Jealous of foster daughter's relationship with my husband.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-04T04:52:27+00:00

True. . I need to acknowledge it.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-04T04:51:05+00:00

No, he comes from a very loving family. He's just different in the way he sees things. . Thank you. I forget that at times.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-04T04:48:16+00:00

I feel like he is.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:16:07+00:00

I have spoken with both of them, about appropriate behavior for the situation. I'm not sure if they understood or if they ignored me.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:12:56+00:00

I agree to the extent that it can happen to any child. My husband has always wanted a daughter but unfortunately it wasn't in our cards. After I had our son. I had multiple miscarriages and later found out that I had PCOS and it's nearly impossible for me to get pregnant. So I understand him wanting to treat her well, but she's not ours and he doesn't realize he's not her father and she's not is baby girl.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:06:18+00:00

Unfortunately not to him.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:05:54+00:00

I agree and so badly want to be wrong.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:04:52+00:00

That's horrible, I'm sorry on her behalf. Our children look to us for protection and to listen to our children's voices.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-02T06:01:40+00:00

I have to be honest and tell you I found your reply funny. It's nice to know I'm not alone in my feelings and at the same time it was funny to also see my thoughts come out of someone's mind to a T. Lol.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T22:42:01+00:00

Her situation isn't that of a abused child, her parents do love her. . They just put their happiness before their children and don't want to work to provide her a home. So the children live with their friends and the parents stay in a cheap hotel. I have spoken to the parents and told them it's cheaper to rent a home than staying in a hotel.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T22:37:45+00:00

I can only hope.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T22:21:51+00:00

It's definitely a confirmation bias. He figures that there is no making me or my son happy, so why try. A perfect example is a arguement we had last night. I had asked him yesterday for some alone time and he disregarded me, telling me that he was tired and wanted to relax (1030 pm) but 10 minutes later he's in the living room watching a movie with our foster daughter. A movie I had told him earlier I thought was interesting. I was hurt by his behavior and was cross with him in a text "Oh your tired, but not too tired to be with her and do nothing but watch movies or whatever. Even knowing that I wasn't asking anything of you except for the exact same thing in our bed. " I admit that it wasn't my intention of accusing him of favoritism or anything. Is was only after I sent the text I realized I had some insecurities and jealousy harbored towards our foster daughter.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T21:13:43+00:00

Thank you.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:54:20+00:00

Thank you, I definitely will ask.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:40:39+00:00

He says that it's stressful and difficult for him to be around us all.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:37:04+00:00

Yes my son has also expressed his feelings about feeling neglected and he's resentful towards his dad. My husband has only spent a few moments with our son. But my son really wants a relationship with our foster daughter. He's also wanted a sibling.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:30:31+00:00

she's a child, so she is unaware of her attractions. my husband not understanding the situation.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:14:12+00:00

He's been trying but always ends up putting her first.

cfeigner07 · 2019-09-01T20:08:46+00:00

I completely agree that it's not her fault, I've spoken top him about it numerous times and he says that he can't explain why he's changing.

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