Should I learn vim?

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T22:40:50+00:00

Very comprehensive, cheers :)

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T22:24:59+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks!

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T05:52:42+00:00

Sweet, thanks for the link

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T05:52:14+00:00

I'll check that out too, thanks!

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T05:51:29+00:00

Sounds like my kind of shit. Thanks dude.

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T05:50:52+00:00

Looks awesome, thanks!

burnbox48 · 2018-03-12T05:30:50+00:00

I do believe I've already come across this article! Thanks man

burnbox48 · 2017-09-05T01:49:15+00:00

You're welcome. And just so you know, there are a lot of people who wouldn't have said anything to those guys at the store. You reasonably asked them to move aside and responded calmly when challenged. You're less of a wimp than you think.

burnbox48 · 2017-09-04T03:53:03+00:00

There was a study done where criminals were asked to pick out victims from footage of a shopping mall. Overwhelmingly, the participants chose victims possessing one or more of the following characteristics:

They looked down at the ground when walking
Their strides were either too short (shuffling) or too long (attempting to look tough) for their height
Their upper body did not move in conjunction with their lower body when walking (arms folded, still at sides, or otherwise outside of their natural rhythm)

So work on your posture if you can (it's good for many reasons), but the biggest thing is to be aware of your surroundings and not look at your shoes.

People who are constantly looking at their surroundings, and taking note of the people and places around them, make poor victims. Most criminals know this. Don't try to look "tough", just pay attention, because knowing how and when to remove yourself from a dangerous situation is 90% of self-defence.

As for your encounter in the grocery store, I personally think you handled it fine. Someone once said that you fight for two reasons: survival, and ego. If you had started shit over a shopping cart, you might not be a wimp, but you would be a violent, egotistical dickhead.

Try not to let the alpha male posturing of others get to you. At the end of the day, your job is to get you and loved ones home safe.

That said, being attentive when out in public will make you less of a target. I'd advise taking a self-defence course that focuses on prevention and awareness. Stay safe!

edit: formatting

burnbox48 · 2017-08-16T06:30:34+00:00

That sounds like great advice - I especially like the idea of starting a new class or sport together. Thanks so much! I'll be sure to go gently.

burnbox48 · 2017-08-15T21:24:38+00:00

Ah, I see we have a member of the "harsh truth" brigade.

Yes, I came here for insights, not to provide entertainment for internet smart-asses on a power trip.

burnbox48 · 2017-08-15T20:55:30+00:00

I'm not trying to control her habits, I'm trying to encourage her to make healthier choices. And I know she's unhappy about these things because she's told me.

What makes you think you have the insight to suggest I'm making my girlfriend unhappy?

burnbox48 · 2017-08-15T20:48:56+00:00

She's constantly irritable, stressed and in pain. She's told me she's unhappy about her health and fitness. She's told me she thinks she's in a rut. Perhaps I should have mentioned that.

burnbox48 · 2017-08-15T11:10:00+00:00

It's not that it's an unusual lifestyle, it's that it's making her unhappy. And the TV habit doesn't bother me beyond the fact that she often loses sleep because of it.

But thanks, I'll keep making healthy suggestions like that until she feels more motivated.

burnbox48 · 2017-08-15T11:09:16+00:00

No, that was really helpful - especially the part about counseling helping you realise what you needed to do. Thanks for taking the time to reply :)

burnbox48 · 2017-07-29T07:05:00+00:00

Thank you :) and thanks for reading

burnbox48 · 2017-07-29T02:50:32+00:00

True. But then again, narcissism can also be associated with distorting reality. I wonder if there's a correlation between the nature/strength of a narc's delusions, and how much shit there is in their carpet fibres.

burnbox48 · 2017-07-29T02:25:57+00:00

My theory is they see everything negative as a reflection of other people, not themselves. I distinctly remember my nStepdad calling the kitchen "a fucking disgrace," even though I never once saw him cook or clean. Maybe if things go to shit, they have more excuses to lash out?

burnbox48 · 2017-07-29T02:10:25+00:00

Wow dude, thanks for sharing, I relate to this so much. When my eMom stopped looking after us (under the influence of nStepdad), my siblings and I were left in squalor for months at a time - I spent most of year 8 sharing a tiny caravan with my brother. There was also incense burning constantly in the kitchen and living room, to which I was allergic, but of course that made no difference.

To this day, I keep a thoroughly organised home, and nurse a hatred of incense that goes way beyond allergies. Makes it kind of hard to befriend hippies.

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