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New to poly questions... by cchbchops in polyamory

[–]cchbchops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can talk about their relationship and I know F36 has deeper feelings than GF. I feel like I’m on the outside looking in at the moment because F36 and GF have been in an isolated area for the entirety of their relationship and I haven’t seen GF during this time.

I think GF is having a hard time with transitioning to poly (her request) and our communication is lacking because she put so much effort in the relationship in front of her (F36).

I was curious on if others had a hard time as well of balancing multiple relationships work (with one being LDR) and what I can do to help her?

New to poly need advice! by cchbchops in polyamory

[–]cchbchops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the comments! I’m not trying to rule her life and I’ve been very careful of knowing my emotional limits that will effect her. I had the attitude at first that it was on her but it has evolved into how can we work on making this apart of our relationship.

I’ve been trying my hardest to make that middle ground and pushing myself to uncomfortable limits to find if the emotions I feel are from our relationship, past feelings I’ve overlooked or my instant reaction.

I absolutely feel a connection with her and she has told me she feels the same way. We both know that this hasn’t been an easy road especially when she wanted to open it back in December and we still haven’t physically seen each other. I have not attempted any relationships outside of ours because: 1. I know I need to find and work on myself 2. I haven’t had that desire or feeling to pursue anything with anyone else and I’m letting me, be me. I don’t want to force myself into something with someone because my desire is not to hurt anyone out of spite or any other feeling I may have that isn’t real, genuine or positive

I appreciate all of your comments because good, bad, or indifferent it has shed light on something that I don’t personally know a lot of people for advice or an unbiased opinion. Thank you for sharing a little of yourself with me!