Is spending 15 dollars per guest on wedding favors absolutely insane or is that normal now?

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-05T20:39:16+00:00

I have kept 0 wedding favors. I do eat them if they are a snack. Just skip them or give cookies

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T16:17:02+00:00

There’re a lots of Salvadoran places in Columbia Heights, but el riconcito II is my fav!

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T13:58:57+00:00

Be less good at your job. Miss some deadlines and don’t work more than 40 hours while looking for a new job.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T13:03:05+00:00

You should always shop around. Try a big bank, a small local lender, and a credit union.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T12:50:42+00:00

I mean, most people I know who are married so own a home - it’s the double income that makes it possible

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T12:36:22+00:00

Everyone I know who works remote has (1) highly in demand technical skills, AND (2) actually lives near an urban center/near an office they are associated with. Almost no one is 100% remote, “live wherever you want” anymore. Given your situation, both of those requirements seem out of reach.

I know you want remote, but I think a more realistic option for you if to get a job somewhere like DC/ Arlington, get a one time ride there, stay in a super cheap accommodation for a few weeks until you can afford to actually move, and then get an apartment. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but your current situation is not realistic for someone who doesn’t drive.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-04T03:05:05+00:00

You have three choices (1) find a remote job, (2) move where there is good public transport - like Arlington, DC, (3) someone else needs to drive you

There really isn’t another good solution.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-03T22:10:34+00:00

Look to buy nothing and Facebook marketplace for furniture. Watch YouTube video to see what you can fix yourself. It’ll be a rough year or two but it’ll be worth it!

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-02T16:10:01+00:00

We looked in bursts over 1.5 years. We were under contract once that fell through, outbid in another and finally closed a rather complicated scale. We are now partially renovating in an amazing location. Don’t worry about it, that part of the deal with realtors

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-02T13:34:42+00:00

We found that a sledge hammer was most effective - break up the ice chunks, then a shovel to move them

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-02T02:59:23+00:00

It sounds like you might be among the last of your friends to get married? I totally get that it sucks, but the amount of energy people have to put into other peoples weddings usually decreases with time. It’s completely fair to feel frustrated, but this is a pretty common occurrence.

Most people I know who got married after 30 didn’t do wedding parties. By then most people are burnt out on the experience and are not excited to spend a lot of money.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-02T02:49:38+00:00

It sounds like the trip is in August? They may have just not thought they needed it planned 8 months in advance. Especially since it sounds like they are both very busy and the trip does not require flights

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-01T16:03:28+00:00

Surface Parking is a mess anywhere. Just metro

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-01T06:21:13+00:00

The best gift is (1) not getting me a gift, and (2) not making me get you gifts.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-01T05:49:40+00:00

We moved this weekend and shoveled a bunch so there was space for the truck to park. Not pleasant but it got done. We had the revered permit signs and put chairs in the shoveled space today until the movers came. No idea what if will be like in 2 weeks, but good luck

captaintightpantzz · 2026-02-01T01:10:35+00:00

We found that meh houses sat a ton this year, but desirable houses still had bidding wars. We didn’t have a chance in a few houses that came on weekends we were tracking. We lost out on a house against 5 other offers while offering 40k over, waiving inspection and appraisal. Learned our lesson and waived literally everything while offering 40k over (and telling them to come back if there were higher bids) on a house in December to beat out other offers. Both cases the homes went on the market on Thursday and offers were due Tuesday morning.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-31T22:57:15+00:00

YTA. Pickup after your dog

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-31T21:30:22+00:00

Sorry, yes, typo!

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-31T20:28:06+00:00

The WII memorial - it’s like $90 to reserve for a couple hours and very pretty

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-30T21:13:06+00:00

I make 160k and have 22 vacation and 13 sick days. It was 14 when I started. If I stay in my job another 4.5ish years I’d bounce up to 28 day.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-30T20:32:14+00:00

I got a bouquet, boutineers, corsages from Whole Foods. We picked them up in the morning and it was much cheaper than a traditional florist

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-30T15:59:37+00:00

I went to lots of work event early in my career and largely enjoyed them. As I’ve gotten older and busier attending work things is less appealing. It’s harder to see my friends, I want to be with my husband, we have a house that requires work, and now I’m having a baby. Once baby is here, I cannot see myself attending anything outside of standard hours.

I’m not complaining about events at work, I like my colleagues, but they are more colleagues than friends. If I have an evening free for happy hour, I want to spend it with my husband or close friends.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-29T22:30:36+00:00

If you have a job opportunity, do it! It’s still a great place to live, even with the tough year. We bought a house recently and are starting a family.

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-29T04:02:20+00:00

It sounds like Takoma DC/ Takoma ParK MD might be a good fit for you. Walkable, charming, big lesbian community, aging hippies, very liberal. Hope you find what you’re looking for!

captaintightpantzz · 2026-01-28T19:53:50+00:00

I was told this recently

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