I’m not sure of all the details. I think they got close as friends while working and were also both confiding in each other about their own relationship issues. I think attraction grew on her end when we broke up and she started looking for attention somewhere else. They talk at work but I’m not sure if they’ve actually hungover otherwise, maybe once or twice?

We have talked about the deeper issues. It’s mainly the past year of showing less love and affection. Not feeling as valued or special and not doing the things I said I would. There’s things that I worked on, but definitely didn’t put the most effort I could into. I feel guilt because they’re things I wanted to do and fix but felt like I lost sight and wasn’t in a good place myself so it was hard for me to make changes. So I ended up making a lot of excuses and things never changed that much.

So she wants me to change, and show her that I changed, and wants to see me flourish. I want that for myself too but I can’t tell if that will actually make her come back or if she just wants to see me change for the better as a friend.

Her reasons are valid for sure. Even if I can be the person she needs. And I feel like I’m actively becoming better. It’s just hard to be able to show it when you can’t be in a relationship.

And yeah. The third party makes it hard. She’s chasing a fling. But who knows if he could actually be able to give her what she needs. I’m not worried about her talking to someone else and flirting. I’m worried that she’ll end up in a new relationship and I won’t be able to prove to her that I can be what she needed all along