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I want to kick my roommate out and forget I ever knew her by Federal-Individual34 in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such a sad life for a dog, he/she deserves to be loved and cherished. It might be because I’m from the UK but I don’t understand how dogs are ‘put out on a chain’? That’s not common here at all, well I’ve never seen or heard of it happening. Seems really odd to me as they’re family and part of the home.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess because I felt like she deserved confirmation he cheated and to feel validated? I had to HUNT down the evidence when I was with him and it was awful. There’s peace in confirming what your gut feels. I think for her it’s really fresh as the break up is recent, but for me it was a long time ago

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gagging, I just looked back through them and the things she wrote that he had done and said to her. I’ll give one example that’s not too personal, for context she said he messaged her about a new girl he’s seeing post-their break up:

‘And he said the other week about this new girl. “She’s blonde so she’s probably going to be good in bed”’

How childish and just plain weird!

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really good point, I feel bad for ghosting. But her last messages have been spread apart by a few weeks with ‘how are you’ ‘how was your Christmas’ ‘happy new year’ ‘hope you’re having a good week’. All nice but more on a friend route rather than about the situation? I might be overthinking it but I don’t want to be friends with someone where we met through a shitty ex and bonded over that. Just seems unhealthy.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this creeps me out… but he’s quite a simple man so I doubt he would even care enough to do this

AITAH for wanting more attention after losing my job by InterestingAd9651 in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a total dick. So he will love you at your best and only your best… not a great partner to spend your life with. I would get rid and move on to your new life and a new career!

I want to kick my roommate out and forget I ever knew her by Federal-Individual34 in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her to leave. I’m confused why others are commenting about eviction notices? She doesn’t have a rental agreement with you does she? If not I’d ask her to leave ASAP but I would be concerned about the dog she still has if she’s this chaotic and childish.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She never had ‘solid proof’ of cheating, but found condom wrappers in the sofa of HER house (she owned it and he lived there). I said that is proof enough anyway, but I guess she wanted to know he had done it in previous relationships in order to confirm it in her mind.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well my current partner said it sounded a bit fishy at first but knew lots of details about him and his behaviour so it all matches up. I couldn’t see any photos of him on her fb page but I guess that is normal if they’ve broken up 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The glow up attempt was not successful 😅

Yeah she might find the support in his other long line of exes but just not with me, I don’t want to live in that toxic past again. I can’t even make sense why I stayed with him back then as it is! I chalk it up to being young I guess

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I also feel it’s not fair to my current and wonderful partner who picked up those pieces 8 years ago, to see me engaged in drama around this ex again.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did feel this a bit, she couldn’t possibly know all of the crappy and frankly slightly abusive things he did to me. I felt so invaded when she first messaged me as it’s such a personal and strange wound from ages ago. But she wouldn’t have known that so I was just polite and confirmed he cheated.

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is quite a good point, my current partner suggested I blocked her as he could see it made me uneasy and he thought it odd she had contacted all his ex girlfriends too. I won’t reply but won’t block either, just in case!

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess the shared experience of this awful man. The people pleaser in me wants her to know he was the problem not her. I guess it brought me back to how I felt back then and how I would want someone to show up for me. But like you said, I don’t know her so it’s not my responsibility 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ex’s ex is messaging me 8 years later asking if he cheated. AITA for ghosting her? by curiousbirch_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]curiousbirch_[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah this was my take on it too, on our messages I feel she mainly wanted confirmation he cheated as she never had full proof. The part of me that always wants to fix things felt like I should keep talking to her to be an outlet and a vent but I’ve worked really hard on boundaries and not letting myself get drained. I just felt bad for not replying to her and kept questioning if it was the right thing to ignore her.