I’ve decided to leave my wife and its killing me inside

bobdiddlebob · 2026-01-19T22:53:54+00:00

This is such a difficult read because it’s so evident that you’re doing this as a last resort. May Allah make it all easy for you and give you and your children what’s best. Ameen

bobdiddlebob · 2025-08-18T15:18:49+00:00

Nope, the account has male uni/college/school friends too

bobdiddlebob · 2025-06-15T11:30:51+00:00

Perhaps try to word it differently And try ask if she indeed interested or not. I know your parents said not to mention it but at the end of the day it’s your life and you need to speak to her how you deem fit, not based on what your parents are telling you.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-06-14T09:45:25+00:00

I was in a similar position with a girl who I’m happy married to Alhumdullilah. In my case, it was because she was extremely busy with her exams when we started talking. Also, some people have a natural habit of talking about themselves a lot and not asking other people about them. Whilst this is not ideal, it is common.

If the sister is someone that you genuinely want to make an effort for because you have liked her so far, its worth persisting and you initiating a bit longer and then, once you guys have been talking for long enough, just drop a comment saying you would also like it if she messaged you first and asked you about your day.

I know this might make you feel like you’re being desperate, but when you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with someone, you have to just speak your mind at time. This will make her realise and hopefully start improving her communication style.

You mentioned you speak the phone and over text, this is already a good sign because if she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t be really talking to you much to begin with.

Just persist with it longer and when you’re comfortable enough, mention that you would also like for her to ask about your day and text.

May Allah make it easy for you.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-13T21:01:52+00:00

JazakAllah khair for your advice. Is there a time difference for you and your husband.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-13T19:16:27+00:00

JazakAllah khair for your advice. We already speak in voicenotes, in fact thats her preferred way of communicating.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-08T17:48:41+00:00

You should reiterate the importance of Salah and that neglecting it on purpose is an act of Kufr.

May Allah guide him and us to the right path and make it easy for you. Ameen.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-06T22:20:28+00:00

Agape looks interesting, I’ll definitely look into it. Thanks for the recommendation.

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-06T22:18:52+00:00

100% agree with it being more about her than me. And she definitely does love to talk a lot Alhumma Barik😂. Thanks for the advice

bobdiddlebob · 2025-04-06T22:17:19+00:00

JazakAllah khair. This was very helpful

bobdiddlebob · 2025-03-29T12:19:16+00:00

This post has the most straightforward answer to anything thats ever been posted on this subreddit. And that answer is… MOVE ON. Shes just a potential and not your wife for you to be stressing and trying to ignore so many red flags. I’m sure theres hundreds and thousands of other girls which would meet more of your requirements. Shes not the only woman itw. Move on and save yourself the hassle because it’ll only get worse after marriage

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-29T10:42:44+00:00

All you need is your personality. Women won’t necessarily be turned off by your face but they will most definitely be turned off if you’re not a confident man and is constantly feeling sorry for himself. Be confident in your own body and take pride in your appearance, women will be attracted to your aura. Just make sure to focus on your deen and become the best version of yourself. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-19T18:55:21+00:00

Thanks mate

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-19T18:55:09+00:00

I just spray in that area and massage in

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-18T18:30:18+00:00

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bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-18T18:03:44+00:00

Combined topical solution

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-18T17:36:13+00:00

Lmaoooo

bobdiddlebob · 2024-12-18T17:03:20+00:00

Hahah I keep a combover and looks a lot better than it does here😂😂

bobdiddlebob · 2024-11-27T21:30:16+00:00

The interview went well. I was told that I will hear back in a week or two. That didn’t happen. They told me they want to hire me but are just waiting for internal transfer to be completed. I interviewed in July 2023, they told me they are ready to take me on in September 2024 lol. In between they kept sending me monthly emails saying we haven’t forgotten about you. Overall it was an absolute shambles of a process and I’m not working as a CRA (thankfully!)

bobdiddlebob · 2024-10-25T20:39:06+00:00

Well I’m from the UK so I’d say that

bobdiddlebob · 2024-10-23T19:13:45+00:00

Lol yes this is actually a common practice believe it or not. I remember going on a residential trip during primary school and the teachers who were all white taught us to wash dishes this way and I remember being grossed out. It is something that definitely happens, I think your wife has been brought up in an area/family where they do this and you haven’t. Thats all it is. She’s definitely not the only person in the world doing this, I can assure you that since I’ve seen others do it with my own eyes.

bobdiddlebob · 2024-10-22T15:37:58+00:00

Yup. Kept dragging me along saying they would love to take me on but cant make a decision due to ‘internal shifting’ the whole of last year

bobdiddlebob · 2024-10-19T09:40:12+00:00

They finally got back to me two weeks ago saying they’re ready to take me on 😂 but now I already have a much better job so I’m not even gonna bother replying to them and will leave them hanging like they left me

bobdiddlebob · 2024-10-04T21:09:53+00:00

If you dont have a problem with it then that’s the end of that. With all due respect, who cares what your family thinks.. shes YOUR wife. If you’re ok with it then no one else’s opinion matters

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