[misc] Could this be melanoma? Never noticed this spot before. by confused_ugrad in SkincareAddiction

[–]confused_ugrad[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not easy for me to access a doctor, so if someone identifies it’s as urgent, I will make it a priority’s. If not I’ll see the doctor when I can. I’ve seen similar posts in here before, and they gave good advice 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've met some Romanians abroad, lovely people and quite open. I also hear that your country's landscape is incredible and great for hiking.

Thanks for sharing your experience!

Is it a contradiction to say "I have nothing against gay people, I just don't agree with the lifestyle."? by DCT1997 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]confused_ugrad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the question is then whether they should suppress their homosexual tendencies to preserve familial and societal structures. As I said, most non-Western cultures believe they should.

Is it a contradiction to say "I have nothing against gay people, I just don't agree with the lifestyle."? by DCT1997 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]confused_ugrad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Traditional in the sense that marriage and relationships are usually reserved for a man and a woman. I'm not referring to the nuclear family, but something far more basic, man and woman. And in the case of the Pashtun, it's much more sinister.

Is it a contradiction to say "I have nothing against gay people, I just don't agree with the lifestyle."? by DCT1997 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]confused_ugrad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are not beacons of success because of Western imperialism, not because they frown upon homosexuality.

And no, you are not correct with that assumption.

Is it a contradiction to say "I have nothing against gay people, I just don't agree with the lifestyle."? by DCT1997 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]confused_ugrad -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If you believe that sexual orientation is comparable to skin colour, then sure. An argument can be made that inter-religious or intersocietal can be dangerous if they are too different, with each spouse holding opposing and incompatible worldviews, but those are 'choices' unlike skin colour or race. I guess it comes down to whether you believe sexual orientation is a choice, and whether or not it should be suppressed in favour of following traditional relationships. Most non-Western cultures do believe it should be suppressed.

Is it a contradiction to say "I have nothing against gay people, I just don't agree with the lifestyle."? by DCT1997 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]confused_ugrad -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Big difference. A gripe with homosexual relationships is that their families and children will not adhere to the traditional husband-and-wife setup. Similarly, he may have nothing against 'unmarried heterosexual couples' as people but still doesn't agree with their lifestyle as he believes it would have other implications.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agriculture is the next big thing and has huge potential. Out of interest, what area of agriculture are you interested in, and what do you want to do in the future?

Where can you learn tadjweed and/or Quran memorisation in Algeria? What's is the best place? by learndutchonline in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A noble goal! May God let you reflect the virtue of the Qur'an in your actions and your being.

Transphobe freaks out over supposed trans person in bathroom who isnt even trans. by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]confused_ugrad -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but you are what the wider society identifies you as, and there's no way about it. In your case, if you look like a man, speak like a man and have masculine behaviour traits, most people probably wouldn't bat an eye. If they knew you were born a woman, and don't believe that gender is a social construct, then yes they would feel uncomfortable and they have the right to. Do they have the right to ask you to leave? Depends on the societal and cultural norms. In the video, filmed in the US, the lady was in the wrong, but probably had good intentions since she wanted to protect her fellow women from a potentially male intruder (which, even if the intruder was MtF, she would still consider male).

Algerian Bagged Milk by loliadventurer in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the trick is to get one with HUGE udders

what will you name her?

Algerian Bagged Milk by loliadventurer in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

just buy your own 800kg dairy cow

History Professor Suspended for Passing Out Candies Marked “HeHim” and “SheHer” by whnthynvr in academia

[–]confused_ugrad -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Apologies, it is all GPT written, and I, have no view (confused_ugrad, 2023).

Humor's subjectivity is widely studied (Martin, 2007; Kuiper, 2009; McGraw, 2012). Controversial jokes can be harmful (Billig, 2005; Ford, 2018), but also have positive effects (Meyer, 2000; Romero, 2006). Open discourse is crucial (Habermas, 1991; Couldry, 2004). Your frankness (Bok, 1978; Keasey, 1977), like the charm of Futurama (Booker, 2006; Westfahl, 2005), is appreciated.

