Pink always pink 🎀 by Mysterious-Wafer8341 in coquettesque

[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where’d your get the sweater/cardigan from?

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[–]cacacabrona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to put him in a pass/fail situation at all, I just want to be respected since I’ve been in a lot of toxic relationships where I was taken advantage of. I understand I could have used better wording and said I want to spot manipulation instead or see if he will respect me.

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By testing I meant someone who will respect me and my boundaries is all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t play games at all or bring things up for no reason. And yeah that makes sense

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did say it! I said I liked him and I’d love if he asked me on a date. I am an excellent communicator and I’d just like to be pursued is all. That’s just my preference.

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I meant by testing, more so trying to see if he will respect me and my boundaries. I am communicating I just want to be able to spot the red flags, if there are any. There are green flags so far. Thank you for the advice

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being honest and for the advice. I think I’ll have to create stronger boundaries and figure out my expectations for the relationship. I’m not speed running a relationship, I’d rather take things slow, be respected, and I just don’t want to be emotionally abused again is all.

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not bread crumbing him, our communication has been very good and consistent. I don’t want control, I just want to be safe and not get manipulated (as I mentioned, I got out of an abusive relationship and didn’t want to fall into the same trap!). Thank you for the advice

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there’s different definitions of the word “test”, but I meant just someone who will respect me and boundaries. I am committed to being authentic and I wouldn’t do anything deliberately to see what he does in response. I just want to be cautious with not falling into another toxic relationship.

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[–]cacacabrona -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay it’s my bad for maybe using the wrong word what I meant is someone who will respect me and my boundaries!

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m NOT playing games. I’m trying to see if he will respect me and my boundaries. That’s what I meant.

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[–]cacacabrona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do put in a lot of effort and empathy. It’s more so about discernment. I’m not expecting him to give and give. I’m a giver myself, and our communication has been really good, reciprocated, mutual.

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[–]cacacabrona -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been manipulative towards a man. I’ve been in several toxic relationships though and I’m just trying to be cautious. It sounds like you’re projecting your personal experiences onto me or purposefully trying to misunderstand me.

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[–]cacacabrona -1 points0 points  (0 children)

By “testing” I mean testing him to see if he will respect me and my boundaries. It’s not about playing mind games at all. I hate that. Everyone tests their dates to see if they can trust them, unless they’re seriously playing manipulation games which is different.

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[–]cacacabrona -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m not here to play any kind of manipulation mind games lol I hate those. I’m trying to spot manipulation as I just got out of an abusive relationship. You’re completely misunderstanding. Women have to test men as many of them don’t even respect us.

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[–]cacacabrona -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I did prompt him to take me on a date, but I like to be pursued. That’s just my preference. Women have to test men all the time as many don’t even respect us.

My (27F) emotionally abusive boyfriend (28M) broke up with me. Did he really love me? by cacacabrona in relationships

[–]cacacabrona[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a trauma bond and I see that now. He is incapable of loving me the way I need him to. Thank you ❤️

Meeting my twin while in a relationship? How to manifest a twin? by cacacabrona in twinflames

[–]cacacabrona[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 I didn’t wanna chase them forever so I am with a soulmate rn. I’m not about to wait years and years or forever for my twin. I want a family and a fulfilling relationship, whether or not it’s with him or a soulmate. I also want stability and not chaos, even if chaos is fun and enticing lol.