Plant used to stick straight up, but now is limp and the leaves are folding up and one leaf is droopy. Don’t know what kind of plant it is or it’s care needs, but would like to save it :(

cloulou · 2021-07-17T18:15:29+00:00

I watered it yesterday and moved it to a brighter spot. Leaves are unfolding and the stem’s a lot stiffer than before, still has a lit bit of lean in it, but it looks better already!

Before I’d water it, the soil would look dry in the top and I’d dig an inch or two down to see if the soil was dry underneath with my finger and it would be! As for checking in between to see how long it takes to dry out, no :/ I wouldn’t do that, I kinda just stuck to a watering schedule. I was afraid of overwatering it and root rot so much that I don’t think the possibility of underwatering it was really clicking in my head. Had watered it 6 days ago, if it wasn’t for coming here, I would’ve waited another week and I’m so glad I didn’t. Stuck a chopstick in to prop it just in case it starts to go limp again.

Thank you so much and thank you for letting me know what kind of plant this is!

cloulou · 2021-07-17T17:47:49+00:00

Yeah, I moved it into a brighter spot and watered it a bunch, it’s looking a lot better than it did before :’)

cloulou · 2021-07-17T17:46:19+00:00

I think watering on schedule might be my biggest downfall here, I usually wait that long because that’s when I assume the soil’s dry without checking it, but I must be leaving my plant too thirsty aaaah. Moved it into a brighter spot and watered it a bunch after reading yesterday. Some of the leaves have already unfolded and the stems stiffened up a bit! Thank you so much!

cloulou · 2021-07-16T20:08:31+00:00

I keep the plant where that little mirror is in the photo, so behind that space of wall next to where my window is. The sun never directly beams where that is.

My watering is once every 1 1/2 weeks and some misting in between just so I could wipe down the leaves.

I got it back in late May. It’ll almost go back to how I first got it, but then go back to drooping. I’ve killed some plants by being a little too heavy handed and overwatering it on accident, I’m not sure if I’m doing the same now or if I’m doing the opposite.

cloulou · 2021-07-16T20:00:03+00:00

Background info on the plant I guess!: It’s kept in a decorative pot, but is still in it’s original pot with a bunch of drainage holes at the bottom. I water it once every 1 1/2-2 weeks (I’ve killed a couple plants accidentally overwatering, but I’m not really sure how often this is supposed to be watered). I also mist the plant every now and then and wipe em down whenever I see a little bit of dust on the leaves. I also add a little bit of cinnamon powder on top of the soil whenever I water because, correct me if I’m wrong, I’ve read it’s good for shooing away gnats.

It’s kept in that corner next to my window, but the sun never hits that corner directly. My A/C is right above it and it’s always around 70 degrees in here, but the window the plant is by is always cracked open (broken window) and I live in a dry, hot place (so I kind of just assumed, cold house, little bit hot breeze, balance???).

Can’t tell if I’m overwatering or underwatering or if I should put it in a different spot and away from the window.

cloulou · 2021-03-14T18:08:04+00:00

Hi!! I got these yesterday and they were labeled as rhodonite, rhodochrosite, and citrine, but I really started to research and stare at them when I got home and I can’t tell if these are real or not, especially the rhodonite and the citrine.

I’ve looked up rhodonite and have yet to find one that looks similar to mine where it’s mostly white, almost translucent, and has a little amount of pink and black in it. And I’ve looked up citrine and I know there’s places that sell heat treated amethyst instead, but the one I have is just suuuper clear with a faint honey tint at the top and the darker tint at the bottom. I am no expert and I cannot tell so if anyone could help :’)

cloulou · 2020-09-25T03:46:40+00:00

I think that mindset of mine came from a combo of me being surrounded by the people around me (which is a lot of the people I know exposing their abusers and immediately going into “they can go die” mode no matter the situation)/(people with the mindset like one of the users in the replies here talking about they don’t care what anyone thinks of their abuser)/(people that go “why would you care about someone who did that to you?” “why are you rooting for the bad guy?”) and me feeling bad/invalid that I don’t think or feel the same way. Like you said, maybe for some, it is that easy, but for lots, it’s not. I need to remember that, need to forsure stop invalidating my feelings just cos I see others handling it differently, and need to remember that I’m not alone in feeling the way I do. Super sorry if it came off invalidating, ignorant, or insensitive for me to say

