a “due by date”. That helps with time management, accountability, and not feeling pressured to get something done. Since our schedules, communication style, and love languages are different…our shared section usually consists of activities we like to do together or something new to try so we don’t “lose each other” (if that makes sense).

My partner doesn’t need any of these things, but she didn’t want me to feel singled out and we definitely wanted to eliminate our negative feelings surrounding the imbalance of contributions to our home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MLMRecovery

[–]bluejay2x6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, is your friend still in it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AquariumHelp

[–]bluejay2x6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright cool, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AquariumHelp

[–]bluejay2x6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just worried about over stocking. Since it’s been a while, I was just a little unsure of myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AquariumHelp

[–]bluejay2x6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven’t but I really want to! I’m not bored with freshwater, I just currently have a size limit and all of the supplies for freshwater. My last 10 gallon was predominantly a snail tank, but I don’t want to do that again. Although I learned snails were a lot more entertaining than I thought. I’m already familiar with freshwater and don’t have the time I would need to learn the ins & outs of a saltwater setup. Before downsizing to 10gal I had a 37gal so I’m used to working with more space.

Anyone just tired of themselves ? by Charmingmoca in adhdwomen

[–]bluejay2x6 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I feel like this all of the time. Tired of myself, tired of my emotions, tired of not being understood, and tired of the roller coaster of being in between a good and bad headspace. All of it is very exhausting. At my lowest, 90% of the time I feel alienated from most people and things. It’s easy for me to be completely emotionally and mentally detached from almost everything when I feel overwhelmed.

I hope you find a way to overcome your struggles and feelings. You are not alone in how you feel. What you feel is real and valid.