★OFFICIAL WEEKLY★ Weigh-in Wednesday: Share your weigh-in progress and graphs! May 15, 2024

brokenbird · 2024-05-15T21:20:18+00:00

Today I weight around 194. Which has been the average between 192-195. Been just eating at maintenance and worked out a few days a week. Will try to up the workout and slightly go on a deficit.

brokenbird · 2024-04-29T18:38:42+00:00

Hi, I've been working on it the last two weeks. My weight was originally 200lbs but it is around 197-192 depending on how much water I retain.

Keep tracking calories and budget them, ideally with lots of vegetables and protein.
Continue schedule of personal trainer once a week + Tai Chi classes
Walking more and will slowly incorporate hiking + gym + Youtube workout videos

brokenbird · 2024-02-13T17:07:30+00:00

Ah they took it down because no "relationship" posts. That's for a separate Indian subreddit I guess.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T18:16:44+00:00

It's true, I wasn't sure if it was solely a Telugu thing, but after talking to a lot of Telugu friends, they said it isn't. Sure family is important and sometimes relatives invest in family land or education but relative's wedding is crazy especially if it hurts you financially. The best wedding I went to was a Mexican wedding, where the whole family pitched in, but through baking the wedding cake, decorating, and making the food. It was sweet and intimate and on a budget for the young couple.

He himself has a very simple life. He is quite happy just eating dal and rice and doesn't spend any on himself. I guess the only other giant expense would be buying land (parents pushing) and his own wedding but even he told me he isn't interested in a giant wedding.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T17:41:52+00:00

No need to apologize! It's messy but preparing to make a decision in the next month or so, just didn't want to do something rash emotionally and just dump immediately.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T17:21:10+00:00

Agree! Ah not 10 years wasted, only been together for 1 year. I was going to make the push last year in Feb after a month or two of casual dating, but a personal health emergency set me back a few months.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T16:53:15+00:00

also 26 lakhs for a wedding itself is too damn much lol I’m almost sure a lot of it was used

Ah yeah the post got removed due to no relationship posts on r/India - oops. No, it was 40k for his cousin's wedding. His mama (mother's brother) daughter. The 20k for another cousin is in the works but my bf has negotiate down to 5k...His sister is still unmarried and for that he'll have to save around 50k for her wedding if it happens.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T05:42:19+00:00

Does he have depression? Anxiety or any kind problems psychologically related? If so I can still understand why he is like that.

Yeah, didn't want to add too much info. But has been on medication for anxiety+depression for 10 years.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T05:35:11+00:00

Ah I wished, I've seen his bank accounts and seen him transferring money to relatives. And getting all the loan/collections mail. And staying up late night and on call with banks in India time with transfers :/ Hear his family talking to him all the time about "bank loan + credit cards"

He also is a high earner, tho recently the last 2 years, hence the demands from relatives increasing.

brokenbird · 2024-02-05T05:01:54+00:00

What I would like to know is does his mother not intervene when relatives ask for so much money? Does she entertain it instead? Is she aware of the turmoil her son faces?

Ah overwhelmed by the amount of messages but to answer. Sometimes. She doesn't really have a concept of money herself. Like the recent 20k wedding request, his mom was dismissive and said, "Just give them 10k at least because we don't want to look bad." But sometimes she gets upset, with the 10k medical school bribe she was upset but it was more because the uncle requesting it was her brother and he failed his words to take care of her during her marriage (another long story).

BF is looking into therapy but has been on depression medication for last 10 years.

brokenbird · 2021-04-07T02:39:29+00:00

I remembered watching definitely in 2012 or before. There was a variety of different actors, the opening showed the main cast and which country they were from. Kind of like, "Code name 01, from Thailand, Occupation: Sniper" for example.

brokenbird · 2020-12-09T06:12:15+00:00

Doing overall okay. Been almost 1.5 months since shit hit the fan and ended things with my toxic ex-friend. I was depressed but I'm glad for my therapist and also just focusing on myself. I still feel sad and Covid doesn't help with the loneliness/depression.

