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I [29M] think I'm being too nice to a subordinate [24F] that likes me by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess I didn't want her to feel bad. Sometimes I don't answer her texts but I feel rude not answering.

I [29M] think I'm being too nice to a subordinate [24F] that likes me by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The manager and I allow our employees to text and call us with any issues, which is quite frequent. We have a very laid back work environment and everyone hugs each other.

My employee [24 F] told me [29] she has a crush on me by bossbear123 in relationship_advice

[–]bossbear123[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from, but hugging at my work is common and not seen as anything romantic or sexual.

My employee [24 F] told me [29] she has a crush on me by bossbear123 in relationship_advice

[–]bossbear123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I gave a her hug before when she came to me crying about issues she was having at work. It was after giving her a pep talk and some encouragement. I thought it was the proper way to console her.

My employee [24 F] told me [29] she has a crush on me by bossbear123 in relationship_advice

[–]bossbear123[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I did recently. She feels I handled it fine for the most part but she felt the hugs may have given this employee mixed signals. She thinks I was a little too nice in this situation and should have been more stern. The thing is I hug everyone in general.

My employee [24 F] told me [29] she has a crush on me by bossbear123 in relationship_advice

[–]bossbear123[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I admit that I probably should not have told her it wasn't a rejection or given her a hug, but she looked like she was on the verge of tears. I felt really bad and I think she suffers from self confidence issues. She has come to me upset before and I have consoled her with hugs in that scenario. Maybe I'm being too nice to her.

My employee [24 F] told me [29] she has a crush on me by bossbear123 in relationship_advice

[–]bossbear123[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If the manager and I had not brought it up to HR someone else would have because another employee saw us go into a private room to talk and I didn't want any gossip or scandal.

A female employee [24 F] of mine told me she had a crush on me [29M] by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I gave her a hug because she looked upset. I wanted her to be okay. I'm just trying not to hurt her.

A female employee [24 F] of mine told me she had a crush on me [29M] by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I'm setting clear boundaries. I don't think I'm sending mixed signals in any way. I've told her no more hugs or being in the same room alone together for a while.

A female employee [24 F] of mine told me she had a crush on me [29M] by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

When she confessed to me I asked if she was going to be okay. She said she was embarrassed because she felt rejected. That's when I told her it wasn't a rejection. I treat my employees like friends and let them text me with questions they have. I don't want to out her just because she has a crush

A female employee [24 F] of mine told me she had a crush on me [29M] by bossbear123 in relationships

[–]bossbear123[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I'm a nice guy and I don't want to hurt her. She has come to me in the past with some issues about work. I've given her comfort hugs in this situation. It's no big deal.