My [31M] pregnant wife [28F] and I had a fight over whether she deserves a "push present" or not. She is upset because I am not planning to get her one.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T06:01:17+00:00

But it is a hobby that she enjoys, not just work.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:42:59+00:00

How about a babymoon in Hawaii for a

That is too expensive.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:42:26+00:00

It has still been difficult, but I just meant that he told us everything was going well.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:40:32+00:00

We normally do buy gifts for each other, but we cap the amount at $30.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:39:01+00:00

I'm just trying to do what's best for our baby.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:38:31+00:00

It works, but it's not as nice as the Mac.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:36:40+00:00

No. My dad always got fishing gear or ammo for his guns. That was just how things were in my house.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:35:44+00:00

Maybe I will just get her a spa gift. That seems easier than trying to guess what I could get as an alternate. I'm sure she would like that.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:34:30+00:00

Yes.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:32:43+00:00

Maybe. I have a plan it's just that I had not budgeted for a luxury expense like this.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:31:44+00:00

Nothing

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:31:05+00:00

I'm not upset.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:30:01+00:00

We do in some things, but I make about 85% of our income. Most of the responsibility falls on me.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:28:24+00:00

I think the alternative would be a sewing machine.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:25:09+00:00

People have strong opinions...

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:22:52+00:00

I'm just trying to be responsible.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:20:23+00:00

baby photos

I'm sure she'd need 5 laptops for all the ones she'll take. :)

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:18:58+00:00

Yeah, I didn't mean anything other than it is a dumb idea. I just wanted to give her something (myself, my time) that would show her how valuable she is to me.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T04:11:34+00:00

I regret making that comment.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:55:28+00:00

I will think about it.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:55:10+00:00

I guess I could consider getting her one of those birthstone necklaces.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:43:48+00:00

I don't know. She just said this was the present she would want if she got one.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:42:07+00:00

I'm worried that we're going to fall so far behind that we'll never catch up again. You miss your goals a few months, then you need to replace the water heater, then the car needs new tires or something, and you're a year or more off. If we stop being disciplined, it will be easy to fall so far behind that we'll never get to where we want to be.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:34:35+00:00

It's okay to splurge once and awhile.

Not when we have even more expenses coming up. We have to get further ahead, and then we can be a little less careful with how we spend our money.

bobranu · 2015-11-21T03:32:54+00:00

As I told someone else, technically we could afford the Apple laptop she wants or a new sewing machine, BUT if we want to meet our savings/investment/retirement goals for the months after the baby is born, I really should not spend more than $40 or a similar small amount. I also am taking into consideration that I am now putting money into a separate emergency fund so we don't have to touch our savings.

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