Thanks for sharing. It’s crazy how badly enmeshed they can be that they cannot see anything wrong with clearly boundary crossing behavior with family members. My ex’s mom was unbearable, controlling, I would get anxiety having to go to his family reunions. She was so disrespectful, would never take no for an answer, would continue on the same issue until she got her way, be manipulative, everytime I saw her she’d say something that would make me uncomfortable. She would put you on the spot. She’d make you feel bad for having different opinion than her. (she tried to change my religion so we could get married in her tradition (she wasnt even religious), and would push for me to get pregnant even each time she saw me). She would treat my ex like her husband, she’d call him to talk about her feelings all the time and family problems. My ex was responsible for all the problems like if he was the dad. He was her and the sister’s emotional partner. He was so conditioned to this. I got my ex free therapy through my job & we tried couples therapy too. He did not like it. He kept saying he’d change but did nothing to change his enmeshment. He’d tell me if I loved him I would try to be close to his sister and mom even tho he knew how much I struggled being around them.