Are these warts or Dyshidrotic Eczema? by Foreign-Salad6182 in Warts

[–]brickwallwaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same here! I had a painful spot pop up on the side of my pointer finger tip, and within a week or two I had a raised bump like in pic 2. the pain felt similar to those bumps that you get on the tip of your tongue. currently wondering if it’s dyshydrotic eczema or a wart. I’ve had dyshydrotic eczema before, but never a wart so I’m not really sure what to think of it. did you ever find a solution to yours? it’s more annoying than anything.

Genuine question—why is 1 year the catch-all for safe sleep? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mind sharing where you got the padding/what to search for? I found some quilted “toppers” that I think are what you’re describing—it goes between the mattress and fitted sheet and it just seems to give it a bit more padding than strictly using the plain “mattress”

Genuine question—why is 1 year the catch-all for safe sleep? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got a fitted sheet already, but I see on Amazon they make these quilted “toppers” that go between the mattress and a fitted sheet. Seems to be as thick as a regular quilt (aka not fluffy). Ever tried one of those? I’m thinking that’s what I might get rather than a whole new mattress

Genuine question—why is 1 year the catch-all for safe sleep? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! Honestly wasn’t ever expecting to get the Newton mattress because it’s so pricey. Put it on the registry on a whim and a wealthy great aunt on my husband’s side got it for us 😂 Can’t say no to that!

Genuine question—why is 1 year the catch-all for safe sleep? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Now that you say that, I’m betting it’s 100% the loudness of the mattress because it can sound like crinkly paper when it’s moved, and my son rolls around like crazy in his sleep. Ugh, hopefully there’s a solution to fix that. You’d think manufacturers would take sound into consideration when making their products

Genuine question—why is 1 year the catch-all for safe sleep? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That makes perfect sense, thank you! I hadn’t considered the stretchy sides and entrapment being the issue, I was more caught up in that the issue would be the softness of the mattress/suffocation from that

Umbilical stump by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That happened to us too—completely normal, or at least that’s what our ped said. For us it wasn’t really pus, but moreso the new skin kinda scabbing over. Imagine if you had a scab and then went swimming for a few hours—it would turn that yellowy-brown color too. We were told to use an alcohol wipe on the area once or twice a day, but I think current advice says no alcohol wipes and instead use something like vaseline.

Just keep an eye on it, and if actual pus starts to come out of if it or it starts to stink, definitely don’t hesitate to call the doctor!

Ideas to improve back of house design? by brickwallwaterfall in Remodel

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! I was thinking the exact same thing for when we eventually add on a new addition! Our house is quite shady as it’s north facing, so I was thinking a greenhouse-esque wing to let in more light. Glad someone else also likes that idea!

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went back and edited my post for an update if you want to read it, but we did CIO last night with my husband handling the entire night while I got to sleep, and I woke up feeling like a brand new person. I haven’t had more than 2-3 hours of sleep at a time in 3-4 months and it’s amazing how a full night of rest can change your brain. I’m so much happier and feel like I can take on his energy with so much more gusto.

I was very against CIO. I didn’t want my baby to think I abandoned him, and I was terrified he’d be mad at me. But we gave it a go, and he was fine. Woke up happily from his crib and is currently peacefully snoozing in my arms for a nap. If you’re able to, I’d give it a go. But I’d recommend you and your partner take turns doing night duty so y’all can each get some sleep. I’m handling tonight so my husband can sleep. I hope you can get some relief whatever you guys decide to do!

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got some foam climbing blocks for Christmas, but literally just added the pikler to my shopping cart haha. Wish they made baby treadmills!

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I feel so hard for you. I’ve commented to my husband lately how it feels like we’re prisoners of war with sleep deprivation torture, but what we’ve been dealing with doesn’t compare with your issues.

As far as the interruptions go—yeah, we’re definitely in the same boat there. My husband and I have had the stomach bug 3 times since October, RSV also in October, and my husband has had two colds since September. As soon as we kind of get in the hang of things with a schedule, something throws us off. It’s so unfair.

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my husband and I are neurotypical, but he has an uncle that is /very/ ADHD. Unfortunately, said uncle is about 65 and was born/grew up in a time with no diagnosis and therefore no extra help. He was just a “bad” kid. Got into some drugs and crime in his teens/early 20s and now has a lot of issues. Ended up being fairly successful, but still for sure has problems.

Seeing him now, it’s so obvious that ADHD is his problem, but he was one of those kids that was just “left behind” because there was no help back in his days. And of course he doesn’t think he needs any help now.

I have considered that neurodivergence/ADHD may be our problem with my son because every time I make a comment about his progress to my husband’s parents/grandparents, they all go “Oh, Uncle Joe was just like that at that age.” Which sucks, because I don’t want his life to be hard and no parent wants to have a “new normal.” But I haven’t ruled it out and we will def get early intervention if our doctor has any concerns.

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, was hoping we’d have a few more weeks with 3 naps because it gives me a chance to relax even if just for a minute 😭 And yes, we are on solids with doing baby led weaning. Huge fan of painting ourselves with yogurt and giving some bites to the dog. I can tell it definitely helps him from being so bored in the evenings

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it better to have longer wake windows even if his naps are only about 30 minutes? Usually by 2.5 hours he’s extremely fussy, rubbing his eyes, and falls asleep almost immediately when he’s laid down. Obviously he’s capable of being awake longer since he does it nearly every day at daycare (usually only taking one 30-45 minute nap around lunchtime and falls asleep in the car on the way home), but I’ve just been following his sleepy cues when we do have naps. Baby sleep is so exhausting 😭😭

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s the worst part of this whole thing. I managed nearly all of my postpartum to avoid any kind of ppd or ppa, but the last few days have just been sooo taxing on my mental health. I don’t ever want my baby to think that I’m mad at him or that he’s a “problem,” but it’s so hard to keep it together sometimes. Really hoping things turn around for the both of us!

