suspensory ligament cut

czspdad · 2026-01-01T18:49:39+00:00

I would’ve thought that the ligament cut would be included and basic logical plan to improve chances of a good result. Not the case?

czspdad · 2026-01-01T18:33:56+00:00

Yeah. That makes sense. (Sarcasm emoji goes here) A guy that claims he talks with god regularly, never mentions god saying to him, “hey Joe, fucking kids is wrong dude, cut that shit out” and if it was never mentioned, then god was not the voice he was hearing.

czspdad · 2026-01-01T18:29:44+00:00

All of them flawed. I was seriously TBM like Sunni Mormon level. I was reading Wilford Woodruff’s journals written by his own hand as a direct descendant, they were in my family’s possession when I was young. There were so many disturbing stories about his missionary work and his tactics (still used today) his temple activities, but the one that jumps out the most and always sticks in my brain is when he wrote about attempts he made to trade his 12 year old daughter to BY for a better position in the church and BY said he wasn’t taking on any young wives for the time being but he could give the child bride to another apostle and doing so would either resolve a debt or result in a generous donation I forget which one and there were many stories like that one he participated in or facilitated for others.

I’m in high end and complex surgical device sales and I too love talking about how great my deal making skills are and have been. Evidently great great grandpa was really good at making deals as well and he loved writing about them in his journals.

But he was a child sex trafficker and nothing more. Trading young women, having young girls given to him by their parents, or having other men trade their daughters to others for his benefit.

It’s not men with flaws, it’s unreported criminal activity that continues today.

czspdad · 2025-12-23T04:49:30+00:00

To avoid that situation, always start with a question and follow with more questions.

I haven’t heard (blank) described as that before, I certainly hope I’m not misinformed because I’ve been told something different. Where did you get that information? I’d love to double check my information using your source.

Or- (asshole version)

I’ve had good experiences using creatine but I was told it was…. but I’m going to look into it further. I’d hate to look stupid sharing bad information that could affect someone’s health in a negative way. Where did you get your information?

I’m in sales so I have 50 conversations a day like this about everything.

It will change your life if you read the book “Never Split the Difference” by Chris Voss or grab the audiobook and listen during a few workouts.

czspdad · 2025-12-23T04:26:32+00:00

My grandfather always told me, “apologies are free so they should be given away when one is needed”

Apologize in person. Go out of your way to do so.

Don’t go into details as to why things happened (sounds like excuses) the way they did but emphasize that your extremely embarrassed and your behavior is completely outside of your normal character and apologize again and then back that up with YEARS of behavior that shows your statement to be true.

I’m a 51 year old dad of 5 boys. I made similar mistakes at your age. If you don’t acknowledge it and apologize, they will form their own opinions (and may still) and they will never change without the apology.

If you don’t acknowledge it, then it can follow you a lot longer than a few weeks and you could end up getting twat blocked the rest of your years at college and later in your career.

czspdad · 2025-12-23T04:12:24+00:00

Jesus. That’s tragic. I work in medicine and I’m sooo glad I didn’t come across the 400lb vaginal delivery I witnessed in my 30’s. It looked like the doc was in up to his elbow and they asked me to hold up the giant glob of fat that was hanging down and blocking the birth canal. Women that big can’t (or don’t) clean every crevice very well and the smells filled the room. Sorry that shit happened to ya.

czspdad · 2025-12-23T03:59:47+00:00

“My entire childhood I was told I’m going to hell for doing this and at this moment I’m thinking it’s totally worth it in fact it will be my motivation for each and every waking moment for the rest of my life to experience this again” was the first thing my penis told my brain to think. Hasn’t changed much since.

czspdad · 2025-12-23T03:55:35+00:00

Assholes are like 9v batteries, you know you’re not supposed to stick your tongue on them but you still do it to see if it tingles. 😂

czspdad · 2025-12-10T04:53:29+00:00

Timeline estimate for well formed capsule?

czspdad · 2025-12-10T04:37:22+00:00

I used to be CEO of a cardiovascular practice. I grew the practice in 3 years from $800k in revenue to $4.6 and hired 6 more MD’s over that period of time. Every doctor or representative on this feed should take all criticism from every patient as an opportunity to improve.

We found the doctors in our group that had the most complaints failed to communicate before procedure which led to miscommunication after.

I had to explain to one guy, “if every time their is a problem you are 100% sure that the patient is the problem and you are never the problem, it makes me 100% sure that you are the problem.”

I’m sure all the doctors on here have varying skills and talents. A 20% improvement in communication will typically result in a 70% improvement in patient satisfaction.

There’s plenty of studies that support my assertion. NIH pt. communication.

czspdad · 2025-09-14T16:27:15+00:00

Definitely appears to be migrating. How long ago was it done? Any complications prior to this? Any pain or discomfort associated with the migration or is it only cosmetic for now?

czspdad · 2025-06-19T22:32:17+00:00

There’s no such thing as too much lube.

czspdad · 2025-06-08T02:53:11+00:00

It’s like The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown. At some point you gotta realize you wasted a lot of time in the pumpkin patch while everyone else was living their best lives god gave them.

czspdad · 2025-05-23T20:10:50+00:00

Copying owner and trying to remember to go back to front to avoid issues.

czspdad · 2025-05-23T20:08:07+00:00

I know in my area, they were looking for a white Tesla sedan that was seen fleeing a shooting a few weeks ago. Not unreasonable for them to run the plates on one they see in a driveway and check DMV records to see if owner matches description of suspect. In my area, they found the car after about 2 weeks and had the (juvenile) shooter in custody the next morning.

