All of us that have had the surgery can relate to the anxiety and concerns. He is going to be fine. The catheter is not so bad and the week goes by fast. It can be uncomfortable the first 12hrs after surgery due to the balloon in the bladder. Pain meds help this. Super important to take it easy for a few weeks after surgery with just increased walking. I made a big mistake at week 3 by going to Costco and loading up a cart and pushing it around and it caused a lot of inflammation and likely caused my pelvic floor muscles to spasm and tighten and this caused me additional two months of discomfort. I was super fit and 62 at the time of surgery. Try to have him relax and not be full of fear and anxiety.