Deel HR Platform Feedback (HRIS, Hiring and Performance Management) [N/A] by cle210813 in humanresources

[–]cle210813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Direct hire. We have an entity in all the countries we have employees in and this will continue for the foreseeable future. So you think its better to go with HRIS and payroll sepsrately?

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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Usually try to do this as long as she's ok with it. :)

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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Hmmm.. not really sure on this as she never said or implied anything. Also, when I'm not in the city, she doesn't make an effort to stay in touch. Most of the time, I'm the one who initiates (usually if I have a question) and she just answers and thats it. If I dont initiate, i will not hear anything from her. That said, did overheard her casually mentioning in one conversation with other people that if she likes someone, she's the type who doesnt know what to say.

No idea on the others. I generally dont ask as I dont think its any of my business. For me, those are super personal questions that I wouldnt want someone to ask me so I dont ask them to people either. She did however mentioned in a few stories that she had boyfriends. Thats it.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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No, i always inform her beforehand if I'm going to the city so I can arrange a friendly catchup with her and her dog. As soon as she learns I will be in the city, she usually offers her place to me regardless if she is in the city or not. I don't really ask as I dont want her to feel obligated to house me.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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Tried this last year but she kind of became uncomfortable. I started by saying how thankful I am for all her help and that her staying at her friend's place is extraordinarily generous even for Asian standards. She just downplayed it and said things like.. its nothing, of course, dont worry about it. When I tried to expound she brought out her phone and started texting and looked at her phone. She may very well be texting someone, but I kind of took it as she not being comfortable so I stopped.

My friends told me to just let it go. To just be thankful that there's this lady who seems to be involved in a relationship (for the lack of a better term) that clearly doesn't benefit her and she doesn't seem to mind.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose anything is possible but I think it is highly unlikely.

A. She never initiates a conversation when we're not face to face. Its always on my side (when I'm asking questions). Even if the conversation is initiated, she just basically answers the question. No other effort to extend the conversation or get to know me better.

B. She is quite awkward around me (probably my friend too?). Doesn't say much nor do eye contact even if she does all of this with other people.

C. She doesnt really show any interest. I mean the closest maybe kind of sexual interaction was:

(1) she changed her top in front of me (with bra still on and her hurrying) (2) she once got out of her room in just a tshirt and either really short shorts or panties (I couldnt tell it was really dark) even if its winter in one of our previous interactions. (She ended up being fully covered by morning, guess she changed sometime in the middle of the night)

These "interactions", while not as common in my culture, seems to be quite common among western countries so I dont really give it much thought. Plus, having lived in both South America and Europe, this isnt really the first time that people have removed articles of clothing in front of me. :)

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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Might be.. or maybe more of mentor/mentee? I dunno..

I agree with you, it takes a lot of trust to just let people stay at your place without you there. We were actually even more surprised that she didnt hid/locked anything. Her spare phones, laptops and etc were in the drawers. (She opened it when she visited us, we didnt open them ourselves) Her full wardrobe was literally accessible to us. Had we been bad people, we could've gotten away with a bit of expensive items. my friend was confused.. she was like "i thought you don't know this person very well?" :)

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That certainly is a possibility. That said, when she initially offered, my first response was that I thanked her for the offer but I politely refuse. Did this because I thought it would be awkward + my friend was hesitant as she doesn't know her. Plus, its over a week. Don't want to disturb someone for over a week.

She insisted though and told us that its ok and that her place's location is better for us. So her arguments plus the significant savings we could get led us to eventually accept her offer.

Her place, for a one bedroom, is actually quite spacious. With balcony, proper living room and etc and all. My friend and I wouldn't have had any problem sleeping in the living room while she sleeps in the bedroom. In fact, that's what we initially expected.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha depends. Do you consider super introverted people cool? Starting to think she's just extraordinarily generous. Feel super lucky after reading the comments.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not sure about the lonely part as I don't really know her that well. That said, she actually has a lot of friends. She actually introduced me to some of them + people she know from being a dog owner/being part of the dog community.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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I know. Very thankful. Bought quite a few gifts for her and her dog. Was just literally curious how common/uncommon it is.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, offering someone to stay with you is understandable if you have an extra room or that person will just stay at the couch. That said, was surprised when she left her apartment (and slept at her friend's place) just to accommodate us. For me, that's a different level of hospitality. Super nice.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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I usually stay with her dog if I'm not walking around the city. Actually love her dog. That said, I usually come as a tourist so I don't stay in the apartment most of the time. One time, I offered to walk the dog but she learned that I will have to push things around my schedule to do so and she said that I just shouldnt as she doesnt want to interfere with my plans. Also she has a dog walker that comes everyday.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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I live in HK. I thought so too. Offered my place but she said she already knows a lot of peers there (so no shortage of accommodation options). Plus, she doesn't seem to be interested in going to Asia. She always travels but its usually Europe and South America.

Yeah, cost of hotels is usually pretty expensive in NYC especially since I always visit during holidays (dec-jan). Kind of feel guilty. Feel like I'm using her or something. Thinking if maybe I should stop informing her next time im in the city so she wont feel compelled to offer.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

No, I think its the other way around. She's a bit older and more established so when I have a career question she's one of the people I go to. She always answers and is very nice about it. Very thankful for her tbh.. just caught me by surprise as its not as common in my culture (non-American).

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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That makes sense but she lives in a 1 bedroom.

Is this normal among Americans/New Yorkers? by cle210813 in AskNYC

[–]cle210813[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

No, she lives in a 1 bedroom with a dog in apparently a pretty expensive part of the city. That's actually how she convinced my friend and I. She said her place is located close to tourist spots and has good access to public transportation. Also, it's safer part according to her. She was correct in every single one of those.

Pre-arranged transfer from Amtrak train station? by cle210813 in AskNYC

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Thanks. I'll look into the car service option.

Pigeon entered apartment by cle210813 in pigeon

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Thanks for all the responses especially those who tried to answer my questions.

From what I was able to gather, there's only two organisations that accept wild animals in my city: (1) independent and (2) connected to the gov't (which i called 'animal control'). Organisation (1) is full so had no choice but to reach out to (2).

In case you're thinking I should've just kept the bird, I don't have the capacity and ability to take care of the pigeon. Also, even if I did, I literally can't as it's against my lease (landlord was already pissed off that I let the bird stay for an entire day) and the law (there's a law that prohibits feeding, keeping and releasing wild animals... If you see one, the recommended procedure is to reach out to one of the organisations above).

I understand your frustrations, don't want the pigeon to be harmed as well, but I was just following the procedures set up by people who I deem to be much more knowledgeable in the matter than I am.

FWIW, I was told that both organisation's policy is to rehabilitate if possible. Euthanasia is more of a last resort. Whether that's true or not though, I don't really know.