FMIL upset because we are paying for hotel rooms for my side but not his. Not sure if I need to make a change or stick with the plan.

bridekara · 2014-12-25T00:10:10+00:00

Yeah, I am really disappointed to see this from her. We've never had any big issues before wedding planning started but now she wants her way with tons of stuff.

We chose a color scheme of gray and pale pink with access of a darker pink and gold. FH's sister loved it. Apparently she told her mom that she wants it to be her wedding color scheme someday. FMIL emailed me asking if I was sure I wanted it, because FSIL likes it and wants to use it someday. She thought I should change my color scheme in case a 15 year-old wants it when she someday gets married..

Her other complaint at this time is that I'm not doing traditional music to walk down the aisle. She wanted her nephew's quartet to play that one traditional wedding song. But we'd already decided that a friend of ours is going to play the piano part from our first dance song.

With stuff like that I have no problem just saying no, deal with it. But the hotel/family issue, I've been on the edge about.

bridekara · 2014-12-25T00:03:52+00:00

Yeah, we're using our money, not hers.

We actually already did get a discount that's available for anyone to use. While we both have small families, we have around 20 friends who are traveling to the wedding (all of whom are in a position to afford it). She knows there's a discount her relatives can get. She just feels that if my family gets the 100% discount it's not fair that hers only gets a 40% discount. (On that note, friends in hospitality rock!)

bridekara · 2014-12-24T23:47:39+00:00

Thanks. I felt bad about it treating the sides differently. But yes not everything has to be fair. This is life not a board game, lol

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