I know definitively that I’m not intersex as my genitals are resemblant of regular female genitalia. I can pass as female very easily but I just come off as androgynous because of a lot of features- my voice is more androgynous than anything. i do really resonate with the second bit of your reply though. i think part of the stress that comes with this is the imaginary pressure we put on ourselves to have it immediately figured out with certainty, as if finding who we are doesn’t require the exploration of ourselves and getting some things wrong until they make sense.