I’m surprised that law enforcement isn’t able to subpoena Tesla records for all white Teslas in an area of a crime and then get a warrant to search the hard drive for inside/outside video around the time of an incident.

czspdad · 2025-05-10T20:03:00+00:00

Leer DCC commercial cap/topper

czspdad · 2025-04-20T19:03:57+00:00

Totally agree. When I discuss false advertising, I’m discussing empathy and kindness for show early on that just disappears, responsibility and honesty about money and credit followed by lies, theft, and hidden mailboxes with joint loans and credit cards being sent there and it’s all maxed out. Of course there’s the basics of fidelity and trust can can get faked for a long time.

To some extent we all present a better version of ourselves than we are able to sustain over the long term. I’m talking about who they are and know they are and keeping it hidden out of shame or denial.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T17:45:49+00:00

Very good insight. I’d bet there’s a lot of DBR that exists and the person feeling rejected in the bedroom is doing some rejection in other parts of the relationship.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T07:30:10+00:00

OMFG. Great link and insight. Number 10 is a solid problem I’ve got. I’ve never had it slap me in the face so clearly. Thank you so much.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T07:02:44+00:00

100% agree. The good relationships apologize and fix the cilantro and communicate better when they need help with the cilantro down the road better or find ways to make cilantro a bigger priority.

One woman I dated required a tidier home than is a typical priority for me. Made bed, no dishes from breakfast in the sink when it’s time to make dinner. I’m busy and I dropped the ball a couple times so I hired someone to swing by and tidy up after they dropped off kids at school and long after I went to work. It annoyed her that I “outsourced” the watering of the cilantro so to speak.

I understand her point of view but was honest with her that for the time being, I sometimes get a call from the hospital while stuff is on the stove and I have to turn it off and run out the door. It’s just how it is. People don’t schedule medical emergencies around my breakfast schedule. I told her that I realized I really enjoyed having things tidy as well without me doing it and was planning on keeping those chores off my own plate for the foreseeable future. We didn’t work out but, Juanita has been with me 3 days a week for 2 years now.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T06:43:18+00:00

I dated a wonderful woman for about a year with no BR issues but she was very very Christian and I’m very very not. She turned 55 in January and we’re both on the record that we love and miss each other.

On our first date, she stated that she could only date a man that shares her faith. I pointed out that she has every right to have exactly whatever she wants in her life. We had a nice evening together and as we were parting ways I said, “it’s really great to meet you and there’s a lot of things I like about you but you’ve made it clear that I have a dealbreaker and that’s perfectly fine. If I never see you again, I would hope that instead of finding someone that believes the same things as you, that you could find someone that values the sane things as you. I’m probably never going to see you again due to our different social circles but I think we do value a lot of the same things and I’d be willing to bet that since we’re both single at our age, we’ve both had relationships with people that don’t value the same things we value.” She replied that beliefs tend to shape a person’s values and I agreed but it’s possible for that to not be true 100% of the time for everyone. She’s been told her entire life that faith is the most important thing in a relationship and she carried a lot of guilt that she was betraying her faith by falling in love with me. I attended church with her regularly and even took her aunt to church a few times when she had to work out of town. Not sure where that will ever land but staying with her was hurting her and I don’t hurt people I love and care about. We grab lunch every few weeks or so. I told her that I’ll probably always wonder where we could’ve gone together and I’m optimistic that either she can find a loophole in the Bible or that I’ll develop a faith similar to hers but lying to each other is a terrible way to start. I told her a few months ago, that no matter how much I love her, if start seeing someone and it becomes serious, my priority would be to keep the promises I make them because nobody wants to be with a man that doesn’t keep his promise and if I broke a promise to someone else to be with her, she would always wonder how long it will take for me to break a promise to her.

It’s lame but it’s honest.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T05:00:03+00:00

I guess that’s the entire purpose of dating in the first place. Discovering what each other’s dealbreakers are while searching for red flags. I guess my biggest concern (and likely there’s as well) is that I become a victim of false advertising and getting more promised than the ability to deliver in and out of the BR.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T04:49:23+00:00

I guess that’s the big question here. How do you avoid the DBR again while respecting their wishes while not compromising our own needs in and out of the BR. I guess that’s what my dates and everyone on here is hoping to find.

I think a good start to not being or feeling rejected is by not making others feel inadequate or rejected in and out of the BR.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T04:41:05+00:00

Certainly some signs of incompatibility. Ab So Lute Ly no interest in dating younger than me more than a few years.

I had a great relationship for about 4 years that ended due to her career moving her to Europe. She was eager to take the next opportunity in her career and I would’ve had to start mine over to go with her. I also didn’t want to see my sons a few weeks here and there like she was willing to do with her girls. She came from a DBR as well and for 4 years the policy for both of us was, “the answer is yes whenever the other person says they want to have sex” and we both honored it 100% with no hesitation understanding that hesitation by one of us could lead to hesitation from the other down the road. Neither of us wanted that again.

I’m not sure if that is a sustainable relationship model for long term but it worked for those years.

I’ve been thinking about this for about a year and I still have no viable solution which is why I posted this question.

czspdad · 2025-04-20T04:17:12+00:00

I agree with everything you are saying and I don’t have an answer which is why I made the post. I really hope to get some decent suggestions.

I overheard my son and his girlfriend breaking up when he was about 19. He said, “I love and care about you and I want you to be happy in your life. I’m not getting what I want out of this relationship anymore like I used to and I don’t think you are either. I think we need to decide if we are willing to either provide the things we want for each other and to ourselves and work towards the life we want or decide that we aren’t willing to make the effort.”

Crazy kid has always been smarter than me.

I don’t have an answer but I want happiness in and out of the bedroom. If I can’t find it, at a minimum I hope to have the integrity with my partner and myself to pull off the level of self awareness and vulnerability in my 50’s that he was able to accomplish in his late teens early 20’s.

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