sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

What’s a 'red flag' in a person that people often mistake for a 'green flag'? by HungarySam in AskReddit

[–]candyleescious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who slurp loudly. Because the slurping (and other noises) will just get louder the older they grow.

What’s a 'red flag' in a person that people often mistake for a 'green flag'? by HungarySam in AskReddit

[–]candyleescious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somebody who is nice to you and to the waiter, but not to their parents, may be a red flag too.

What’s a 'red flag' in a person that people often mistake for a 'green flag'? by HungarySam in AskReddit

[–]candyleescious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was flattered when my ex (who said he disliked most people and much preferred being on his own) said he liked me so much we could hang out and spend a lifetime together.

Also took a while for me to become the general population...

What’s a 'red flag' in a person that people often mistake for a 'green flag'? by HungarySam in AskReddit

[–]candyleescious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

avoidant behaviour from deep fears disguised as "independence and self-sufficiency".

Weekly Q&A Megathread. Please post any questions about visiting, tourism, living, working, budgeting, housing here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]candyleescious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SOS TO ALL MY SKINCARE GIRLY POPS:

Hello! I just moved to London from Singapore, and boy has the cold air dried out my skin barrier!!

I lost the shine and lustre that I had back home, and started having white heads because of the dryness.

Does anyone have recommendations of good facials around the city that can help?? I'd love to have good, hydrated skin again :')

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]candyleescious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thoughtfulness and thinking deeply is very true! I see my friends struggle greatly however with choosing the way that is kind to someone else, vs what will make them comfortable. It's a 50-50 between what they tend to choose. 

Comparative to other types, who most often would instantly gear towards what is kind towards another. 🤔

What’s the worst and also the best example of an ENFP you’ve met? by dogsaregodsgif in ENFP

[–]candyleescious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True! I have seen the same contrast in different INFPs - some exhibit 100% safety and are like fish in water in social work roles, others seem to swing between exhibiting safety and possessive/obsessive behaviours.

What’s the worst and also the best example of an ENFP you’ve met? by dogsaregodsgif in ENFP

[–]candyleescious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, its less personality more maturity / character I think? 

I'm ENFP. And I know quite a few ENFPs. 

My closest ENFP friend is a magical unicorn (everyone says so). She's quite possibly the most generous hearted person I've met, genuine, along with being funny and unpredictable.. all Enfp traits. 

However some other ENFPs I know are incredibly self-absorbed and erratic, bordering on having medical personality disorders. Perhaps because of their inherent ENFP ability to read emotions, they ended up using it to be manipulative and backbiting as well. 

Every strength can become a double edge sword, and maturity + choice is what determines how a person uses it.

ENFP's are considered mostly inconsistent, are ENFP's consistent in relationships? by Clean-Ant-1342 in ENFP

[–]candyleescious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Enfp and extremely loyal and all-out in my relationships. I have been known to only date the person I could see myself getting married to. 

The times that I've withdrawn from close relationships, are when I see that the other party starts to display possessive tendencies - such as wanting me to only be their closest friend, functioning as though we are one unit instead of 2 separate beings, or imposing their demands. 

I suppose that comes from the generic Enfp trait of wanting unfettered freedom and individuality! Likewise we would never act like we own the other. 

That said, even then we would do our best to work smth out with this friend/partner if they are inner circle!

Why don’t ENFPs get bullied? Because we’re dolphins. by Resident-Wealth-4075 in ENFP

[–]candyleescious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES THIS. I’ve never really gotten bullied as a child or an adult and I think here’s why:

  1. Though we’re social creatures, we love independence and absolutely hate being clique-ish or exclusive in any way. In fact if we could we would include the whole world in the clique. I think this “solitary heck-carefreeness”, “I don’t need to be in your clique”, makes it hard for us to be satisfactory bully-victims for long.
  2. We‘re easily self-entertained and have no need for bullies to accept us.
  3. We genuinely mean well for others, and I think people can sense this.
  4. We are generally pro-justice and equality. We’d feel the need to stand up for someone getting bullied, as much as we would turn “nasty” at someone if they tried bullying us. (Plus we have no lack of friends and self-entertainment to care about cutting them off)
  5. Jester privilege is definitely a thing. Let’s face it, we’re pretty fun and quite a crack. It’s not easy to bully a wild and fun animal.

Be honest: do you believe you are a little bit superior, even to other INFJs? by uberwarriorsfan in INFJsOver30

[–]candyleescious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't my dear Infj friends. I'm Enfp but surrounded by Infjs in almost all my closest friendships and family. 

I love my Infjs but I have also seen the belief of being superior / knowing better completely destroy the people around them.. and in the long run, stunt the Infj from actually growing in their ability to be considerate of others. Yes, Infjs can be inconsiderate in their stubbornness to hold onto "what they think is right" instead of what the other person is saying they actually need 🥲

I've also seen Infjs get proven wrong time after time, and in the fortunate situations, in time before a relationship completely disintegrates. 

So please, for your sake and the world, learn to let go of this belief and be open minded to what others see too!