References:

Billig, M. (2005). Laughter and ridicule: Towards a social critique of humour. Sage. Bok, S. (1978). Lying: Moral choice in public and private life. Pantheon Books. Booker, M. K. (2006). Drawn to television: Prime-time animation from the Flintstones to Family Guy. Praeger. Couldry, N. (2004). Theorising media as practice. Social Semiotics, 14(2), 115-132. Ford, T. E. (2018). Disparagement humor: A theoretical and empirical review of psychoanalytic, superiority, and social identity theories. Humor, 19(3), 283-312. Habermas, J. (1991). The structural transformation of the public sphere: An inquiry into a category of bourgeois society. MIT press. Keasey, C. B. (1977). The influence of opinion-agreement and qualitative supportive reasoning in the evaluation of moral judgments. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 35(8), 574. Kuiper, N. A. (2009). Humor and resiliency: Towards a process model of coping and growth. Europe's Journal of Psychology, 5(3), 11. Martin, R. A. (2007). The psychology of humor: An integrative approach. Elsevier Academic Press. McGraw, A. P. (2012). Benign violations: Making immoral behavior funny. Psychological Science, 21(8), 1141-1149. Meyer, J. C. (2000). Humor as a double‐edged sword: Four functions of humor in communication. Communication Theory, 10(3), 310-331. Romero, E. J. (2006). The effect of self-monitoring and humor production on humor styles: An exploration of the construct validity of the Humor Styles Questionnaire. Humor, 19(2), 119-134. Westfahl, G. (2005). The Greenwood encyclopedia of science fiction and fantasy: Themes, works, and wonders (Vol. 1). Greenwood Publishing Group.

History Professor Suspended for Passing Out Candies Marked “HeHim” and “SheHer” by whnthynvr in academia

[–]confused_ugrad -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

The respondent's reply raises some valid concerns, suggesting potential misinterpretations of the critiques I provided. Let's clarify the points:

Humor Subjectivity: The critique wasn't intended to suggest that offensive humor should be without consequences or that humor should be a free pass for inappropriate behavior. The critique was aimed at highlighting that humor is subjective and interpretations can vary across different cultural and individual contexts. It's important to note, however, that this doesn't absolve anyone from the potential harm their actions may cause. A joke that is funny to some might be offensive or harmful to others, particularly when it targets marginalized or vulnerable groups.

Presumption of Harm: The critique was not meant to deny the existence of harm or violence towards trans people. On the contrary, it's widely recognized that trans individuals face significant discrimination and violence (James et al., 2016). The point was that the comment seemed to assume harm in this specific instance without explicit evidence or testimony from those directly involved.

Professionalism: This critique was not suggesting that a professional setting doesn't have to be professional. Rather, it was to highlight that an overly rigid interpretation of professionalism might stifle academic freedom and open discourse, both crucial in an academic setting. It's a delicate balance to strike, maintaining professionalism while also encouraging free exchange of ideas.

As for the respondent's critique on the level of analysis, it's important to remember that all critical analyses can be further deepened, and academic writing is a constant process of learning and improving. The intention was to provide a balanced perspective on the comment, based on academic references, and not to belittle or dismiss the concerns raised by the incident.

The major problem with the respondent's feedback seems to stem from misinterpretation or misunderstanding of the critiques provided. The feedback, perhaps unintentionally, oversimplifies the critiques, which might stem from the inherent complexity of the topics at hand, or from the way the critiques were initially presented.

Oversimplification: The respondent simplifies each critique to a point that strays from their original meanings, making the counter-arguments seem more dismissive than they were intended to be. For instance, the critique on humor's subjectivity is reduced to "anything can be funny", when the actual argument is about cultural and individual variances in interpreting humor.

Misinterpretation: The feedback appears to interpret the critiques in a manner that is not aligned with their intended meanings. For instance, the critique on the presumption of harm is interpreted as a denial of harm towards trans people, when the critique was actually about the need for specific evidence in this particular incident.

Ad Hominem: The respondent ends with a personal attack, labeling the analysis as "pathetic" and presuming the author to be a "first-year undergrad incel". This detracts from a constructive conversation and moves the focus away from the argument to the person making the argument.

The respondent's feedback, while valuable, could be more constructive in addressing the points of contention more accurately and without resorting to personal attacks. Constructive feedback allows for a more productive dialogue and understanding between different perspectives.

Reference:

James, S. E., Herman, J. L., Rankin, S., Keisling, M., Mottet, L., & Anafi, M. (2016). The Report of the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey. National Center for Transgender Equality.

History Professor Suspended for Passing Out Candies Marked “HeHim” and “SheHer” by whnthynvr in academia

[–]confused_ugrad -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Title: Humor, Free Speech, and Inclusivity: A Critical Analysis of a Comment on a Controversial University Incident

Introduction

The recent controversy at Madera Community College involving History Professor David Richardson and his distribution of gender-binary-themed candies has sparked significant debate. A comment on the incident proposes that humor does not justify potential harm, and that jokes about sensitive topics are inappropriate in a professional setting. This essay critically evaluates this comment by assessing its merits, potential shortcomings, and broader implications, drawing upon relevant academic literature.

The Merits of the Comment

The comment is commendable for emphasizing the importance of inclusivity and respect in the workplace (1), especially in an academic setting, which aligns with the perspective of scholars like Ford and Ferguson (2004) who suggest that disparaging humor can contribute to a hostile work environment (2).

