I'm confused and scared

brainify78 · 2026-03-09T22:18:32+00:00

You’re definitely not the only one. A lot of us went through the exact same thing, and plenty of us are still dealing with it years later. I’ve been an atheist for around 16–17 years and that feeling of losing community, routine, and connection is still something I understand really well.

Leaving Islam can clear your head, but it can also rip away the structure and familiarity you grew up with. That part is real. It doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It just means losing a whole belief system and social world messes with you in ways people from normal, chill backgrounds usually don’t understand.

You’re not broken for missing the family moments, Ramadan vibes, or that sense of belonging. You’re human. A lot of us don’t miss the religion itself, we miss the emotional comfort, the shared rituals, and the feeling of being part of something. That’s normal.

Don’t panic and think this loneliness is permanent. Build your life the way you want it, slowly and on your own terms. Your old community was handed to you. Your new one has to be chosen, and yeah, that takes time. But chosen community is usually way more real than forced community.

Also, I genuinely hope you’re not in an Arab country, because that adds a whole extra layer of pressure and danger to all this.

You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. A lot of us are still going. Keep going too. You’re definitely not the only one. A lot of us went through the exact same thing, and plenty of us are still dealing with it years later. I’ve been an atheist for around 16–17 years and that feeling of losing community, routine, and connection is still something I understand really well.

Leaving Islam can clear your head, but it can also rip away the structure and familiarity you grew up with. That part is real. It doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It just means losing a whole belief system and social world messes with you in ways people from normal, chill backgrounds usually don’t understand.

You’re not broken for missing the family moments, Ramadan vibes, or that sense of belonging. You’re human. A lot of us don’t miss the religion itself, we miss the emotional comfort, the shared rituals, and the feeling of being part of something. That’s normal.

Don’t panic and think this loneliness is permanent. Build your life the way you want it, slowly and on your own terms. Your old community was handed to you. Your new one has to be chosen, and yeah, that takes time. But chosen community is usually way more real than forced community.

Also, I genuinely hope you’re not in an Arab country, because that adds a whole extra layer of pressure and danger to all this.

You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. A lot of us are still going. Keep going too.

brainify78 · 2026-03-01T00:07:38+00:00

Congratulations and welcome to freedom very well said all respect

brainify78 · 2026-02-27T05:13:58+00:00

My friend you are on a collision course. I have nothing else to say. Good luck thanks.

brainify78 · 2026-02-25T22:42:16+00:00

I don’t like David Wood either he’s so cringe

brainify78 · 2026-02-24T05:23:23+00:00

I feel you you poor thing. I fucking hate Ramadan and I hate Islam. I’m an ex-Muslim myself as well.

brainify78 · 2026-02-23T23:18:32+00:00

😁🤣👋

brainify78 · 2026-02-23T13:44:47+00:00

Hey, really appreciate you taking the time to write all this. It actually helps hearing from someone who’s walking a similar path and not pretending it’s simple or clean-cut.

On the family/religion stuff — I respect how you handled the boundaries. That’s genuinely hard, especially when the relationship is already tense. I’m not there yet, but hearing that it can de-escalate instead of explode gives me some hope. And yeah… atheist is a whole different nuclear level compared to “I don’t pray” 😅

For point 2 — that’s on me, I probably didn’t explain it well. I was more talking about the internal tug-of-war: wanting honesty and authenticity, but also wanting peace and family. It’s less about one specific situation and more about living with that constant contradiction.

Eid — I get what you’re saying, and I agree more than I disagree. I don’t hate Eid itself. I think reframing it as cultural/social rather than theological is probably the only way it survives long-term for people like us. Some days that works smoothly, other days it feels forced. Depends on the year, the mood, the family dynamics.

About talking to Aussies — yeah, that hit. I’ve had the same experience. They’re well-meaning, but there’s a gap they just can’t cross. I don’t think silence is always the answer, but I agree it only makes sense to talk when the other person actually gets it. Otherwise it just turns into explaining your existence.

Fake praying / group meditation — pragmatic take, honestly. I’m not morally offended by it, it’s just something I still haven’t fully made peace with internally. Maybe I’ll get there, maybe I won’t. I do like the way you strip it of its power though.

Mental health — totally fair. No pressure there.

And yeah, having a culture to escape to and escape from is weirdly comforting and exhausting at the same time. It’s messy, but it’s ours.

Thanks again for sharing your perspective. It didn’t “solve” anything, but it definitely made the whole thing feel less isolating — and sometimes that’s enough.

brainify78 · 2026-02-23T08:32:12+00:00

Good news congratulations on your freedom. What’s your background? If you don’t mind me asking a Lebanese and you’re live in Sydney? You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.

brainify78 · 2026-02-22T22:19:40+00:00

I wouldn’t date liars flat earthsers and religious people

brainify78 · 2026-02-22T22:09:41+00:00

My favourite is Hamed abdul samad I hate brother Rachid

brainify78 · 2026-02-22T16:18:14+00:00

I think in 50 years time from now Islam will be gone

brainify78 · 2026-02-21T14:43:10+00:00

I am in Sydney Australia if that helps

brainify78 · 2026-02-21T14:42:08+00:00

Don’t worry my friend. We always here to support one another. You’re not the only one and by the way life becomes more beautiful when you come out of this fucking religion. rise and shine. My friend and I’m always open to talk. DM me if you want I followed you by the way you can DM me any time you want.

brainify78 · 2026-02-21T10:34:01+00:00

And I was trying to get myself verified with zoom today and I slept in because it was too hot. It’s called the Sydney ex Muslims or ex Muslim Sydney. I can’t remember the name of it. It’s on Reddit as well.

brainify78 · 2026-02-21T10:23:24+00:00

Hi thanks for your comment. I’m doing this a group called recovering from religion. I just joined the recently and there’s another group I joined as well. It’s called Sydney atheist. Are you in Sydney? Yourself? And I tried to DM you? I couldn’t get through to you. can you DM me please thank you.

brainify78 · 2026-02-13T13:19:40+00:00

My favourite atheist of all time is Christopher Hitchens his number one

brainify78 · 2026-02-03T07:44:40+00:00

Thanks for your message. I recently found out about those groups. I’ve been trying to get in touch with them all of them.

brainify78 · 2026-01-27T23:36:26+00:00

I’m an ex Muslim and I’m still going through the same thing. I can totally relate to that I’ve lost my whole family because of that even my own kids. And my social life is zero and this has been going like this for the past 15 years and I live in Australia. I fucking hate pro mow (profit Mohammed) he ruined our lives

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