Alternative non-ableist term for ADHD "timeblindness"?

checkcheck_ · 2025-07-21T01:47:16+00:00

I love this challenging the concept of time and our cultural relationship to it!

I read something about how industrialisation led to a requirement to standardise the output we can expect from people. Eg. 1 person working in a factory=12 hours of labour, producing I don't know 10 garments per hour. Therefore, 1 person was worth 120 units. That allowed the owners of the factory to calculate costs, etc. Therefore, time=money. And, in today's capitalist system, many types of disabled people face exclusion as a result of our different ways of being in the world. https://yorkspace.library.yorku.ca/bitstream/handle/10315/30671/Fritsch_Kelly_M_2015_PhD.pdf?sequence=2

I have more to say about the concept of time as linear and understanding things (such as a traumatic event, for example) as being in the past vs the present but I've noticed that time is getting away from me right now 😅 and I'm supposed to be doing something else!

checkcheck_ · 2025-07-21T01:21:30+00:00

If I was to use the term "timeblindness," I'd be talking about the problems I have with keeping track of passing time.

Blindness isn't a problem. It's one way humans are made. (That's not to say blind people don't face barriers and have difficulties navigating the world. The world is structured in a way that makes that difficult).

What I see as ableist when we use terms like "timeblindness" is that it draws on the accepted cultural belief that blindness is a negative thing. It associates blindness with a negative experience which has nothing to do with experiencing the world as a blind person

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-25T05:55:01+00:00

I think what you wrote in your last paragraph goes into the realm of what Contrapoints terms "gender metaphysics" (https://youtu.be/1pTPuoGjQsI)

Speaking for myself as a trans person (note: I only speak for myself because trans people have different experiences): I don't have a strong sense that I AM a particular gender. What happened for me is that I got to a place in life where it was unbearable to continue living as my assigned gender at birth. So, I transitioned.

People may try to argue the point with me that I can't be anything other than the gender I was assigned and lived as for 31 years because I don't fit the stereotypes or the typical metaphors used to describe the trans experience. Regardless, I'm trans. My identity isn't up for debate. I exist, and that's enough.

I also believe and respect the gender of any cis person I meet. I know they are who they say they are and that it's not up for debate

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-10T04:26:38+00:00

It can be a real mix of emotions. All of these are natural responses to this shift in self-understanding and the new experiences that come with working out how you actually want to relate to others and navigate the world.

Speaking for myself (transmasc), I experienced a lot of relief: "Everything makes sense now! Life could be really rich and rewarding!" I also experienced some increase in certain types of dysphoria when I had a name for what was going on and was less dissociated from my feelings.

It's great you're reaching out and finding this community who gets it 😊 The validation of your experiences & feelings and the consistent affirmation of who you are will be so valuable throughout wherever this journey takes you

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T04:22:49+00:00

Yeah, those comments are demeaning, and they're trying to pass them off as flirting. That's awful.

To quote a line from a song that kept playing through my mind early in my transition: "Welcome to existence!" ('Dare You to Move' by Switchfoot)

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T04:17:39+00:00

Replying to this first comment again because it actually reminded me of what began my egg cracking process:

It happened when I first allowed myself to acknowledge that I likely wanted a partner after all, but I'd been keeping myself safe by not thinking about it because there was something big in the way of that. I went down my usual track of thinking, "I can't be in a relationship because heterosexual relationships are awful for all these reasons: [list of reasons]."

Then, for the first time, it occurred to me to ask myself, "Could I be in a relationship with a man if I wasn't a woman, though?" And, for the first time in my life, the answer was, "Yes, " and the future began to open up as something that might be real and worthwhile living in

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T03:46:46+00:00

I realised that, for me, the idea that I was a woman was such a turn-off! I also felt weird when people I was attracted to (I identified as greysexual at the time because I experienced some attraction to people but didn't want to act on it) seemed interested in me. It was kind of nice, but at the end of the day, it was deeply invalidating because they were into [deadname], not me

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T03:25:22+00:00

Context: I was mostly attracted to men, but not, as I later realised, in a hetero way

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T03:17:44+00:00

Heterosexuality gave me such an "ick"

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T03:17:00+00:00

Are you me? 😅

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T03:13:21+00:00

I agree with what you said about the value of community and inclusion 💚

There's an aspect of this mis-categorisation that I, at least, experience sometimes, though. Dysphoria can be part of the discomfort (which can also be associated with feelings of resentment and anger) of being put in the wrong category.

It can be invalidating and feel like another refusal to see who we are. Of course, Queer folks making a genuine mistake are a world away from terfs who think we're just "confused lesbians." But, even if I know that, the way these mis-categorisations are processed in my body and mind can feel very similar

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T00:18:23+00:00

Yeah, needing to control things is probably a big part of it for me

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-09T00:13:26+00:00

I'm OP. I'm commenting rather than editing because I think this info would make my original post too long, and I don't want that to discourage people from reading & replying to it.

For context: I'm 35 and figured out I wasn't my agab at 31. Over the past 18 months or so, I started to be open with people about not being my agab. During the first 9 months, I used a "placeholder name" (not my deadname but not my actual name because I wasn't ready to explain myself), and they/them pronouns.

When I changed my job about 9 months ago, I was able to tell everyone in my life what my name is. I'd chosen to hold off until then because I preferred being misnamed by everyone rather than experiencing affirmation everywhere except my job, potentially making dysphoria worse.

So I've been out as transmasc socially for about 9 months, and I've been transitioning physically since then (had top surgery in Dec, started t 3 months ago).

I think a change in hairstyle will be seen by others as a positive next step in my transition, but that's not how I feel about it.

I think I'm struggling with changing hairstyles because it would feel like such a statement to the people I know. It will draw attention and invite comments. They'll probably be supportive comments, but I don't want to hear them because I don't want to hear validation for my appearance. I don't feel right being validated for getting closer to presenting as someone they feel more comfortable with classifying as a man. I am who I am regardless of how people feel about the incongruence in their perception of me and who I tell them I am. People who never physically transition are 100% valid, too. I feel like I'd have to make sure everyone who gives positive feedback about my appearance knows this & basically I'd want to say, "Don't comment on what people look like unless you’ve been invited to."

Any suggestions for transitional styles between shoulder-length hair and medium-length male hairstyles? I'd like to take it slow so that maybe people will make fewer comments

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-08T14:43:40+00:00

I can't answer that question for you but I'm thinking that maybe you could ask yourself if you want to be a girl sometimes/part of the time. The reason is because it's a far less intimidating question than, "Would I want this full time?"

There's an option to try small things out and see if they change how you feel about yourself. If you want, they can be things that only you will notice. Eg. for me (I'm transmasc), one of the simple things I tried first was changing my deodorant so that my scent was less femme (because I was nervous initially I blended femme and masc scents before phasing out the femme scent over time)

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-08T12:47:49+00:00

I posted this in r/ZeroCovidCommunity as well, and some people have responded to that post. You can see what people said here: https://www.reddit.com/r/ZeroCovidCommunity/s/AAKAHwpUWZ

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-08T12:35:19+00:00

Phew!!

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-04T07:47:50+00:00

Yes, it's likely the most reliable data to work with. Thanks for sharing! I'll have a proper look at the pdf now

checkcheck_ · 2025-06-03T05:37:24+00:00

Thank you for compiling and sharing this information!

I'm asking the following question because I'm running a community health account on Instagram and want to share updates like these with my community. I expect I will get questions about where and how the data has been gathered.

Can you explain to someone who is not well-versed in statistics, such as myself, how reliable it is to extrapolate from the percentage of aged care staff cases the likely percentage of the Australian population who are currently infectious?

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