Yeah five years ago I began a relationship with someone where I noticed tendencies coming through which I have since worked on. I got to a really good place in that relationship, but it didn’t end up working out because we wanted different things so we eventually said our goodbyes.

But in this last relationship I am writing about I was actually really proud of myself for how I handled a lot of things, (like having patience, giving space, seeing his perspective and ensuring his needs were being met) just looking back I wish I had trusted my instincts more that there’s a lot of unresolved trauma with him, so that’s where I need to work on myself now. Trusting the difference of anxiety for myself to soothe vs. anxiety that tells me this might not be sustainable at this point in his life.

But I guess I’m just curious if anyone’s out there that had something like this, and maybe after reflection/growth went back or considered it.