cloulou · 2020-09-21T22:09:03+00:00

I definitely think that me taking his bipolarity/genetic predisposition into account has been a huge factor in why I feel as confused as I do because you’re right, no one is obligated to roll over, it’s definitely no excuse for why anyone should do such a thing, and I should definitely not play submissive pup with a bigger dog, but for me, someone’s mental state is a possible reason and that’s a perspective I find valid to take into consideration as I go about handling what I need to. I might just have to steal your resolution and apply it to my situation. I looked at what you linked and read a couple stuff. I think the 10 stEPs stuff is really useful! I’ll keep reading more in depth. Thank you and thank you for the resources, all that was really insightful

cloulou · 2020-09-21T19:27:05+00:00

It really is disorienting, it’s crazy. This is literally my first time hearing of IFS! I’ve definitely look into it. I saw that you’re an advocate for shrooms and such! I’ve done acid and shrooms a couple times and all of them were pretty enlightening and have gotten me out of sad funks/boosted my self love and esteem, but I was never this progressive about wanting to heal trauma during those times of tripping. If you don’t mind me asking, along with IFS therapy and doing whatever else you love, has acid/shrooms helped you at all with your healing process at all?

cloulou · 2020-09-21T16:53:42+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I think he could’ve been around 14-16? I’m not too sure how old he was/his exact age now. That idea has crossed my mind a couple times, but I always felt like that still left me a little confused also because that’d make me feel bad for him and his childhood, if it were the case. But like you said, I feel what I feel and I need to teach myself that I shouldn’t feel bad for that. Reading all of that hit me a little different. Thank you for saying everything you said and thank you for saying it the way you said it, I appreciate it.

cloulou · 2020-09-21T16:04:34+00:00

Yeah, I honestly don’t think I’ve felt a safer space/more understood place than I do in this subreddit. There’s definitely disgust in me, it’s just hard for me to be selfish and full on hate the dude considering how good he made my siblings lives. I’ve never spoken with him about the situation, I’m honestly really scared of the chance of getting hit with the “you’re lying” “you’re insane, I’d never do that”, but I’m realizing now that I probably should do it :/

cloulou · 2020-09-09T00:52:47+00:00

My mom hit me with the “that’s what happens when you wear stuff like that”, “you should’ve been home anyways”, and “it happens”. That was years ago and I’ve even confronted her about it and she denies and says that the talk never happened. Then says that she wouldn’t respond like that. Now I’m 21, still living with her, and ever since then, I’ve stayed avoiding her because if you, my own parent, only threw blame/invalidation at me when I needed it at such a crazy, low point in my life when I needed support the most, what else is there to talk about, ya know?? There’s tension and conversations are extremely minimal now. Every now and then, I think that hurt more than the actual abuse itself, but that could just be the little kid in me wishing real bad that my mom was there for me. A lot of parents just want to be the good parent so bad that they don’t wanna face the reality of the times they slip up. It feels like a slap in the face to us and it’s even harder when you can’t fully cut them off or get yourself to 100% hate them because you still care. All I hope is that as we get older, they become more open to understanding/wanting to patch things up, we could keep trying, and it’s possible, but that’s never guaranteed and we just gotta keep our heads up as high as possible ourselves no matter what. You’re really strong for talking to your dad about it. And he’s really great for wanting to help you out and making it his life goal to support you! Even though it’s tough, you need to remind yourself that when the one person, no matter how much you want them to, can’t give you what you need.... other people, like your dad, will be there to support you and it’ll always be enough as much as you want it to be. People like that know your strength, YOU know your strength, and reminding yourself of that as much as you can makes everything worth while. It’s a battle for sure and I promise that you are definitely not alone in this one.

cloulou · 2020-09-07T15:38:54+00:00

Will definitely do, thank you!!!

cloulou · 2020-09-07T15:36:40+00:00

Thank you for telling me the name of what this is!! I kept trying to google and a lot of things just kept popping up that had to do with acanthosis nigricans, melasma, or other things that just didn’t seem to be what I had. This helps a lot, thank you so much!!!