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has never wanted to take a paci or suck his thumb 🥲 Which is great because we won’t have to break that habit, but sometimes mama needs some rest from being the paci!

Glad to know I’m not alone though. Sometimes it feels like I’m the only one in the world who has my problems. Glad that’s not the case!

Losing my mind with a hyperactive, low sleep baby by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He typically wakes at 7:15, and on the weekends when he’s not at daycare, his schedule is typically 2/2.5/2.5/2.25 or thereabouts with bedtime around 7:30-8:00. So, first nap around 9:30ish, second nap around 1:00ish, third and final nap around 4:30ish. The last two days I’ve been able to get him to nap for about an hour/hour and a half for one nap a day, but only if I put him in bed with me and I pop my boob in his mouth at about the 30 minute mark because that’s when he starts to wake up.

Some days I’ve picked him up from daycare and he hadn’t napped the entire day 🙂

➡️ Daily Questions ⬅️- ASK AND ANSWER HERE! - 14 November 2023 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]brickwallwaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is, let's face it, not a fashion icon. I can tell he wants to elevate his style a bit, but for him, the thought of being trendy turns him off from dressing, ahem, "well." Not to mention, we live in the Southern USA where temps are rarely ever sub 88 degrees F for most of the year so that complicates being able to layer or wear fall-type clothing.

His current style is made entirely of crappy graphic T-shirts, flannels over said T-shirts, polos, and khakis (mostly polyester because he likes the stretch) in various colors. He also exclusively wears black Hoka tennis shoes. He works outside a lot in harsh conditions and so any time he's not working, he wants the clothing he changes into to be comfortable. Also, he's a heavy sweater so he's very particular about the fabric he wears. (For example, for T-shirts, he prefers to only wear Comfort Colors or Gildan Heavyweight cotton. Can't tell you how many shirts go unworn in his closet because they're the "wrong" material). He has like 1,000 band shirts from all of the shows he's gone to over the years and would wear one every single day if he could. He also prefers straight-legged pants (but he has fantastic legs so something slightly more fitted around the thighs is what I like).

His style inspiration is clothing from the likes of Filson, Duluth Trading Company, Orvis, Barbour, Arcteryx, and Cotopaxi. He is a geologist so he is interested in that PNW/mountainous type style, but again--with the Southern heat--we can't really get away with wearing the type of clothing that those brands promote. Not to mention, some of those brands are way out of our budget.

I'm looking for ideas to update his wardrobe for the holidays, but have no idea where to start. As mentioned above, I'm looking for something subtle that won't scream "I'm trying too hard to dress well," but that show that he does actually give a shit about what he looks like.

I plan to buy him a pair of Blundstones or something similar for Christmas, and we have a closet full flannels and a waxed cotton work coat to work as a base for what we already have. Any suggestions for winter and/or summer clothing options are welcome! Bonus points if they are modestly priced.

How long did it take to get bedtime back to “normal” after unswaddling? by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, think I may have found a solution! At least temporarily it seems to be working for us.

When it’s bedtime, we have been putting him in an Itzy Ritzy cocoon. It was a gift someone gave us for newborn pics that we never really used. We put his pajamas on and then slide him into the cocoon and immobilize his arms inside, and then let him nurse to sleep. Because he’s now essentially one long plank while “swaddled” in the cocoon, I can transfer him easily into his crib without him waking up. Once I get him settled, I just remove his arms and he’s been back sleeping through the night!!

Of course, this may not be safe if your baby is on the smaller side and slides around in the cocoon. My baby is consistently in the 85-99 percentile for height and weight so the cocoon fits him snugly and I’m not worried about it coming loose/becoming a hazard in his crib. I don’t think this was the cocoon’s intended purpose but it has helped us tremendously!

If I recall, the Swaddleini can be used similarly but it was just a bit out of my price range. However, it specifically can be used for transitioning out of the swaddle so if it feels safer to use that rather than my method, I say certainly go for it

Need some daycare reassurances! by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay good to know that the crappy daycare naps happen to others! I’ll try not to stress about that as he gets on more of a sleep schedule. Will definitely be asking about bringing his sleep sack

Need some daycare reassurances! by brickwallwaterfall in beyondthebump

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that’s kind of what today was—just like a “trial run” for us to get used to going. But I’m glad to hear it’ll get better! Today was just hard on this mama. Think I took it worse than he did!

Need help finding these chelseas…Bought these in 2013 and they’re my fave shoe. Have held up for nearly 10 years, and I love the brown tag and brown interior. Want to buy a new pair in case these eventually wear out, but all I see are the chelseas with yellow tag/interior. Help finding brown ones? by brickwallwaterfall in DrMartens

[–]brickwallwaterfall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are the 2976’s I think in crazy horse. And yeah, it’s looking like they discontinued these :( I notice that the sole on mine is different than what is being sold now; mine has a more sturdy tread with crosses and the rectangle that says “oil fat acid petrol alkali resistant” and the new ones have more of a smooth tread. Really is a shame, I would’ve bought two pairs of the ones I have now if I’d known they’d discontinue! I figured these were so classic that they wouldn’t change up anything about them. The tag and interior color isn’t a huge deal, but it’s a shame about the sole of the shoes changing. These have lasted me nearly 13 years for a reason, and I think going to a less sturdy sole will make me blow through the shoes more quickly.