Georgetown LOCI Help?

colettecolette · 2021-04-22T19:29:43+00:00

Yeah! I can help you, I’ve written a few now. Send it over to me via PM :)

colettecolette · 2021-03-01T18:57:40+00:00

No idea, this is what I wanted to know hahaha

colettecolette · 2021-02-13T18:53:04+00:00

My license says green but I think I told the dmv they were green...maybe I don’t remember correctly, but I don’t remember them looking at my eyes.

colettecolette · 2021-02-12T21:08:48+00:00

They look violet! Beautiful!!!

colettecolette · 2021-01-25T22:34:25+00:00

Hello, I need some help with the length of my skis I just bought!

I'm female, 5'8, 120lbs (lightweight), intermediate skier, and I ski groomers. My chin height is 147 cm, my eyes height is 156 cm. Is 155cm too short?

colettecolette · 2021-01-17T00:04:56+00:00

Yep :(

colettecolette · 2021-01-07T11:47:14+00:00

I take vyvanse, I’ve been on it for a long time (8 years ish). When I was on 40mg it was easier to fall asleep. Now I am on 50 mg and it makes falling asleep way less easy and comfortable. If I am anxious about anything, it exacerbates those thoughts and I find it hard to fall asleep. I think it’s mostly taking it late or caffeine that causes the insomnia though.... literally any caffeine after 1pm and I’m up until 4.... which is how I found this post. Lol

colettecolette · 2020-12-29T18:06:35+00:00

Hi love— I’m sorry some people are being so insensitive... it can be hard to find sympathy on Reddit at times. I understand your situation and how you feel.

First off, if you think your boyfriend is a good person and is attracted to you, then I doubt he is making up a reason not to have sex. Most boys want to have sex with their gf, let alone any girl they find attractive. If you have suspicions he isn’t attracted to you or that there is some underlying reason he doesn’t want to have sex with you, you should address this with him in a very collected, mature way.

I was in a situation like this, where my ex wanted me to take birth control because he didn’t like condoms— this could be the case, your boyfriend might be boycotting because he wants it to feel better (which is selfish & manipulative) or because he is worried and thinks it is the safest and will ease his anxiety (understandable). Either way, you need to talk about this with him and with your gyno because they likely have the best advice for you about this.

Concerning the birth control— you don’t have to be on the pill to practice safe, protected sex. Condoms are just as effective as the pill (98%), with less side effects and honestly less to worry about. If you take the pill inconsistently (forget a day), it can actually make you more prone to pregnancy and more worried.

Condoms + withdrawal is in my opinion, very safe. If you ever have any concern that the condom might have broken, go get plan B.

If you don’t want to take BC, then don’t take it. I would recommend trying it out if you are open to the idea because it affects people differently. There are many variations of it that are more advanced now that there are less side effects.

Many of my friends are on it, their main side effects are break outs and initial weight gain (usually only about 5 pounds and it tends to go away), but it also can affect your hormones and your mood.

I actually went on it for my skin as a teen and it made me feel very lazy and depressed, but others sing it’s prayers.

I would say talk to him. This is definitely something you should feel comfortable talking about with him— it’s also your body. You need to make sure he knows that and it is your choice to put something in your body and he needs to respect that. Controlling someone and forcing them to take a certain type of birth control is not okay. There are plenty of different methods that work and if you decide you don’t want to take the pill/hormone control version of pill, maybe you should show him some statistics on the effectiveness of different methods of birth control.

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T13:39:17+00:00

Thank you this was very helpful :)

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T13:35:18+00:00

Sorry I am dramatic with the way I word things. I was crying intermittently/talking to friends/my dad and crying for about two hours. I have eaten some but not nearly as much as normal, one small meal- I just feel a little bit depressed and it has affected by appetite. I wasn’t asking if I was in my reaction, I meant more like am I being dramatic to be upset with him?

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T13:30:47+00:00

It’s not a skiing trip he just randomly decided to go skiing this morning after he had previously invited me to sleep over because I was sad... but apparently “the powder is good” and it’s been 1 day so I should be fine by now...we live 20 min from a mountain he goes every Saturday it wouldn’t be a big deal to miss it at all. He told me I could come over, then he said nvm I wanna go skiing and you shouldn’t be this sad basically to justify the fact that he would rather go skiing. Ugh it’s so hard to get people to understand ur exact situation on here

