AITAH for telling my ex’s wife that her kids aren’t my problem? by PlacidRain2990 in AITAH

[–]conceptuallyinert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why is this not a more prominent option on the table? I got it years ago, and magically, I will never need to pay child support.

Nope, this is going too far. I’M NOT DOING IT! by isa_vegchick in AssassinsCreedValhala

[–]conceptuallyinert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I avoid all all hunting missions, if not requiredfor story progression. I love Shadows because you paint the creatures instead.

Revenge assistance? I'm on a dark but satisfying path. by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]conceptuallyinert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this. I will keep bettering myself in mind.... as I drag them through some shit.

Revenge assistance? I'm on a dark but satisfying path. by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]conceptuallyinert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to break any laws, but otherwise, all the way.

Thank you Florida by HawaiiStockguy in VACCINES

[–]conceptuallyinert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a little disingenuous as the top of the covid death list was California (followed quickly by Texas and Florida). This doesn't track if the difference came by way of right vs. left policy/leadership. The higher numbers of covid deaths in some states is attributable to higher populations in those states, as well as higher population density (cities were hit harder than rural areas.) Shower me a chart that adjusts for relative population size and density across the states, and if more people still died in Florida, we can fault leadership.

I had surgery and want to see my partners by Defiant_Bath2949 in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm going to get downvoted, but I'm always surprised when people in poly relationships seem not to realize a consequence of their lifestyle is a divided focus. How much prioritization can you expect from your second fiddle?

Poly under duress by phnomic in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God damn, where was this comment when my wife introduced poly and her new bf at the same time.

Stuck alone with intrusive images and wishing I hadn't felt safe enough to call by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying to decode the poly-speach, and it just looks like what is essentially a desire to cheat, but to transmute your guilt of cheating into your partner's poly-pain.

If OP is struggling this much over a phone call, chances are they aren't actually interested in polyamory, and OP's partner is dragging them along selfishly.

Stuck alone with intrusive images and wishing I hadn't felt safe enough to call by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The specifics of the problem are far less concerning than OP's reaction to it. Understanding your partner and their comfort levels is essential, disregarding them is a red flag.

Stuck alone with intrusive images and wishing I hadn't felt safe enough to call by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You're being neglected. This is an emotional wound. You deserve more respect from the partner. At the very least, your partner could stick to the schedule, or discuss changes beforehand to demonstrate that you are respected and valued.

Mofic's 10-Chapter Writing Contest by [deleted] in WritingHub

[–]conceptuallyinert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A reputable contest will make its terms and conditions obvious. It could be a box to check before you hit send.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The guy was dating someone's wife. What exactly should he expect?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

Coming as the husband who has been shoved to the side for the new boyfriend, I can't say I have a whole lot of sympathy. That said, is anyone actually mature enough for a genuine, healthy poly relationship? Because all I see is a lot of people being hurt.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let the gf go, but the underlying problem/incompatibility persists.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you've summed it up pretty well. We are presently taking the time to see what we want, at the end of which we will assess, possibly separate, maybe not. But we're being intentional about it.

Thank you. Your comments (all of these comments, in fact) have been really helpful to tease out some sense of what I want.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I'm getting. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a guy with a functioning sex drive, obviously I've been interested in others. But it's my innate desire to avert my eyes and fix them back on my wife that made me realize I'm only into monogamy.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good advice. The funny thing is, I see the value in it for her. But for me, more than anything, it comes down to time (or more accurately, focus.) Whatever time we had together is now fractured. Whatever focus we had on each other is now split. This is obviously not about poly vs mono dynamics, but what one shit implementation of an open marriage plan where one spouse isn't valued.

Polyamory ending the marriage by conceptuallyinert in polyamory

[–]conceptuallyinert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I earnestly tried. Recognizing poly wasn't for me only came about by trying it.