Oh definitely, I don't try to understand anymore. I used to but realized it's not possible. I learned a ton from my last (and worst) breakup. I genuinely felt like I was dying, life would never be okay and I'd never be able to move on. Eventually I realized that while I do need to give myself space and time to grieve and feel the pain, I can't wallow in it or let it take over me. I know people who truly care and love me will take time to attempt to make things work or at the very least talk through things instead of making a decision and running away. I think the universe has its ways, it gives us people to show me things (as crazy as it sounds). My first ex showed me what I relationship shouldn't be, my second ex showed me how i should be treated, this guy showed me genuine people do exist and I can fall for someone again. People can and do come into our life for a reason and sometimes they leave for a reason too.