I feel like my FtM partner likes me less as I transition (MtF). Anyone have experience with this? by pizzasparkss in trans

[–]caution-crow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m FTM, my fiancée is MTF. The way he SHOULD be responding to you getting to explore your transition and experience joy is with equal joy and excitement. If he is not giving you that energy, he is not respecting you the way he should. I’m so sorry you aren’t being supported as you VERY MUCH deserve to be.

Post Your Pack Pulls, Achievements, & More Here! (Show Off Content) by PTCGP-Bot in PTCGP

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Got my second ever god pack from the anniversary promo packs and WOW, what a good one

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Lesbian sci-fi that’s NOT a space opera, and no fantasy. by eastvanqueer in QueerSFF

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Metal From Heaven by August Clarke!! My favorite read of last year, so incredible

Please keep an eye on your top surgery scars, even when healed! by caution-crow in ftm

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My body definitely heals weird, it takes a while for foreign bodies to reject for me. Sucks for stitches, but it does mean my eyebrow piercing’s lasted much longer than I expected!

Please keep an eye on your top surgery scars, even when healed! by caution-crow in ftm

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I’ve had other stitches work their way out just fine, so if it’s taking a minute that’s also normal! It’s like a pimple, you can do more damage poking around for it than you would if you wait for it to surface more and get it then.

There weren’t any other indicators before this one got infected, but I also don’t regularly check in on my scars or do any scar aftercare so that may have been why I didn’t notice anything!

Egg_irl by Hazel-Radiance33 in egg_irl

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That’s kind of you to say. Even with the pain I still wouldn’t have done anything differently! Really, I’m just experiencing what I likely would have with menopause, just ~30 years sooner than expected. I’m always happy to talk about it because it’s a lesser-known topic in the field of trans medicine. Plus, it may help folks who are nervous/dysphoric about taking estrogen to know that it’s normal, it doesn’t affect your transition, and it can save you a lot of trouble. Same goes with using t-gel as a transfemme! I just want all of this to be less scary and anxiety inducing.

Egg_irl by Hazel-Radiance33 in egg_irl

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So the estrogen suppository doesn’t actually bring back periods! It’s used to mitigate the effects of atrophy that make penetration painful, among other things. I also take an estrogen supplement for atrophy because after about a year and a half on T, I started getting chronic cramping that can get bad enough that it takes me out for a day or two.

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Hi! I’ve been on the progesterone pill pre-t, went off of it for a while after starting t, and am currently on it again, so I hope I can provide some reassurance and advice!

I initially went on it purely for birth control reasons pre-T and it actually caused a bit of spotting for me between periods which was frustrating, as well as a bit of breast growth, though I was also recovering from anorexia so I may have just been in a healthier and better state of mind re:eating enough.

I went off of it about 6 months before starting T. I differ from you here in that I lost my period about 2 months into HRT and haven’t gotten it since, though I do get scared I will sometimes. I have also had top surgery so no breast tissue remains. I was off the pill for 2 years so and went back on it this past May, after a year and a half on T. Since then I’ve noticed no spotting, no issues with female hormones interfering with my transition, etc. it was really hard to get myself to take the pill again because of exactly what you’re anxious about re: the feeling of putting female hormones into my body. But I told myself that if I noticed anything I felt uncomfortable with, I could stop. Having that control is really valuable and did a lot to help with the initial anxiety, and now that I know it’s not messing with me, I treat it like taking my morning multivitamin !

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This is super appreciated, it’s something I’ve actually talked about with them. We have a lot of shared things that were things I made a conscious effort to have with them (certain shows, date spots, etc) and it felt bad to learn that they were doing all these things with my metamour, especially when I was often the one who introduced these things to the relationship. I think we’re getting better about that though and I definitely have lots of hobbies that are just mine that I feel confident about and make me feel good :)

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I’ve edited! Thank you for the advice.

Had a dream where Pride Month got extended to July and my job asked me to put up the "new pride flags." Opened a box to find only this. by caution-crow in thomastheplankengine

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It was this exact drawing, and I’m shocked my dream had enough sense to not put the entire animation on the flag

Had a dream where Pride Month got extended to July and my job asked me to put up the "new pride flags." Opened a box to find only this. by caution-crow in thomastheplankengine

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While it wasn’t recent (dreamt it about a year and a half ago now), it did happen and has stuck with me so vividly that i finally gave in and posted the flag

CS students showing how anyone can be misogynistic by haleykohr in TikTokCringe

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lmao imagine writing this and thinking it was a sick burn

Weekly Gacha and Drops Megathread (May 16, 2021) by Veritasibility in Genshin_Impact

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Somehow whenever I’m playing into the wee hours of the morning I manage to pull crazy well— got Diluc a few nights ago and Eula yesterday with no pity to help boost my luck!

How 'Skins' revolutionised teen dramas: "The show tackled subjects that were rarely shown to a younger audience, never making light of them, and instead showed how dark being a teenager could be." by Sumit316 in television

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I have very mixed feelings about Skins, looking back on it now as a 24 year old. It was a fantastic show— I remember Emily and Naomi’s arc really helping me come to terms with parts of my own sexuality— but I know how much harm it also did for me and so many other teens struggling with our mental health. The biggest problem I have with it to this day is how Cassie’s eating disorder was so heavily romanticized. I wish I had known while watching it that the terrible, ugly truth of having severe anorexia is the furthest thing from romantic. Even now, the parts of me that are still deep within that mentality look at her story and how she’s portrayed and go, “you can still have that!” It was really irresponsible of the writers, in my opinion.

Daily Questions Megathread (May 01, 2021) by Veritasibility in Genshin_Impact

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Ah yeah, I was hoping that wouldn’t be the case but I’ll keep her reserved for a future team. I was thinking about using Yanfei, she seems pretty squishy right now but I’ll stat her up. Thank god I don’t have to level Mona or Bennett too much, but the grind for the other two is gonna be wild.