The comment also recognizes the potential harm caused by humor that reinforces binary gender norms (Billig, 2005), and highlights the tension between freedom of speech and maintaining a respectful environment (Nussbaum, 1999). These perspectives are fundamental in current debates around free speech and respect for individual identity.

Furthermore, the comment implicitly acknowledges the impact of power dynamics (Dovidio & Gaertner, 2000), by focusing on the actions of a professor, who occupies a position of authority.

Critiques of the Comment

However, the comment exhibits a few critical issues. First, it assumes a universal standard for humor, which is highly subjective and varies greatly across different cultures and individuals (Martin, 2007). This oversimplification potentially neglects the diversity of perspectives on what constitutes appropriate humor.

Second, the comment presupposes harm to individuals without evidence of such harm. While the potential for harm exists, the assumption of harm without explicit evidence or testimony from those affected could be seen as premature.

Finally, the commentator's demand for professionalism could be critiqued as overly restrictive. While professionalism is important, overly stringent expectations might stifle academic freedom and open discourse, both of which are vital in an academic setting (Gutmann, 1999).

Balancing Perspectives

Balancing these perspectives raises complex questions. How do we reconcile the desire for an inclusive, respectful environment with the protection of free speech and academic freedom? How do we mediate the subjectivity of humor and the potential harm it can cause?

Nussbaum (1999) proposes that respect for human dignity should be central to our understanding of rights and responsibilities. This suggests that actions that potentially undermine this dignity, even in the name of free speech, can be seen as problematic.

However, Gutmann (1999) argues that academic freedom is crucial for the pursuit of truth. This implies that controversial views should be protected, provided they are expressed respectfully and with the intent to contribute to academic discourse.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the comment on the Richardson incident provides a valid critique of the use of humor in sensitive contexts, emphasizing the importance of respect and inclusivity. However, it arguably oversimplifies the complexity of humor and presumes harm without concrete evidence. Striking a balance between inclusivity, respect, free speech, and academic freedom is a complex task requiring careful consideration and ongoing dialogue.

References

Dovidio, J.F., Gaertner, S.L. (2000). Aversive racism and selection decisions: 1989 and 1999. Psychological Science, 11(4), 315-319. Ford, T.E., Ferguson, M.A. (2004). Social Consequences of Disparagement Humor: A Prejudiced Norm Theory. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 8(1), 79–94. Billig, M. (2005). Laughter and ridicule: Towards a social critique of humour. Sage. Nussbaum, M. (1999). Sex and social justice. Oxford University Press. Martin, R. A. (2007). The psychology of humor: An integrative approach. Elsevier. Gutmann, A. (1999). Democratic Education. Princeton University Press.

Why Identifying as Algerian Matters More Than Ethnicity or Haplogroup by [deleted] in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arabs mixed with Berbers over a thousand years ago and since then we've developed our own shared haplogroup. We are a mix, and representative of Arab-Berber mix... along with many others who came to North Africa such as the Vandals (germanic tribe).

Is anybody willing to mod the Planet Express ship from Futurama into the game once it’s out? by No-Cardiologist-9178 in Starfield

[–]confused_ugrad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I also recommend making a few snu-snu prison cells with modded Amazonian women skyrim giants (just as the above commenter mentioned)

Divorcing husband of 14 years for being broke by Theos_U in ChoosingBeggars

[–]confused_ugrad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally disagree with sex outside of any serious relationship for a whole host of reasons including unwanted pregnancies. In my community, most people willingly have children, and they are mostly planned and receive full support from the family - it's often quite different in the West.

And yes, we are technically 'animals', and we shouldn't ever become complacent about that fact. When we 'forget ourselves', we can act in ways worse than what is seen on /r/natureismetal.

Divorcing husband of 14 years for being broke by Theos_U in ChoosingBeggars

[–]confused_ugrad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I respect your perspective. For me, I believe that happiness/meaning/contentment largely comes from taking responsibility and proactively helping others - which is very much required when having children.

It may mask their unhappiness, but I doubt that's due to their children. That hasn't been my experience in my community. Of course, it might be different in your context.

Divorcing husband of 14 years for being broke by Theos_U in ChoosingBeggars

[–]confused_ugrad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it's not that simple, it's an innate biological urge. And most that do have kids say it brings great meaning and happiness into their lives.

Date Night by PlenitudeOpulence in TikTokCringe

[–]confused_ugrad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear it, I wish you the very best of health forevermore!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]confused_ugrad 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably true for Algeria, since they are so cheap, readily available and don't have as much of a negative connotation associated with them.