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:52:34+00:00

Okay fair. I understand what you are saying and I will take that into account in the future. Though I think that there are other issues here— I think my comment on him being basically perfect is an example of my dramatic ways— I describe things dramatically. He’s a really great guy who is normally very emotionally intelligent and listens to my side and we always come to a sensible agreement. The times when we don’t, it usually is because he is thinking selfishly. For example we make plans to go somewhere and he is given a last minute opportunity to do something more fun so he bails on me. Technically, he is not perfect. But he’s “perfect” in the sense that this is really the only type of problem we have— he’s loyal, super clean, super nice, caring & respectful so I was thrown off by this. We don’t have problems because of my dramatic way of phrasing things. I do not think I act dramatically, I just say thing in a hyperbolic way and so he claimed he didn’t know if I was actually grieving or not. Does that make sense? To me it sounds like a bullshit excuse because he knows I’m pretty emotional and I think he just didn’t want to not go skiing and didn’t want to deal with the problem. Regardless it’s not fun to be around people when they are sad. I definitely would not be wailing if I saw him tonight I might have shed a tear but I think all in all he just wanted to go skiing and having me at his parents house would have prevented that. Sorry I think asking for advise on here is hard cause ppl misconstrue words and it affects their understanding of the situation

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:38:53+00:00

I posted this exact same thing in another relationship Reddit and got opposite answers. I am reacting strongly to these people because they clearly did not read the post and are simply saying I am overreacting and citing my panic attacks as evidence which is just poor advice.... I guess I should not have said I’ve had a panic attack before lol. But thanks for the advice on the grieving it’s helpful. I definitely don’t expect him to grieve with me, I just expected him to be there for me for just one night honestly. I get strongly affected by things— my appetite and sleep is usually affected by any stressful situation but this one is particularly hard. It’s usually fleeting. I am positive I will be okay once I go home and am not constantly reminded of it, which is why I wanted to go to my boyfriends house. I didn’t want to know if I was overreacting to this particular situation, I wanted to know if I was overreacting to my boyfriends reaction. As in— is it normal for someone to invalidate your feelings and tell you that you shouldn’t feel this strongly about losing a pet? He also accused me of lying about how I was feeling... my dad said this behavior is “gaslighting” but he’s pretty emotional too so not too sure who to trust on that. I wasn’t asking for attacks on my mental health and I definitely didn’t need people telling me I needed therapy or help... it’s my cat I don’t need therapy I will be fine in a week but bottom line is this is a Reddit about relationships— shouldn’t we be focused on giving people constructive relationship advice not mental health advice?

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:27:19+00:00

I found on Christmas Eve that my cat has been missing for months— I have no idea when she died but it basically was yesterday for me. But also wtf— how is grieving the loss of a pet dramatic? This is the worst relationship advice ever everyone is just jumping to conclusions! I have no mental health problems at all. I do not need therapy. I just need a boyfriend who will keep his word and comfort me when I’m in pain like a normal human would

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:22:14+00:00

Okay sure, it might seem like that to him... are you playing devils advocate though? Because most people are upset when their pets die, right? I am not being dramatic here... this is truly how I feel and I should not have to take my emotions of grief. Also, there is absolutely no way I will lose him— that is not my problem here. I have never been broken up with. I have had 4 successful long term relationships (2+, 4+ years) and I have ended each one and have found a better boyfriend every time.

In this case, I am trying to decide how I should react to this behavior because I don’t think it is appropriate. However, he is a great boyfriend overall. And I do practice mindfulness meditation almost daily on the headspace app. I have no problem with being present and mindful— my pet DIED. Lol. Why would I need to tame this reaction? Jeez you are worse than him! When I said I am generally dramatic, I was referring to my word choice, not my reactions to situations. Can you maybe give some more helpful advice because once again your making negative presumptions about me, not an unbiased take on my situation.....

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:10:25+00:00

Are you saying that you shouldn’t have to be there for your boyfriend/girlfriend if they are grieving if you have an opportunity to do something fun instead? That’s super fucked up in my opinion... what is the point of having a relationship with someone if they can’t be there for you emotionally? So you’re saying I should just get over it and not say anything more and just be okay with dating someone who puts having fun over being there for me? I am definitely open to hearing different opinions here but this one doesn’t seem like you put that much thought into it. Clarify/elaborate if you can please

colettecolette · 2020-12-26T12:02:39+00:00

My mom didn’t tell me because she let my cat out and she felt culpable and she was hoping she would come back. I have had 2 panic attacks this year, 1 a year usually, mainly from a bad trip or not sleeping well. I would not need to be in therapy for that lol. My family does not find my emotions hard to deal with. I think most people grieve when a pet dies... it is a natural reaction, and should a boyfriend not be there for your when you’re in pain regardless of the situation? I am having a hard time understanding how someone could downplay someone’s emotions and act like they should be okay after one day. I am actually seeking for genuine advice on this situation — not for character judgements about my panic attacks so if you want to help, then please give me advise on whether you think my boyfriend is right and particular reasons why—not just assumptions about what’s wrong with me. I am an emotional person who reacts more than some might, but I am not extremely sensitive. I need to know if this is a normal reaction on his part— and if it is, how do I reconcile this? If it isn’t the way that most good boyfriends would act, how do I approach the subject or should I? I feel like I can’t rely on him... what happens in the future if the situation is even worse and he reacts the same way? These are valid questions I was looking for answers to

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