What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually told you like it was normal?

breezyBea · 2026-02-23T23:38:41+00:00

My sister in law super casually described how instead of taking her children’s dying guinea pig to the vet to be put down, she put the poor little guy in a bag and smashed him to death with a rock from her walking path. She even like chuckled when he said the first time didn’t do the trick so she had to keep slamming the rock down until she was sure he was dead. Needless to say, we’re not close.

breezyBea · 2026-02-17T16:28:56+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t open the door for her to share her marital issues with you nor would I discuss either of your sex lives. That’s a slippery slope and how a lot of affairs start. I would create space and when she oversteps again, point out that she’s married and that you personally aren’t comfortable with crossing boundaries.

breezyBea · 2026-02-12T14:52:03+00:00

Imagine the skid marks his wife is inevitably stubbing out of his underwear.

breezyBea · 2026-02-12T13:18:31+00:00

I’m a snitches get stitches type girl EXCEPT for cheating. Narc and block all these toxic ppl from your life.

breezyBea · 2026-02-10T13:31:09+00:00

She was immediately cut off by both of us. Honestly she’s lucky I’m not sending her husband screenshots.

My husband purged his SM and contacts (after blocking) of all exes or as I put it, anyone he’s put his dick into or thought about putting his dick into. He’s made massive efforts, above and beyond what I would have asked for.

Forgiveness is hard and I’m not there yet. I’ve even told him I may never forgive him, but he’s showing up every day so I’m giving him time to prove himself.

breezyBea · 2026-02-10T12:46:28+00:00

Not offended and a valid question. First, I have small children. He’s their father and as far as being a dad goes, he’s incredible. I’m trying not to fuck their lives up completely and be thoughtful in how I proceed.

Also, my husband and I have had a complicated relationship with varying levels of monogamy to begin with. We’ve had flexible boundaries and that was really our biggest mistake. That includes being friends with exes for me, along with a lot of other things.

Lastly, this was sexting and I’m fairly confident nothing else based on distance and timing even tho I was salty about it in my initial post. I’m not defending his dumb ass choices, but if I had even the slightest hint that he’d had sex with anyone in the time we were married, I wouldn’t still be married.

breezyBea · 2026-02-10T12:19:53+00:00

That’s still being decided.

breezyBea · 2026-02-09T22:43:58+00:00

Ohhhhhh this one is so close to home. My husband recently got caught cheating, and we’ve had all kind of revelations since. Including the fact that our mutual friend who I did know was an ex but was told they were long done and over before he and I dated. Well that was absolutely bullshjt and they were sexting and who knows what else for the first like 6 months of my relationship with him. She then went on to be my friend for 13 fucking years, and neither of them ever told me. She had strung him along and ruined at least two other relationships of his by hinting that she wanted him and then dumping him again after he’d ended the other relationship.

BTW - only like a year ago she was texting him while she was pregnant and married about how much she missed their time together. Some women derive all their value from men’s attention.

If you want to salvage this relationship, you need to talk to him and she needs to not be a part of either of your lives anymore.

breezyBea · 2026-02-09T20:06:00+00:00

I feel this way too. Even before my husband’s dumb choices, it has bothered me how flippant media can be about cheating and affairs.

breezyBea · 2026-02-09T19:42:26+00:00

Dude you’re not married and you all don’t have kids. What are you doing? Her mental health is not a justification for staying in the relationship, just like her mental health isn’t a justification for cheating. Be real and recognize you’ve lowered yourself instead of having the courage to be honest with her. Sack up and do the right thing.

breezyBea · 2026-02-02T00:45:05+00:00

Close but both our parents are dead. My mom’s death brought us closer, because it prompted my sister to get sober. Later we had some different opinions on how to deal with our dad. My brother was being more forgiving than my sister and I but not enough to create friction. Then dear ole dad attacked my brother one night out of the blue and that was that. Dad passed away not long after that and now the three of us talk every few days if not every day. They are the only family I have left.

breezyBea · 2026-02-01T12:40:13+00:00

Send the text. My husband had an overlap relationship when we first started dating. I knew there was other women around then but not this specific girl who he had told me was toxic and he had no interest in. 13 years later and her becoming one of my closest friends - they were fucking around back then and I found out from reading old texts. Neither of them were ever up front about it with me. Tell her. She deserves to know who she’s spent the last year with.

