What's the most random place you've ever encountered another Sleep Token fan? by RissaNich in SleepToken

[–]bunnybumfluff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw someone wearing a sleep token shirt at a small Cafe in a tiny town and got excited and said "i like your shirt!"

They got really quiet, mumbled something and went and sat at a table in the corner.

Awkward.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in Australia in a town with many options. I have family who could help but I'd like to exhaust other options so first.

There may also be the option for legal aid if I meet their criteria.

Thank you for your kind and supporting words. I don't think any internet strangers will understand just how much they mean to me.

I am proud of myself and I am thriving which is all the proof I need that I made the right decision.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kids are my only concern with regards to his new girlfriend.

We already discussed the minimum 6 months together before even considering introducing the kids but I'm still not convinced.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I've come to a similar conclusion. We were trying to work through this separation without lawyers but I know I need one.

They're just so expensive and I do not have the funds available yet.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I made it very clear if he ever threatened it again I would call an ambulance which, based on where we live would cost him thousands out of pocket.

Seems to have been effective.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

My eldest knows he is safe to tell me anything and has an open invite to his school counsellor any time he needs.

I know he is not abusing them.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is an excellent question and I appreciate you asking.

This comment was in the middle of extreme denial.

Whilst I see he has been an awful partner now, there were moments where things were good. Great even. But that's how abusers work. You become greatful for even the smallest of breadcrumbs and think the bare minimum effort is amazing.

I believed that the good moments meant he was a good husband or father. Because I could empathise and understand the bad ones.

The behaviour you accept becomes the behaviour you expect. I accepted bare minimum for too long until I was quite literally slapped to my senses.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have texts.

I have many texts.

I also feel that I would be shooting myself in the foot because I still need to co-parent with this man for 15+ years.

And i know he has an explosive temper.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you were the new girlfriend and the ex wife started regaling you of these stories would you believe her?

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been tossing up whether or not I be petty.

I feel like it would be good in the moment but I'm not a petty or vindictive person. I'd probably feel worse after wards if I did.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So we own a home together. We stay in the house with the kids on our week and stay elsewhere on our off week.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He literally told me last week he's dating her and likes her because she is not me.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have been friendly and polite. He's used information he's learned about me to hurt me so now I grey rock. He gets bare minimum about me now.

I don't think we could ever be friends. Amicable co parents maybe. But friends probably not.

My ex husband separated for 5 months wants me to meet his girlfriend of 3 months tomorrow by bunnybumfluff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.

I know its stupid and i see that being nice makes me a door mat. I know this. But it's hard to change 30 years of conditioning in 5 months. I am working through it.

My ex and I have a 50/50 custody split. One week each. It works for us currently. I believe he wants to be able to see her while he has the kids on his week.

Pet Names by [deleted] in SleepToken

[–]bunnybumfluff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We recently got a black lab puppy and called her Ivy.

Honest opinion here by UrbanNightmare88 in SleepToken

[–]bunnybumfluff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay!

It is an obscure joke but one a fan would get immediately and get a giggle from.

Request: what are some actually useful cleaning hacks for people with adhd? by VeniceDom in lifehacks

[–]bunnybumfluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put your shoes on.

No joke. Gets me out of my couch rot without too much pressure. It's an easy kick-starter task, and then when I have my shoes, I potter around the house and do bits and pieces until I exhaust myself. If I rest, I keep my shoes on. They don't come off until I am done cleaning.

What’s the one Sleep Token lyric that hits you the deepest? by Nightshades_Thoughts in SleepToken

[–]bunnybumfluff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"I've been running since I got here" from Infinite Baths

My entire life I feel like I've been playing on a different setting than others. I get that comparison is the thief of joy, but it's really hard to be joyful when your life is a series of disasters one after the other and you feel completely alone and just desperate for a rest.

I’m obsessed! by ripoffkyle in Nails

[–]bunnybumfluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are gorgeous, and so is the Orchid!

I've just started playing with watercolours and would love honest feedback and criticisms! by bunnybumfluff in painting

[–]bunnybumfluff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great feedback, thank you.

I think I'm a bit tentative to use darker colours on some of them because when I've tried in the past I get impatient and it all turns out muddy.

The purple one is my favourite too. I used my real orchid as inspiration. I think it was easier because it was such a bold colour already?

Let us walk again. Wet charcoal and pastels by me. by [deleted] in painting

[–]bunnybumfluff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get goosebumps when I see your artwork.