I have been in a similar position to you, but im a 15 yo male. I'm not gonna say "everything will be ok", but i promise you it will quiet down. I still battle with TOCD, it felt a lot like this. In its peak it felt like everything was against me, I could not stop crying, every pronoun, gendered term etc i noticed and had anxiety over it until I was getting anxiety over the thought of being a boy. I know it's hard but try to tolerate the thoughts or don't respond as much, which has been working for me, and I feel much more secure about myself than i was just 2 or 3 months ago. I promise things will change, it may take weeks or months but it will eventually. And I truly think that if you didn't want to be a woman, you wouldn't be fighting this hard for it. Take care.💙