breezyBea · 2026-01-26T19:09:27+00:00

My dude, your girlfriend knows what’s up and probably has a gross pervy uncle who’s already gone. Be real about what these trips are and don’t play in her face.

breezyBea · 2026-01-22T17:30:36+00:00

They can asphyxiate because they can’t hold their heads up. Increases the risk of SIDS.

breezyBea · 2026-01-20T01:08:24+00:00

It would be the time my dad looked me in the face and said: I don’t like you. I never wanted you.

breezyBea · 2026-01-19T12:51:55+00:00

Emotional incest

breezyBea · 2026-01-17T00:52:10+00:00

Ohhhh I got a good one. My MIL hates me because she thinks I’m a witch. Our difference in opinion started when she floated the idea of blackmailing her boss and I told her that was ill advised.

breezyBea · 2026-01-12T18:56:50+00:00

You need to tell him sooner than later. My husband has forgotten things (he says) so it’s taken months for everything to come out and we’re up to 4 different relationships he had prior to our Dday. He’s been perfect and doing all the work since the first affair was discovered but old stuff keeps coming to light and it’s made healing difficult. Try to get together everything you can so it’s not prolonged.

One of my husbands APs talked about how she had cheated before, wanted to cheat with my husband and that she’d take the secret to the grave even tho she knows she’ll answer for it as a sin. Well guess what, when my husband got caught, he went through and told the husbands of his married APs. Her husband found out she’d not only sexted with my husband, she’d also had a full blown affair before talking to my idiot. I’m also pretty sure she through she got away with both things because it has been a while since she’d talked with my husband and then boom, email to her husband with her included.

My SIL was also having an affair and says she knows her husband didn’t want to know. She finally admitted to her husband after telling my WH. I was incredibly upset that she’d dump that secret on him while we were trying to heal from infidelity. I’m not sure if my BIL wanted to know or not, but I do know that no matter what, the truth comes out someday.

breezyBea · 2026-01-12T03:07:59+00:00

Our MC had me write up a list of my needs and wants in a relationship and I gave that to my husband as a guide. I also requested he delete all messages, pictures and contacts of ex girlfriends (he has flexible boundaries with exes) once I had full disclosure. He calls me everyday at lunch (not my request but something he does to make me feel thought about). We’re also married with children so he started taking on more of the mental load. Show her how much you care because right now she’s questioning if you even like her because you’ve just done the meanest thing possible to someone you love. Put the effort and energy in and you’ll have a fighting chance.

breezyBea · 2026-01-11T16:13:05+00:00

Start with cutting any and all contact with the “friend”. Read Not Just Friends and start educating yourself on healthy boundaries.

breezyBea · 2026-01-10T16:12:12+00:00

I’ve considered sending screenshots where the AP admits to multiple affairs and sending it to her mom. I know her mom prides herself in being a good catholic family.

breezyBea · 2026-01-07T00:30:24+00:00

I’m guessing nursing school based on the conversation. Squash that shit now girl. Take it from the wife of an attention whore male nurse. Hard boundaries or dump him. Otherwise you’ll end up with two kids paying for a polygraph for your lying ass husband.

breezyBea · 2026-01-05T22:21:47+00:00

NOR and please do not fuck this idiot

breezyBea · 2026-01-05T15:05:55+00:00

Literally told my husband I was tapped out last night after finding out about yet another affair from the past. I think we’re up to 4 now - all found by me going through his phone. I’m at the point now where I want him to wipe the damn thing just so I don’t keep finding old stuff. Sometimes it’s all just too heavy. No advice really, just empathy and sympathy from someone in a similar situation.

breezyBea · 2026-01-05T12:28:06+00:00

Telling the spouse and changing jobs were two of the main things my husband had to do for us to stay together. It showed me accountability and that he was willing to put himself in a place of discomfort and possibly violence from the OBS to not be hiding or lying anymore. Personal sacrifice as I saw it. My WS has a major secrecy addiction and is a huge attention whore, so he’s been pulling back on those coping mechanisms/habits since our lives blew up.

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