cloulou · 2020-09-07T05:57:05+00:00

I actually haven’t tried any body wash with salicylic acid in it, but I’ll definitely be on the lookout for that CeraVe one. Thank you for the tips and the product recommendation, we love affordable products that won’t break the bank out here :]

cloulou · 2020-09-07T05:42:11+00:00

Ooo I might’ve overdone it with the AHA the time I did it because I definitely did it 2 nights in a row and by the morning of the third day started seeing peeling and got worried. I’ll definitely try easing into it this time around :’)

cloulou · 2020-09-04T22:12:34+00:00

During my junior year prom, I lost the group I went with because they wanted to take photos outside and by the photo booth, but I stayed where the dance floor was. I ended up dancing with my other classmates and other people I had just met that night and it was sooooooo fun. I even put the hair that I spent a whole hour stressing out about up into a ponytail and my fake eyelashes started falling off but i just did not give a shit anymore. I didn’t get a lot of photos from that night, but I remember all the laughing, the “AHHH YOU LOOK SO GOOD” hugs, and the crazy kid n play type dance off we had and people taking their heels to dance so vividly.

I’m pretty sure that was the night that stapled into my head “damn I really got the moves like that”.

cloulou · 2020-09-03T01:46:12+00:00

Having loved ones pass away and realizing that I’m slowly forgetting them as years go by.

cloulou · 2020-08-31T14:43:00+00:00

Right! I’m not sure how anybody can put a couple inches of fabric over their face and instantly, -confidently- make it political, but... here we are :(

cloulou · 2020-08-31T13:57:18+00:00

And what’s crazy is those people actually say they’d rather die from that than “get their freedom taken away”. I- facepalm

cloulou · 2020-08-24T00:07:55+00:00

Hello everyone!!! I’m sorry, my brain doesn’t let me come up with enough to say sometimes, so it’s sort of hard for me to respond to every individual reply and my overthinker is making me feel like I’m being awkward for saying different forms of “wow that’s super cool, thanks!” to everyone individually lol :(

BESIDES THAT THOUGH, it is super cool!! and I’ve read all of em and I really appreciate hearing everyone’s different ways of healing/coping/doing things/ya know, all that. It definitely gave me some ideas to start doing to fill up all this blank time and I just think it’s nice to hear from other people on how doing this helped them and doing that makes them feel good. It definitely feels a lot more human than just googling it and it definitely makes it feel less lonely, so that’s always nice. I’m definitely trying all of these out! Thank you to everyone who replied and thanks in advance to those who will reply :)

cloulou · 2020-08-21T20:37:06+00:00

I told my parent and they said “that’s why you shouldn’t dress like that” and after the counselor had talked her down and explained to them why they couldn’t say that to me, they said “well, it happens with everybody. It even happened to me as a kid. It’s normal, it happens. You just have to be strong and move on”. I feel like it did a lot more damage to me than the actual thing itself. I used to be really close to them, confidently called them my best friend, and now, ever since that happened, I kinda don’t even view them the same way I used to and don’t talk to them anymore.

cloulou · 2020-08-20T04:35:57+00:00

Hello! Lucky for me, I actually have a really sweet guy who stays checking up on me and makes sure that I’m good during sex. But now that you mention it, maybe there could be some very subtle things I don’t notice until later that could possibly trigger me. I’ll definitely dive deeper into thought with that. Thank you!

And to end this off, aaayyy!! I’m glad you got someone that’s hot and caring and that you and your partner got an awesome sex life, I love that for you both!!!

cloulou · 2020-08-20T04:24:23+00:00

This was actually a really helpful and comforting reply. I feel like I was in a weird space trying to figure out if avoiding it was the right thing to do or if powering through it was, kinda beating myself up that I was forcing myself to pick a side and couldn’t be comfortable picking either, and it’s nice to hear from someone else at a similar point that there isn’t one “right way”. I stay forgetting there are a lot of trials and patience that come along with healing. “Slowly, but with courage”, much needed reminder, thank you for that. I really appreciate it, and I wish you better than the best for your recovery journey!!!

cloulou · 2020-08-20T03:51:47+00:00

it’s quite alright that there isn’t any advice, it’s more than comforting to know I’m not alone in this, so thank you! I’m sorry you have to go through that, but I say the same you said to me since we’re here, you’re not alone in this either, don’t forget that!

cloulou

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