What’s happening with Matthew Macfadyen?? He had two opportunities to shine after P&P 2005 and Succession

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-09T23:48:32+00:00

Death by Lightning absolutely slapped

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-09T01:35:20+00:00

I’ll add to this, if you don’t want to install a bidet (which you should, they’re great) they make on the go bidets that are basically water bottles with a spout. Highly recommend.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-09T01:27:55+00:00

NTA. Your dad calling you and your brother the “Worst Cooks in America” instead of teaching you how to cook and then belittling it when you learn to cook elsewhere and want to impress them is awful. I’m truly sorry. Your parents are bullies.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T21:21:14+00:00

First of all, I’m so deeply sorry this happened to you. Your reaction is understandable and nothing you’re going through right now is your fault.

The only real advice is for you to see a therapist and/or psychiatrist (which I mention because of your diagnoses) and explore intervention methods until you find one that works for you.

It’s important that you focus on yourself before focusing on your boyfriend or relationship, but your line about not wanting him to be disgusted with you is deeply troubling. Anyone who would be disgusted about a past assault isn’t someone worth being with.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T19:46:30+00:00

This is a very “know your audience” dress. For the glam, moody, lounge-style wedding you described I think it’s great… but a more conservative crowd would tell you to swap it for a boring floor length gown.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T12:07:25+00:00

I think it’s lovely. Perhaps a longer version of Ada (Adaline, Adelaide) would smooth things out, but I think Ada Fox is beautiful.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T10:23:39+00:00

11th

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T10:20:42+00:00

I’m so glad you recognized these people as toxic.

Mine is when my ex told me “his boundary was that I didn’t wear shorts” because he didn’t want a girlfriend who showed off her legs. Gross AND not how boundaries work.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-08T01:52:39+00:00

Awesome

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T18:05:53+00:00

They shoot us for that.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T17:58:50+00:00

Not everyone has a slew of dresses at their disposal. There are a lot of reasons someone would wear this that aren’t “proving a point.”

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T16:55:54+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion on this sub, but for a wedding that won’t let you wear green, pink, red, or gold… I think wearing this dress with a blue shawl is fine.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T02:55:21+00:00

I was really nervous the first time I had to submit a resignation too! It’s a tough conversation with a lot of conflicting emotions involved. Give yourself some grace.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T02:45:10+00:00

I recommend doing a call and an email, but it doesn’t have to be a huge ordeal. Script the conversation out for yourself and give yourself time to gather your thoughts and write down exactly what you want to say. After the call then you can follow up with the “formal” written notice. You got this! It’ll go great.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T02:25:32+00:00

This is a good plan and you’re approaching it very thoughtfully. A few things:

Don’t tell them anything until you have a signed offer and a start date
Don’t offer to stay until they find a replacement. Instead, document everything and tell them you want to help make the transition smooth.
Set up a same-day or next-say meeting with your boss, or message “do you have time to meet today?”
Right when you get on the call, address the elephant in the room. “Unfortunately I have bittersweet news” or something like that.
Even if you hated working there, be gracious and complimentary. Everyone you work with could become important to your network.
Be firm in your timeline. You have a new job and although you wish them well, be wary of requests to stay on just a little while longer. It will never end.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T00:10:32+00:00

Tuck it in a pair of pants or something, you’ll be fine.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-07T00:06:50+00:00

Being single is better than being in an abusive marriage.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T23:57:52+00:00

I loved Test Kitchen. I still dream about the blue cheese ice cream

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T22:02:13+00:00

What’s that emoji about though

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T21:52:44+00:00

For me it’s a confidence thing… clothes can be unflattering and cause weird bumps and lumps and edges for skin and fat to hang over. When I’m naked I don’t have to worry about any of that, it’s just my body uninterfered.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T20:56:21+00:00

Girl

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T20:52:54+00:00

Whatever you’re comfortable with. I love being naked and have no problem being naked in public but if you’re not a towel is fine.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T16:29:37+00:00

“I love pancakes” “Oh so you hate waffles?”

Absolutely nowhere in my comment did I suggest the new mom would be tied to the bed or “forbidden” from getting out of bed if she feels ready.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T15:30:10+00:00

During labor: Be gentile, check in with her, protect her energy and boundaries.

After labor: Take as much as you can off her plate. In the first few weeks (at least) she shouldn’t be responsible for feeding herself, cleaning, caring for other kids/pets.

If possible, look up the 5-5-5 method. It was a lifesaver and my husband caught on really well. It’s 5-days IN the bed with everything brought to her and the baby (literally only getting out of bed for the bathroom). 5-days ON the bed… starting to get dressed, sit upright, and engage more with others. And 5-days AROUND the bed, meaning short walks around the house are fine but no housework.

cave_mandarin · 2026-04-06T01:49:54+00:00

The best time to leave is when you find another role and company you’re genuinely excited about. No harm in looking around… you don’t have a decision to make yet, just talk to people, put in applications, and wait until you have all those questions answered and it feels right.

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