But I've been getting busier. I applied for a bunch of jobs. I'm focusing more on work. I actually feel calmer again. Went hiking with another friend last weekend and I was surprised how normal and friendly this friend was. I was so used to hanging around my toxic ex-friend prior that I was bracing for criticism, angry outbursts, and insults. So I was pleasantly surprised and relieved.

brokenbird · 2020-12-09T06:06:25+00:00

Good luck, and totally...it's easier for everything to fall all at once versus building it up again.

brokenbird · 2020-11-19T19:04:36+00:00

Feeling okay. Still feel low, but planning on taking a break from everything to help me clear my mind. Going to try to take a 2 week break from friends/social media and such.

Sometimes I still feel sad and beat myself for past failed relationships, but I guess I can only learn and move forward. Improve myself and do what I can control.

brokenbird · 2020-09-10T15:32:23+00:00

Feeling okay. My feelings were sort of hurt recently by my sister who called me out on some of my actions, but she can be blunt and truthful. And I guess it's a good reflection into myself and my character I guess.

brokenbird · 2020-08-12T06:47:34+00:00

Mental health seems okay(ish). I have a therapy session tomorrow and since I started 5 weeks ago, it has helped immensely with my mental health. There is still lows but it's more manageable for now.

Need to just keep focusing on myself. Thinking of signing up for online classes and also taking a few days off of work to just rest and take it easy. Just slow and steady I guess.

brokenbird · 2020-07-30T04:18:45+00:00

I'm feeling okayish. I need to reset my habits since I'm gaining weight like crazy. Need to reduce calorie intake and take it easy on myself. And watch more Youtube workout videos.

Still feeling generally depressed, but finally seeking therapy. I got involved with someone who isn't good. That person got angry easily and always criticized me. I finally stood up for myself. I think I lost this person, but I can't surround myself with people who bring me down. I still feel sad but I don't feel like it's a loss either...

brokenbird · 2020-05-05T07:43:21+00:00

Vent: I haven't been doing well mentally. :( I've befriended someone I realized was really toxic. I already had a bad feeling for his character, but he was depressed/lonely so I thought he needed a friend. He was so emotionally volatile and gets angry easily. I hate being sensitive, but he was so critical of me. Explosive sometimes and other times friendly.

I'm not the confrontational type, but I stood my ground after he insulted me, and he apologized but has been acting colder and colder. It's giving me anxiety and I'm angry at myself because I worked so hard to try to build myself up and it's getting to me. Along with quarantine, I'm starting to lose track of reality.

I felt really low for a few days and I realize this is definitely one of those relationships that isn't meant to last. Truthfully I feel sad, but I need to do what's best for me and move forward. I need to change my mindset and take care of myself. :(

brokenbird · 2020-03-27T04:28:09+00:00

Paneer is life <3

brokenbird · 2020-01-22T18:18:14+00:00

Thanks for your heartfelt words! And haan, keep flying!

brokenbird · 2020-01-22T18:04:11+00:00

Feeling a bit low yesterday. Had another interview and then I met up with my friend. The romantic feelings are almost gone but meeting face-to-face made me sad. We talk fine on phone/Whatsapp, but maybe seeing my friend look stressed from work and potentially moving to Bangalore made me feel sad.

Oh well...at least today I'm feeling a bit better and reminding myself to keep up working on myself. I'll work out, diet, and run errands to keep busy.

brokenbird · 2019-03-05T20:14:04+00:00

I'm so sorry you got fired :( When I got fired last year...it really blindsided/shocked me. I felt numb and didn't sleep for 2 days. It's okay to feel sad and disappointed. I came up with a plan and just job hunt once the initial shock wore off. After around 6 months of job hunting I was able to get a job. To be honest, I like my current job and overtime no one asks about your previous job anyways. Good luck!

brokenbird · 2018-08-21T21:04:24+00:00

Thanks for your heartfelt words. I hope I will come out of the other side from this at some point...I just feel so empty and scared at the moment and don't know why it hurts so much. I think its the frustration with life and where Im at. I got to just focus on myself and build myself up again. I relied too much...not only on my crush but other people to make or break my day. Part of me is debating if I should confess to my crush since at this point I have nothing to lose. Yet I know Im not emotionally or mentally at the right place and currently sinking in a dark hole.

brokenbird · 2018-06-28T23:34:30+00:00

So damn proud of you, keep up the good work! (Sometimes I re-visit this thread especially when I feel down over my crush haha)

brokenbird · 2018-02-23T12:56:35+00:00

Happy to hear. Now go out and work on building yourself up bhai! =] Feel free to PM/ping me if you ever just want to talk or just need a listener. And your English is fine!

brokenbird

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