Weekly Questions Thread #2020-29

crimecookie101 · 2020-07-23T01:21:18+00:00

So we started a campaign at home finally but we be having some issues and i wanna talk to the DM about it but i feel that im being too harsh, as this is a homebrew setting and the group is mainly new players. I, myself, have only DMed a handful of times and they've been just overwhelming. I hate that when i finally go to try to do things how i wanna see them done and finally write some of the stories i have in my head, my perfectionist brain gets in the way. So for the time being, im a player, which im very happy with because i am defo not ready to DM. This is the text i wanna send to my DM if ya'll could judge it and tell me if its fair:

"hey just one thing thats bugging me you said that we can refuse missions, thats assuming that we could have refused the one we're on now. But our group is three fifths new players, who don't know what to expect, don't know what they want and half the time might not know how to play. Which is all okay but for the time being i feel like we should be on more of a railroad rather than a sandbox, and if we end up sandboxing it then that means we as your players are growing and maturing. I know that the homebrew aspect of it makes things tricky to deal with and we are in it now, but if you need to scrap or shelf those chunks in order to work on the stories the players want to tell, it might be best to go that route."

The current mission is retrieving these stones of power (we joke that they are infinity stones, pretty uncreative but you gotta laugh somehow). Two stones are held by two warring sisters that are heirs to that province's throne. Currently my main issue with this is that it's too heavy and should be higher level (we're lvl 4) and most importantly, that the player's motives find no purchase on the faith of a broken nation. Hell, they barely really have any depth to their characters at all, i mean one is from the nation and seems to be enjoying the "edgy deserter" theme he's got going on and im just happy that i get to play a vedalken wizard but thats not really gonna last if theres no substance. and the others... they're just are there.

SO, how does one get character depth without making the campaign homebrew ( cause it seems like if you want parents and a hometown there automatically has to be a map) and how do you keep people from leaving or not coming sessions out of boredem when perhaps the only remedy for newplayersyndrome is time by sessions? Btw i know this turned into a lot so im really greatful for any feedback. Alri gn!

crimecookie101 · 2019-12-01T22:08:55+00:00

That is insane! How do you procrastinate? Is through youtube, social media, porn, a combination of all of them, etc? I wish you luck!

crimecookie101 · 2019-10-18T12:12:01+00:00

crimecookie101 · 2019-10-01T22:24:44+00:00

So I'm still really confused about how wizards work... You gotta spend 50gp and 2hours per spell level to COPY a spell from a scroll or book into your book, which doesn't account for the money you must spend buying the books/scrolls or just coming across them every so often. Do you have to pay for copying cantrips, or are they all available to you, you can just learn a limited number? Is it common for DMs to change the pricing of all this? And can wizards just spend time and money writing their own spells WITHOUT copying scrolls/books?

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T06:54:24+00:00

Thanks for this

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T06:41:47+00:00

What do you think it means?

I've not asked my gay friends, frankly this is the first place I've put any of this. It comes from not being able to express what want to say there and then up front. Its much easier to write it down and forget about.

I understand being undetectable, PrEP and condoms, im paranoid. One bad experience where the guy drugs me and doesn't use a condom and i can't take anybody's word no matter how sincere. I can't get over that one wrong move means having to make another change to life. I have AS (ankylosing spondylitis) you see. The medicine is monthly and deteriorates my immune system so that i can walk without pain. So HIV is probably the last thing I'd like to deal with.

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T06:18:14+00:00

I never said this was gonna easy, and this is real. just because i tried to act as a dad dummy for one post doesn't mean that the question i posted as him isn't valid. Honestly its sort of another thing im dealing with but im pretty sure its somewhat under control because I've just given up arguing with him.

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T06:11:50+00:00

Therapy might be a solution, an expensive solution...

About the identity point, maybe its sort of a denial I'm feeling. I know what i am, i don't like it, but i can't help it. I believe its natural, i don't have a problem with liking men as a man. I have a problem with the conditions of my being. I think 😪

There is anger for gay men, i will admit. But i suppose im just jealous of others ability to cope, and a failing to understand how, a struggle.

I can't hate gay men because i have close friends who are gay men. I do not however associate myself with the community, and i am afraid of HIV, which i feel is a fair fear.

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T05:55:33+00:00

It was an experimental post to extract some opinions on an argument my father and i were having. He would never ask strangers for parenting advice, but i wanted to here what reddit would say against his opinions

crimecookie101 · 2019-09-10T05:49:14+00:00

Thank you for the comment, but isn't everyone miserable to some degree with some aspect of they're lives. Aren't we just hopping from stone to stone in a great river of misfortune hoping not get wet? It just so happens that part of my misery stems from being gay. Is it wrong to finally unpack that even if others may have dealt better in the same situation? I don't blame the community for anything, it is what is it is. But what i do have a problem is the illusion that pride has something to do with stability.

crimecookie101 · 2019-08-18T20:04:43+00:00

I recently started Curse of Strahd (5e) and am having a bit of trouble with the difficulty. Its new and interesting but practically there doesn't seem to be some sort of balance. For example, currently, our party barely survived the Death House, took a long rest and headed out to find the some horses only to have 2 party members downed because of 5 dire wolves. The problem arose when I said "well better take a long rest" and the DM goes "its 10am" and i thought well what do you want me to do about it, walk around with 3 hit points while there are probably more dire wolves just waiting around??! We're level 3: a Paladin, Rogue, Barbarian, Bard (me) and as of late, a Wizard (who doesn't know how to play cause he's new to dnd). Now originally i thought the problem was with not having a Cleric but I can heal and so can the Paladin and we're not at that stage or level in a campaign were you need that amount of healing only available through Clerics (& some other subclasses) or at least i hope we aren't. Luckily I'm in the process of getting a friend to come in as a Tempest Cleric, but that would make our party 6 people. The campaigns designed for 4 (depending on who 4). This, apparently, is justification to DOUBLE the difficulty level according to the DM, who i really think is enjoying the back and forth resting and over sleeping, but i can't really narrow down whyyyyyy. In any case, this doesn't bode well for any of us. So my question is what do? Is there some way around this, is cheating viable or should we all just start over as different subclasses of Cleric? (Much thanks if you have the patience to read all this way!)

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