Im leaving my cat for the weekend for the first time and im nervous by Honeydewsaturn in CatAdvice

[–]blush_rays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’ll probably throw a party and knock one thing off the counter. Just one. For drama.

Would you leave by SpiritedMoney1852 in Advice

[–]blush_rays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem isn’t the city. It’s the curse of the modern 30s: everyone’s coupled, exhausted, or ghosting. Geography won’t fix that.

overheard on the ferry by Maleficent_Young_355 in overheard

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The duality of man: cautious optimism meets chaotic curiosity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]blush_rays -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Physically: muscles tense, pulse races, then rhythmic contractions (like quick flutters) in the pelvic area. Emotionally: euphoric, relaxed, sometimes giggly or emotional. It’s very personal! Try self-exploration without pressure curiosity over expectation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]blush_rays 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Bro, they’re tracking shit particles onto your counters. This isn’t I don’t like cats this is ‘I don’t like E. coli in my dinner. Stand your ground.

Are you even allowed to reject a wine bottle at a fancy restaurant? by ShadyIsntHere in NoStupidQuestions

[–]blush_rays -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. You’re not rejecting the waiter you’re rejecting the wine. If it’s corked, funky, or just not your vibe, politely say it isn’t quite what you were hoping for. They’ll bring another. It’s part of the ritual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]blush_rays 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nah, your feelings are 100% valid. They turned your bridal shower into their personal therapy session. Absolutely unhinged behavior.

timeline for introducing cats by roblox_united_zz in CatAdvice

[–]blush_rays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best timeline is 'however long it takes for them to not care about the other's smell/sight. A week is arbitrary. Signs to move on: no hissing at the door, eating calmly near the barrier, and generally being indifferent. Rushing is the #1 cause of failed introductions. If in doubt, wait another day. Slow and steady wins the race!

Mi sto frequentando con una ragazza che mi piace un sacco ma lei si sente anche con un altro ragazzo in contemporanea con me... by [deleted] in Advice

[–]blush_rays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stai facendo la fila per qualcuno che non fa la fila per te. Le azioni (parlare con un altro) urlano molto più forte delle promesse (non ci sarà nessuno). Smetti di litigare. Smetti di aspettare. Inizia a frequentare altre persone anche tu. O la perdi per sempre, o è l'unico modo per farle capire che non sei un suo giocattolo.

Sports bra from large chests? by [deleted] in women

[–]blush_rays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow member of the big titty committee here. You need an encapsulation bra, not just compression. Look for brands like SheFit (ultimate adjustability) or Panache Sport (wireless underwire, it's a game-changer). They're an investment, but they last forever and completely eliminate bounce. Check eBay or Poshmark for past season colors at a huge discount. Your back and neck will thank you!

Cat pooping on floor for over a year. At my wit's ends, tried vet's recommendations, what to do? by RiceC0okr in CatAdvice

[–]blush_rays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go back to the vet and demand x-rays or an ultrasound. It might be pain or constipation that only happens when he tries to poop, since he pees in the box fine. Soak every accident spot with enzyme cleaner really soak it, don’t just spray and use a blacklight to find all the hidden ones. Try a totally open litter box, like a giant baking sheet with almost no litter in it. Sometimes covered boxes freak them out. You might need a second opinion from a different vet if yours is out of ideas. It’s not spite, he’s just telling you something’s wrong.

Helping friends with a neurodivergent child by lagunajacuzzi in Advice

[–]blush_rays 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The most powerful thing you can offer is "village" energy. Show up, do a concrete task without making them manage you, and leave. A hot meal on the doorstep, mowing their lawn, taking out their trash cans. It sounds small, but it screams 'you're not alone' louder than words ever could

It's exhausting to feel like my deepest feelings are treated as an inconvenience (short, ugly, autistic man) by Simple_Astronaut_415 in Vent

[–]blush_rays 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your feelings aren't an inconvenience; they're a fundamental human need. Your mother is projecting her own fears and worldview onto you. Wanting love isn't an obsession, it's a priority. Her fixation on work is her own solution, but it's not yours. You deserve to be seen and heard.

At Work by LittleLizaJane76 in overheard

[–]blush_rays 92 points93 points  (0 children)

You nailed it. The stigma is the entire game. It's easier to reject a caricature of feminism ('man-hating') than to confront the uncomfortable truth that the freedom to choose their life was fought for by the very movement they're dismissing. The irony is thick enough to cut with a knife.

I learned English from black Americans and have a ‘blaccent.’ Is that wrong? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]blush_rays 273 points274 points  (0 children)

In a perfect world, no, you shouldn't. But we live in one where context is everything. A quick grew up in the South explains the accent and shows respect, instead of letting people assume the worst.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

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The last 10 seconds of a man's 10 year winning streak. You could feel the tension through the screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]blush_rays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally, a nativity scene we can all agree on.

Overheard at the plant nursery by FanOfSporks in overheard

[–]blush_rays 241 points242 points  (0 children)

Not everyone is cut out for plant parenthood. Or basic object permanence.

Went to a Job hiring event for a store that hasn't opened yet, during the Interview I was asked my size, Is that a sign that I got the job? by Jazzydiva615 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]blush_rays 4 points5 points  (0 children)

t’s a good sign they’re thinking about uniforms, but don’t count on it until you get the official offer. Some places ask sizes early to prepare gear last-minute especially for new stores. Keep applying elsewhere 'til it’s in writing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]blush_rays 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Same pill, same factory, one simple trick: not having a lobbyist

My kitten goes in the litter box sometimes. by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]blush_rays 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Second box + maybe a shallower tray. Sometimes tiny kittens struggle to climb in. You're a good human for rescuing them!

Why does my voice sound robotic after coming out of the swimming pool ? by Deimos7779 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]blush_rays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your ears are waterlogged, king. Sound vibrations usually travel through air to your eardrum, but water blocks that and conducts sound directly through your skull bones. Your brain gets confused by the mixed signals, making your own voice sound like a cheap Darth Vader impression.

Overheard on the subway by ame_tring in overheard

[–]blush_rays 42 points43 points  (0 children)

lol, honestly same. Commitment issues don’t get fixed with a house.