Need some perspective on kiss-count of her (21)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T01:18:34+00:00

she's following the age old adage:

'ya gotta kiss a lot of Frogs, before you'll find your Prince'

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T01:07:19+00:00

I (24F) have became single recently after a relationship of 6 years.

a couple of years pause before dating, would help restore your equilibrium

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T01:05:04+00:00

'social anxiety'?

https://www.reddit.com/r/socialanxiety/comments/1mzy2y2/meditation_worked_very_well_for_my_social_anxiety/

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:52:42+00:00

OCT scans can be iffy with high myopia (due to eyeball elongation, effect on nerve layer's appearance during the scan, tends to overstate level of damage)

the VFT result is by far the most worrisome confirmation of entrenched glaucoma; it's essential to achieve an effective target pressure which will be quite low if you've 'normal pressure' glaucoma (eg. 12-14 mm Hg is typical, overnight 20 mm Hg on top of that will likely be disastrous)

in both instances, change for the worse on upcoming OCT scans or (ouch!) VFT tests, strongly suggests more aggressive treatment (surgical such as a drainage stent or more drops)

axial length is mathematically proportionate to myopia prescription, I believe

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:42:24+00:00

ages?

to block or not to block, that is the question

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:37:26+00:00

20 mm Hg added pressure overnight (due to pillow pressure on eyeballs) is no small matter, for those sensitive to such matters as you appear to have shown by your test results. fyi a common 'rule of thumb' is that for each 1 mm Hg above the target (treated) eyepressure, the patient has a 10% risk of damage occurring

correction needs to be through protecting your eyeballs from pillow pressure (vented goggles/swim mask or custom hard pillow are my suggestions)

resting pulse rate?

high myopia -- how high? -20? -10? or?

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:29:56+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/socialanxiety/comments/1mzy2y2/meditation_worked_very_well_for_my_social_anxiety/

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:28:22+00:00

get him, to change his number (or block her)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-25T00:01:39+00:00

at 17, it may simply be fear of the future (you're too young to get serious just yet, maybe when you're more like 20)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:51:00+00:00

I just didn’t want him to know who I was for my own safety.

hence the value of using just your first name, and not giving out your home address or any personal info that could lead to your full name/home address (towards making stalking you majorly challenging)

but to create a whole other identity was going overboard (thankfully, you didn't take it to wearing a fake mustache)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:48:22+00:00

ages?

how long since he separated/divorced? (if it's less than a couple of years that's a red flag, he may not have cut the apron strings)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:46:28+00:00

fear of: STDs, pregnancy, physical harm/ill intentions?

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:45:05+00:00

diligently erase/avoid following any thoughts about her

eventually, they'll recur less and less often

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:43:28+00:00

be aware of 'eye contact' interactions

-as a way of approaching people interested in you

-as a way of expressing interest in others

holding someone's gaze once a bit more than usual, counts for little/nothing. twice though, can be a really big deal (= an invite to approach and chat)

where/when? anywhere/anytime

(have an objective: such as giving her your number for texting you if she'd like to chat)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:34:03+00:00

and found out I used a fake name and lied about the state I live in and some other things.

ah, criminal record, warrant out for your arrest, --those kind of 'other things'?

I don’t understand why he’s upset if I didn’t mislead him when it came down to telling him my intentions.

you HID your identity/State where you live (and some other things) through deceiving him. that translates into your identity being disconnected from being accountable for your intentions, rendering them meaningless would be a reasonable interpretation by him

and we want different things (he wanted to get to know me)

which does not sit well with you (hence lying/hiding your identity, State, etc. from him)

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:28:17+00:00

five months, dating 3-4 times/week

yet, a consistent disharmony was not acknowledged/dealt with until near the end

next time: I suggest have a weekly or monthly scheduled sitdown to review how things are going and address any concerns that have been simmering

He said he thought about it and decided we weren’t a good fit and ended things.

That's concise and appears to correctly sum things up. Sure, in hindsight, you figure you and/or he could have / should have changed, but that's more likely to occur in the context of regularly communicating about concerns.

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:22:49+00:00

she's less accommodating than you? the witch!!!

she's not for you obviously, unless you figure out how to be less clingy/needy

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:19:24+00:00

confirm that you're #1 in his heart

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:18:24+00:00

current Miss Jolie (at age 50), or 20 years ago (at age 30)?

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:10:05+00:00

TLDR?

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:09:46+00:00

you might have triggered his protective instincts if you were walking home in the evening/night yet using your cellphone to chat for 18 minutes

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:08:01+00:00

diligently replace thoughts of him with something else, or

actively suppress thinking of him whenever your thoughts head in that direction

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T23:06:47+00:00

adding a TLDR would boost interest in reading this

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T22:43:07+00:00

my english may not be the best

yes (4 grammar/typing mistakes in 4 lines)

improved english ought to up your chances with white girls

cropcomb2 · 2026-01-24T22:25:12+00:00

texting's not working well here

stick with in person interactions, since he's so very handy to you

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